PurpleTree

that's true, i've heard quite many women say they prefer to hang out with men because there are less problems, less jealousy etc. less fighting, it's easier. and when i worked with nurses for a while they often said that they are happy when a man or more men come into the team, it makes the team better and causes less fighting and bickering etc.

i don't think it's necessarily a bad thing just don't take the diagnosis too serious

hmmm don't know. what are the biggest boner kills known to man?

maybe she was drunk/tipsy and when she sobered up and thought about the night she was unsure so she said the friend thing but if you would have just proceeded the way you did before it probably would have worked out

Yea but that also goes for men. Many women for example say they want a sensitive guy or whatever, but they actually want a bad boy.

sounds like bs bring the guy who can be at two places here and i will test it, and we can test it for the whole forum. if it's true i'll believe it. also make sure that it's not just twins or triplets.

you are the king but you're also the beggar, the junkie, the whore, the thief and the saint

the thing is i'm a bit obsessive in my thinking pattern so when i know things like that, it can actually make me more uncomfortable around others you know similar to how people with tourettes really don't want to say the thing they say, they so much don't want to say it that they then have to yell it out at everybody.

i'm not against it. the west also had gnostics, witches and so on. but i've never seen a thing you said, so how could i believe it?. just because someone told you a guy appeared in two places in the 50s doesn't mean it's true. people talk all kinds of bs to make money, sell books, trick other people and so on.

That's a silly thing. For quite a few years i noticed it quite often that some/many street lights turn off and some turn on when i walk by. Have you noticed that too? Sometimes it feels like some kind of dark energy But then i think i'm probably just kind of attentive to see such things, so i just see it more than others but the lights are probably always going off and then on again.

hmmm great question. and also lovely answers. do you have any more info/sources/practices for the people pleasing stuff. i've read "not nice" which was decent

follow the white rabbit

i don't think so, i'm not really buying it

Most often with friends And also it's a small city, so when i go out alone i might meet someone that i know. If i go out alone and see women or a group of women and i'm alone, approaching them feels very creepy and needy, so i basically never do that only sometimes when i'm drunk If i go out alone and don't meet anybody that i know then i'll most likely go home. Also i've never really done pick-up all i'm doing is going out trying to have fun and see what happens, most often nothing happens though But i've watched a few rsd videos here and there. The thing is i'm a very moody/feeling type person, if i try to force myself to do stuff when i'm not in the mood then it just feels off for me and for others most likely too. Sometimes (often) i'm really low energy, so then i try to get my energy up and be funny etc. that often doesn't work though it'd probably be better to just accept the low energy on these days and work with that. I saw a video once of Tyler and he said when he used to be so happy when he approached anybody and looked at it as a win don't matter how it went. But i'm almost the opposite i'm usually hard on myself and always see the faults in everything i did. I rarely look at things as "wins" so i' trying to work on those types of things.

Do you push yourself to go out and meet people (probably mostly women) even if you don't feel like it? has anything good come out of pushing yourself on days you don't feel good/like going out at all? Or should you just go out when you totally feel like it and are more happy and in the "zone" etc.?

the thing is though he didn't want those women he was just playing a prank on them so if you don't want them, then you don't fear their rejection, which makes you automatically much more confident and non attached because they couldn't really do anything that hurts your ego

thanks wouldn't be very easy to go out everyday here as it's a smaller city and also wouldn't be possible with my work. or what exactly do you mean by going out, does even a short visit to a bar count? sometimes it feels effortless and then when it doesn't i'm really hard on myself why it's not i can go between being the life of the party on some nights (maybe that's a bit an overstatement) to not being able to relax and thus not having fun and barely being able to look people into the eyes on another night i know it's normal for people to have bad and good days/nights but that seems a bit extreme

it's funny a few yrs ago i was trying out some magic(k) "techniques" for some stuff that i went through, exams, court stuff etc. and one of the methods was to visualise your preferred outcome during an orgasm

that's entirely possible

f it not today it's also too cold outside hopefully next week today i'm searching for a good heist movie or something

That sounds horrible, wishing you the best

Actually sometimes i enjoy cleaning up too, especially while listening to an interview or podcast etc. but unfortunately i'm not enjoying it often enough so things can get a bit messy. (like my mind)

i love cooking just not washing dishes and cleaning up, god bless my dish washer

Yea me too mostly What's frustrating is that yesterday i felt good, kind of zen, happy, kind of confident and yesterday i told myself tomorrow (today) i'll go out And now today i want to go out because i can't next week, but extremely fatigued today and not feeling it at all. Then i start to obsess why i felt better yesterday and worse today like maybe i stayed to long in the sauna, maybe it's a dopamine issue, maybe i ate something wrong, maybe just chronic fatigue and so on. Also wanting to go out but not feeling it at all creates inner tension/unhappiness, if i'd say fuck it i'm staying home and watching a movie maybe then i'd be happy in my fatigued state but because i want to make progress i can't really accept the fatigue, feeling out of it and yea that creates unhappiness. aka having too high expectations for myself like i should be cool now, should be happy and go out and have fun and meet people.

that's cool. thanks for your answer. i've also had some very bad nights socialising though (even with just friends and cousins etc.) when i didn't feel like it and still went. just couldn't connect and was far too self conscious and uncomfortable etc. and not being able to accept that i'm not funny and social that day/night made feel even worse and it just spiraled down usually i try to not to plan things and just do the things when i feel like it but here going out is mostly on saturdays so when i feel bad on saturday another week is gone. but i've also warmed up after going with bad mood, fatigue etc. first, so i guess you can never really tell how it turns out.