Thestarguitarist14

Any woman who is conscious has their masculinity and femininity balanced. Same goes for guys. Eh, most women’s idea of love is twisted. Most girls are attached to their boyfriend and control them. And most women for sure have problems with men. If they did not, there would be no need for pick up. If two people are in love, notice that they don’t really hang out with their friends. They are often in a world of their own.

I mean yeah, men who are in touch with their feminine side usually will understand women more. The reason why more men are not is due to the constant shamming by stage red, purple and orange men. It’s kind of like how girls are shamed when they are young for being Tom boys. And yes, most men do not like women either. I am not denying that. You say women love men. Love is different from liking. And most people’s definition of love is control. Most women seek to control their men. When in reality they don’t appreciate their guy for who he is. They don’t care. Men do love women. The problem is that a lot of guys are left to their own devices when it comes to learning about them and get swallowed up. Some women are straight up predators who will suck you dry. BTW, I prefer hanging out with women over men any day. The works would be a more peaceful place if more women were in power. A lot less wars. Men are assholes. But the reason that they are is because they believe that they have to be in order to survive. And I will say that women prefer assholes to weak men.

The thing is that while women are more emotional, it tends to be more inwards. Not empathetic. At its worst these women are narcissists or borderlines. Basically women use emotions to navigate their way through life. While guys use logic. Which is why most guys don’t understand why women act like they do. The only women who understand men are women who are in touch with their masculine side and actually like men. Ever wonder why women prefer to hangout with their girlfriends rather than their boyfriends and husband? It is because most women do not like men.

Bingo. It seems like women just want men to be these feminized beings. Too bad they are not even attracted to that.

Btw, here is that crash I was talking about : @No Self Perhaps it comes from the mindset of the fans. I say that the majority of fans who watch sports watch it to be entertained (usually while drunk) and as a way to get into their egos. Like I had a friend who would watch sports with me and looking back, he was so egocentric about it. He only placed value on the athletes for their results. Nothing else. @Tim R I suppose that is the issue with mainstream sports. It is all about winning and crushing the competition. Especially the NFL. Though it is funny, the best athletes tend to have more of a mindset where they focus on bettering themselves and more or less manifest wins. @Vittorio Thatbis a good way to put it. I guess the blame falls mostly on the culture and the fans. Sports have become such a low conscious thing to watch. I used to talk to friends about it all the debate and debate on reddit. Once I let go of all that I realized how much of a waste of time and energy that was. And how it was dragging me down. It is much better to just watch for the love of the sport rather than get caught up in the egotistical bait that the sport provides. Like you says, at the end of the day, it’s just a game. None of it matters. The guy who won wins the race may be miserable and nobody knows it. The guy who finished 22nd may be the most happy fulfilled guy in the world.

It is because most women do not know what they want. They have no idea what they are actually attracted to. They have no idea what it takes to attract them.

Funny, the more you go inwards and love yourself, the less you look for things outside of yourself to feel good. It is because you don’t need anyone to give you love, approval or validation anymore. Thats the mother fucker about sex and relationships. The majority of people have so much baggage that they subconscious are projecting that whenever they go for those things. That is what being needy is. The best place is when you love yourself so much (which is attractive) and the woman is just an amplification of your self love.

First off I would like to say that I am not against relationships. What I am against is how dysfunctional that they have become. I have just noticed that most of the advice in this forum are pick up related. And while I was a pick up artist for nearly three years and it can be effective, it does not fix any of your real problems. Your real problems being your internal ones. It is funny how a lot of people always talk about them. No offense, but a lot of the time it’s women. But really it is attachment. Attachment to another person happens for many reasons. I would say a big one is because if our attachment styles. Take for instance the love addict and love avoidant dynamic. They hit it off right away because they fill that hole in each other. For the love addict it is the hole of needing someone to love. For the love avoidant it is having someone who needs them, but allows for them to be independent. But once the fantasy dies off, they start to clash, the love avoidant becomes well... avoidant and the love addict is like wtf. I know this has I have been a love avoidant for most of my life. These attachment styles come from childhood traumas. Like if you are a love addict, maybe your father touched you inappropriately or you weren’t picked up on time after school. If you’re a love avoidant maybe you were abandoned. Maybe you just never got the love from your parents that you deserved. See the issue here? You have an attachment style, you meet someone, you think it is love, but in fact it is simply your damage and their damage meeting head on. That is why it feels so magical. The majority of people are looking for love and acceptance. Yes, you can find a great love and I do believe that everyone will. The issue though is that you seek this from external forces. When in reality the issue is the relationship that you have with yourself. If you were able to love and accept yourself, just see how your life would change. You would date different people, have higher standards. You would not be attracted to narcissists. You will not stay in toxic relationships. You will set up stronger boundaries. But no, most people are like “waaaah! I want a girlfriend! I want a boyfriend! I don’t want to be lonely!” Well, the worst kind of loneliness is when you are lonely with other people. Attachment is when you won’t let go. Love is when you set someone free. Ever heard the saying “if you love someone, you let them go”? Turns out there is a lot of truth to that. So you keep reaching out externally to fill an internal need that you cannot fill yourself. Because you do not think that you are enough. Notice how that sounds like an addiction. Or on the flip slide, you try to act like you have no needs at all. So what do you do? Acknowledge your needs and met them on your own. How do you do that? By self love and self acceptance and having approval for yourself.

Damn, I guess that North America (except for maybe Canada ) is just that cutthroat.

The reason why people put up with bullishit is because of low self esteem. That comes from deep rooted beliefs of unworthiness and not being enough. As someone who has been a codependent and has attracted narcissists, I had a self love deficit. The more alone I got, there more I realized this and was able to heal. When you go inwards instead of outwards, you will see your issues truly are. Then you will no longer even be attracted to the same kind of people that you once were attracted to.

Eckart Tolle sat on a park bench for two years... Obviously the homeless man would have happy in the moment with water, food and shelter. But his issues are not solved. All I did was given him an external solution. There are internal reasons as to why he attracted that situation in the first place. And if he does not solve that, he will never find long last happiness or peace. I live in L.A. I moved out here at age 21 as an actor/filmmaker who played music. With a year of pick up under my belt. I lived a low level version of that sex rock and roll lifestyle. Women galore, any substance that I wanted. I look back at those times now and see how crazy and empty they were. What I am saying is that there is a much more fulfilling way to go about this. At the end of the day, we all do things because we desire to feel good. The problem is that we make that good feeling out to be conditional. When it does not have to be.

After doing some shamanic tapping to release some negativity I have found this to be true. My visualization sessions have become much more vivid and much more fun.

It’s not just about spirituality talented. Anyone can do the real work instead of reaching out for their needs to be met externally because they don’t feel like they can meet them internally. Most guys just want love anyway. Most women are not capable of giving it. Especially the women that you meet while doing pick up. Sooner or later, everyone learns that they can only depend on themselves for a constant source of love and happiness. Who said go full monk? That is hard. But I bet you (especially with the pandemic) that most of the guys who are complaining on this forum aren’t getting laid anyway. Why not make it easier? They eliminate their sexual neediness, which in turn would make it easier to get laid. The sad thing is that guys who are desperate for sex end up in this viscous cycle of staying desperate for sex. Eventually you have to not care about having sex. Not having sex does nothing harmful to you physically. Nothing at all. As for fulfilling their lower needs I just have to wonder what kind of message is that? We all have this animalistic desire for sex. But we also can all rise above it. How? Through meditation, yoga, shamanic tapping, shadow work, healing, the Sedona Method and etc. The problem is that most guys (can’t blame them, I was like that too) are only coNCE em about getting laid. They don’t even realize how empty and sorry their lives are.

You have to be okay with the fact that your family will take up most of your time. The mistake that people make is putting their family first. At the end of the day, you come first. The key is that anything you do had to benefit your family in some way. Meaning you need to bring your family into consideration with what actions you decide to take. A self actualized person makes a good partner and parent. That is for sure.

Self love and self acceptance. Healing. Shadow work. She is only looking for validation.

Fun is being in the present moment ad doing an activity for no reason other than the same if doing it.

To be fair, all humans are predators. We pray on our partners, we pray on our children. This is something that most people don’t want to admit. Women can be predators too. They are usually narcissists. The issue with pick up is that it never addresses the root cause. I get why as most pick up companies can’t just tell men “you don’t love yourself and need to love yourself first, then get the girl!” It gives you tools to mask your fear of lack. What most people call love is not love it is attachment.

Yeah, especially since he made a video about five years ago ranting against pick up. I believe he sees just how many guys on here are desperate for sex and it appears that he has had the quality relationships that he has desired so I think that is why his advice sounds very pick up artist like. I wish I had known that. To be fair, RSD talks about inner game and I have studied rsd a lot, actually have went to the live events (which are actually dope, they go well beyond pick up and more into self improvement). Most people have it backwards. They think that if they have a lot of sex or get into a relationship then they will be happy. You get happy first, then you have sex and get into the relationship. Then it’s icing on the cake. This also makes it easier to not be needy. As for porn, I have been looking into that a bit. I did not jerk off for months, got into a thing with a narcissistic woman, and relapsed. I have been observing my porn activity and breaking it down and porn is just a big self deception. Most people who watch a ton of porn are sad or bored. Thanks. I have just been noticing the amount of guys here who call themselves incels. It is so sad. And pick up never addresses the deep rooted causes. Only the symptoms.

Exactly. This is where I was coming from when I did pick up. I did not feel like I was enough and needed to hook up with women to feel it. Too bad it never made me feel like enough. Felt good for a day at best. It is funny how we go after plastic people who have nothing going for them. Bars are beginning to open back up here and I have considered going out to some. Then I had to ask myself “why? “ I don’t even drink anymore. Most of the people in there will not be vibrating at the same frequency as me. Funny, when people do that, they see that they should only be looking for people who are a match to them.

I have already said that I am not against relationships. In fact, I am not opposed to getting into one. It’s just that I have dealt with two narcissist back to back. You know why I did? It is because I did not love and respect myself enough, particularly the with the first narcissist. After I saw the same patterns with the second narcissist I shut that down quickly. I don’t think you are getting what I am saying. It is not the the sex and relationships that are the problem. It is the wanting approval from women that is the problem. This is something that I have had to face myself. Every guy does. I am not sure if it 100% goes away either. But what I am mature men have discovered is that there is no intrinsic value in sex or relationships (or anything external). Buddhism says it best, when you meditate more your love for humanity deepens and you see that relationships (just just romantic) bring drama so you steer away from them. Deep down none of that is true haha. If I met an amazing spiritual woman who was on my level I would settle down. But I live in L.A and have kissed a lot of frogs. LMAO, thirsty guys have no strength. They do take a lot of action and have some courage. But on the inside they are all kinds of messed. Unhealthy stage orange/achiever stage I can say that because I was one of them. You don’t need to tell me, I have been working on my sexual neediness lately. I already know what my issues are. It does not irritate me to see needy men on here. It makes me realize how pathetic most men are today. It is sad. I did not realize how bad it is. It is because everyone believes the narrative that society has sold us. That we need a relationship to be happy. Good thing for me my parents never impressed that on me. In fact, their toxic relationship did the exact opposite.

Watch that film. That is what Leo is talking about when he talks about porn with artistry. Though, that kind of porn does not exist anymore since porn went to digital.

Ever seen Boogie Nights?

It’s a visual novel, but song of Saya is amazing. Probably the most fucked up visual novel/video game ever. But the characters are very sympathetic and it really shows how people use love for evil: Another visual novel, Steins Gate. Probably one of the best anime shows that I have ever seen as well. This visual novel deals with free will versus determinism, different world lines existing all at once and time travel all the while being very entertaining and have great character development:

I have never heard of Matt Santoro.

I also want to add that a lot of guys go into pick up with the idea that they are broken. That they need to be fixed. That no one can love them for who they are. If these guys were able to live themselves first, then if they decided to do pick up, they would have an easier time of not seeking women’s approval.