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To do that we first must stop using these outdated relationship paradigms that create dysfunctional relationships.

You really have no choice.

@aurum I have been noticing just how toxic and low conscious the culture behind sports are. And how hollow pro sports can be. It is way more fulfilling to play them than to watch someone play them. @Dingo That is what I live about sports. They push you to be one the best version of yourself. You have to be constantly improving.

So, I am a big sports fan. Racing in particular. I used to race go karts and dirt cars. It was my childhood dream to win the Daytona 500. I actually ran a go kart race last month and dominated. Anyway, I am watching the NASCAR race at Talladega. Crazy ass track. 2.5 miles. The way the design of the track is allows for the cars to be wide open. Before they used to have to restrict the engines or they would go 245 mph. Now the hp is so low (used to be 859, now it’s 550) that they don’t need to do it. The cars run in a big pack and draft with each other all day long. Even bump drafting where they hit each other to move ahead. So it is mayhem. Fun as hell to watch. But this Sunday, like most race at Talladega and Daytona (seem deal) have multiple big crashes due to drivers being too aggressive going for the win. For example, there was a big crash where one guy went airborne into the wall and landed on top of another car. The guy who started the crash was pushing the car in front of him basically into a crash. When asked about it he said “that’s what it’s all about.” The guy who ended up winning is perhaps one of the most egotistical guys in the field. Only the guy who won two weeks ago probably has a bigger ego than him. I feel bad for all these athletes. They are all doing so much damage to their bodies. All for fortune, fame and trophies. It makes me think a bit. While when I watch sports I watch to get inspired by the athletes. Athletes are so disciplined and have great work ethics. But the majority of these guys are stuck in stage orange/achiever stage. In a way, you have to. If you become too green you will lose your competitive edge and be forced out. That is just the way it is. So, are sports actually good for society? Or do they get people to worship false idols and get too caught up in the idea of winners and losers?

It’s only okay when the person is abusive be it emotionally, mentally or physically. Or the person is a hardcore drug addict and won’t change. Or if there is low emotional attachment like a fling, or you just went on a date or two. Outside of that it is very immature to ghost someone. Shows that you are not mature enough to be in a relationship with anyone. Also is very damaging to the person who was ghosted.

The others that agree with you are living a fantasy as well. But you did not answer my questions.

I already agreed with you on the pick up part. But do you believe in Santa Claus? A lot of children do. You have not met all the children in the world who believe in Santa Claus. And are you in a deeply loving, committed relationship?

Here is the thing, no one will accept fantasy. Especially out in the West. You have to understand that what your idea of love is does not in fact exist. It is only a cognitive distortion of your own imagination.

I agree with your first statement. This forum is too directed towards pick up ideology. And I say that as a former PUA. But what you speak of a fair neverland. Nobody in the West is going to go for that. It is a fantasy. Sounds great. But it is not real.

This whole divine feminine thing is b.s. not the balancing masculine and feminine energy, men and women must do that. But there is no such thing as “divine femininity”. It is just women trying to balance the scales. Nothing is being balanced.

First off, your psychological projection is showing... He believes in twin flames. He just does not like the dynamic. He prefers soulmates. Says that they are easier than twin flames. The labels don’t mean shit. Any spiritual teacher worth their shit knows that. so That is why he loses credibility with me. Plus his presentation is over the top. He may be awake, but there are better teachers out there.

@Preety_India You live in India right? Because your way of thinking is very idealistic and no woman in the West (especially North America) thinks that way.

@Preety_India It appears as if you started this whole thread to achieve validation.

It is a good thing I don’t t give a damn what you think, mate.

I am not speaking of romantic love. That is a whole different subject. That is not unconditional either. Unconditional love means your love is limitless. It clearly is not. I never said it does not exist. I just said that no human is emanating it. And people who do show unconditional love do not have to speak of it.

You already test men. You just are not aware of it.

Do you really understand unconditional love??? Unconditional love is a state of being, not a state of mind. I repeat: Unconditional love is a state of being, not a state of mind. No one on earth is emanating unconditional love. Otherwise you would not have any problems. And everyone has problems. If you truly believe in unconditional love then you would have no issues with pick up.

Ha! Dude you have one Incredible ego. It does not matter what you think I am. It only matters what I think I am. I have already had my first awakening. You just cannot handle someone rocking your beliefs. Too bad.

@Preety_India It is not a pick up thing. Every woman does this. You say what you say, but subconsciously you desire the best man you can get. Nothing is wrong with that. So subconsciously you are going to test men to see if they are worth the effort. This is all instincts. This is very primitive human behavior. Men do this to other men two in friendships. We all desire the best that we can get.

All women do shit tests on men. It’s a subconscious thing. I get it though, they want to weed out the weak men.

That’s a good point. It is probably hard for him to tell if anyone is into him for who he is. Not for the movie star. Let me ask you, if you were a movie star and could get with the top models in the world everyday whenever, would you not want to do that? I don’t care who you are, every guy has this urge to get with the highest quality sexual mate that they possibly can get. I believe that is why some movie stars and rock stars have a hard time settling down.

To be fair, 99% of men if they could would get with a super model everyday of their lives. It’s just not an option for most guys. Why do you think that DiCaprio just bangs 22 year old models will never get married?

Selling magazines door to door.

Once I heard him Bitch about Twin Flames and how they suck he lost all credibility for me.

A woman who has t embraced her masculinity is not conscious. That’s not possible. Some hate men, would not say most of them. I’d say women have just as hard of a time finding a good man as men do finding a good woman. The only difference is that women tend to get into their own way more often. Not unhealthy at all. It’s called “the bubble love phase”. Friends can come and go. But a true love? That is a rarity.