Abdelghafar

Sounds like a threat, but I'm not threatened. That is good advice to me. Cheers @Nahm.

I'm a 23 year old Egyptian national and an English Teacher. In my profession, I teach adults as well as young learners. This post is going to be about the former. I don't need to mention the sensitivity of getting laid in the middle east or within a social or professional communities. I believe that socialising and becoming an attractive leader is paramount for my personal life regardless of my circumstances. That's why I'm writing this post. I want an outside perspective on what I'm doing now and what to do in the future. I would love to get your input, @Leo Gura. I started working as an English Instructor for a year ago. During that time, I met a lot of women colleagues and students. I had a lot of practice with talking to women. I had a lot of pitfalls as well. They made me stronger. Through following Leo's advice on the forum and his videos, I'm always on the journey of being a high-value leader. My problem is not attracting women, but being attracted to them. Mostly, I hook women by my charm. They let me touch them, kiss them and tease them. But whenever I'm with them or have the opportunity to be with them, I just don't care. I ignore them. I focus more on myself or work, but I give them no attention. Some girls get disappointed and stop pursuing me and some keep at it, but I repel them. I know what you're thinking. I must be gay. In fact, I am bisexual. I'm attracted to both men and women. But I still don't care about pursuing men either, even though a few gay men hit on me. I'm confused. I don't know what I'm doing. I just don't care about being in a relationship with anyone. I approach men and women for practice. But I still don't care to go into any relationship at all. Honestly, I hate people. I hate them. I'm intolerant of them. I get bored of them easily. I get a lot of dark and evil thoughts about killing or harming them. Is this normal? should I go to a therapist? should this be in the dating and relationships subforum or serious emotional problems forum? Thank you. Feel free to share your thoughts.

Proactivity. It's a struggle, to be honest. But a valiant one.

@BlueOak You make a very strong argument. I like your way of thinking. Perhaps I can learn something here. Could you expand more on the quoted text? Because I agree with you. The hate I feel could be more complex in nature. And a lot of shades in between maybe present as you mentioned. But what could a man do with these emotions? regardless of the reasons for which they arise. I have an inkling on why they persist, as @Lyubov asserts: But what if cutting people from my life that I'm intolerant of results in isolation? Is the healthiest course of action here is to arm oneself of the belief that everyone acts out of their intentions to survive? Do you think it's healthier to try to forgive others for their actions but at the same time not being a doormat and tolerating them? Thank you @Lyubov and @BlueOak for sharing your thoughts.

Thank you for your words of advice. I appreciate it @bejapuskas. I guess I posted this here because i wanted to be heard by people whom I don't deal with in my country. Some of them may not be as open-minded. But you're right. it seems to me that I already knew the answer to to my question. I will listen to myself and be mindful.

@Knowledge Hoarder I agree. I should go to a professional before I kill someone. ? Thanks.

What does RSD stand for? @Leo Gura

This makes me feel unique about boosting my social skills through speaking to thousands of men and women by being an English Instructor. I swear, it has been majorly beneficial. Good luck to you, bud. @Illusory Self

Same here. But I got a job as an English Teacher after I graduated and boosted my social skills tremendously. It wasn't easy by the way. It was agonising. But that is what it takes to better yourself as I did. I changed my personality and made myself a leader out of a scoundrel. It's not too late. Good luck, buddy. P.S. I have no regrets. The things I did or have been done are in the past. I have the choice of learning from them and developing, rather than whinging about them.

What are your thoughts on this matter, @Leo Gura?

Amen to that!

LoL

I don't see psychopathy as a disease, despite how the rest of the world views this matter. In my opinion, psychopaths are human beings. They're just different from other human beings. Which is natural. Imagine if the whole world was the same, how boring and impractical would it be? Now, psychopathy is dangerous and inferior if they act nefariously towards people in extreme measures. Like killing or greviously maiming someone. But all of us have survivalist instincts that push us to be 'psychopathic'. Now, are we diseased for having these urges to survive? especially in worldly contexts where you have to be highly psychopathic to not starve and put clothes on your back? For example, being a provider in a third-world country. I guarentee you, from hands-on experience, that your survival as a Provider in these parts of the world is much higher in liklihood if you're a psychopath than trying to be a self-actualised person. Of course, this doesn't apply to all people in these countries. But applies to lots of them. Also, know that 'normal' people who are not considered psychopaths commit just as heinous crimes and acts as the worst psychopaths out there. You'll even find some psychopaths more decent than other people who are considered normies. But let me bottom-line this for you, No one is exempt from Devilry as long we live on this Earth. Except if you're a Zen Buddist Monk, Jesus or someone whose trying to be more conscious because they can. Some people, though, cannot afford the luxury of being more conscious. Because if they did, they'd be dead-meat.

I can't speak to that. This applies from a person-to-person basis. In other words, I don't recognise the scales or the percentages as relevant. However, in general terms, I have highly developed social skills and I've worked to develop them for a long time. Still do, by the way.

It doesn't work like that. Your personality is rooted from lots of variants. It really depends on who you are, where you were born, how your childhood and adulthood were or it could be biological. Maybe it's a combination of all of those too. For example, most of my whole life was stage blue programming and I got 4.4/5 for my Primary psychopathy scale. This is not just real in online testing, but in real life as well. Bear in mind, that there are different types of psychopaths and not all of them are the same.

Not everyone. I'm a Devil and I know it. At least I'm honest with myself.

Ban me.

Happy Birthday, my man.

Golden.

Close your eyes, take a deep breath and exhale. Let yourself escape reality momentarily. Feel that blissful silence take over. Then come back and face the music.

That's a breakthrough, good job man. I'm really happy for you.

Thanks for your insightful post @jerrypua

For me, listening to audiobooks is easier than reading because I've developed my listening skill over the years. But, I'm also starting to read more.

Man, that's a beautiful analogy. Many thanks.

Hi guys, I witnessed Leo say before, "The better the model, the bigger the problem". So, I wanted to create this topic for the reason of deeply discussing the upsides and the downsides of personality tests and models in general. My name is Abdelghafar, I'm 23 years old and I live in Egypt. I recently graduated from my 4-year college and I wanted to recount my experience with the personality models during that time and during my Job Hunting Journey. Since I had started university, a friend of mine introduced me to the MBTI model and I had learned about my personality type: INTJ. I started feeling so special and I became so attached to the mbti at the time, that I started twisting reality according to models like, The Five Factor Model, the MBTI, etc. I became obsessed with typing people around me and judging them by their four-letter-type and other attributes. Moreover, during my job search, I found out that companies recruit their potential employees by analyzing factors such as extroversion and introversion. Even though, I have an introverted nature, I posed as an extrovert in those tests fearing that I'd get rejected. I noticed that there was a major systemic issue with bending people to such narratives because, for example, introverts can develop high communication skills and extroverts can develop deep introspection. In this quest, I commenced following online communities and resources such as Psychology Junkie and Psychology Youtubers. I observed as those typology experts said how each and everyone of the 16 personalities lives their lives, what they love, what they hate, what they should do in certain situations, and so on. I said to myself, "What's the benefits of these models? and at what point does this become toxic and ideological?" It's true, these models possess great advantages of getting us to better understand ourselves and consider the existence and experience of others. Nevertheless, they can also be manipulative to the point where one can be trapped in its bubble and live their lives bound by its limitations. Hence, I started following Leo on the Forum and I saw him write something that hugely resonated with my take on models. I also found this new HBO Documentary Trailer about how such models are used at work and during social life. The trailer is a bit dramatic and overly-emphasizing the disadvantages of those models, but that's understandable due to marketing purposes. It's clear to me that only demonizing the models is myopic, but being iconoclastically critical about it is important to wake up and realize Holism (Watch Leo's recent video). So, what's your personal experience and thoughts on this subject? What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages of models in general? Have a great day.