SamC

I just discoverd him. What an gold mine!

@ivankiss Why do you belive that you care about this? Most people obviously don't.

I would say he yellow but I don't know.

I love your theory of everything

Where does this ego drive come from?

@intotheblack Notice how you label wanting to sleep with other people when you're in a relationship as evil and thus disowning it from yourself

@intotheblack Wait. Have I understood this right? Is this ^^ an example of the same rhetoric that men use on woman. That men should trancend their " devilry" while woman shouldn't trancend anything? ( That men are selfish and need to change and not woman becuase woman are the good guys) Or am I missing something?

Step 1 : Stop using the terms Alpha and Beta

Make up a plan when for when an ego backlash occurs. My plan is something like this: 1: Take a walk 2: Go meditate for fuck sake. I know you don´t feel like but just go do it 3: Lay in the bed in despair and just be in the depression-like feelings 4: Do whatever I feel like I want to do and need. in other words, make up a plan - try to be with your feelings and try to do stuff you normally do but at the same time, don´t be so hard on yourself. Maybe just relax and take a day off. If you " fuck up" - then let yourself fuck up and even more importantly - let yourself be okay that you´re not okay with fucking up. And go fucking meditate on it! ( if you can)

@Jon_Bundesen One thing that I have noticed is that I get a lot more motivation when I do something in some shape or form that aligns with my vision. As an example, right now I am studying something I am not passionate about in order to attend the education I want and because of that, I feel my motivation disappearing. Then, yesterday and today I decided to study psychology and personal development which I love and that then makes me motivated to study more in the things that I am less interested in but will get me closer to the life I want to have. So having a big vision is important, yes! But it´s also important to let yourself work on that vision/ that thing you enjoy. Have you taken Leo´s L.P course? If you haven´t you´re missing out big time.

@tatsumaru @tatsumaru Interesting! I interpret it differently. Disintegration is for me as an example linked to a more reductionistic approach which I generally connect to logic, reasoning, and masculinity while integration is more intuitive and right-brained ( feminine).

@tatsumaru Who know´s maybe it isn´t, maybe it is. All I know is that a lot of people argue for it to be the case ( David Deida for example). For me, it sounds plausible - because then intuition would be connected to the subconscious ( which is the divine feminine) and logic and reasoning would be connected to consciousness ( which is the divine masculine) What do you see consciousness as being in this case?

@tatsumaru If the feminie is connected with the truth, than the feminie should be ruthless in it's penetration of falsehood or in other words, totally expressive. The feminie energy might in other words act out and don't give a shit when it comes to being authentic and emotions. ( maybe like the Feeler types?) If this is the case, then conciousness ( masculinity) - which is the same thing as truth aswell is observing the feminine energy and taking it in, and in that allowing it to be, which could be seen as allowance instead of assertiveness. This could be the reason why the feminie is submissive in terms of sexual energy but maybe not in " all situations" because there is a " dance" where the two energies switch roles. The same goes for sex if you haven't noticed. I am paraphrasing here but Osho said something along the line that the key to having amazing sex is for the man to express his sexual desire implicitly and to make the womans desire be expressed explicitly. ( where she is doing the work, instead of him basically) So to answer your question. Feminity may be both submissive and expressive and masculinity may be both giving allowance + being assertive - depending on the situation and where in the dance you currently are.

It obviously wasn't that awsome for her. You probably came of as needy or lost attraction some other way

I didn't even know that there where old books? Do you know why he removed them?

JP is waging the same type of war against feminism that he believes feminism wages against masculinity ( himself) There are 2 premises that both sides fight for in this "war" like dynamic. The reason for this is because there is a split, within the collective ego and each individual ego in both groups, which either has disowned feminism ( spiral dynamics stage green) or " Men´s rights movement" ( spiral dynamics stage orange/ blue) 1: Both sides argue that the other side oppresses them 2: Both sides argue that it has a right to exist. 3: Both sides disown each other ----------------------------------------------------------------------- Both sides hate each other This is the case for both sides, in its relation to the outer world but also to their inner world. JP is in other words first and foremost waging this war in his mind - where he both represses his feminine side and also hates the other side for disowning him ( which his ego believes the feminine side wants to do). He can´t accept the thing that A) goes against his identity + threaten his survival and B) is trying to disown him, because then - this war will officially be lost and he will be disowned, repressed, and not loved himself.

@L-H-Z If I were you I would focus on trying to find ways and " reasons" to leave the country. One way to do that could be to focus on building your skills to create projects that are related to your life purpose and then use those projects + your education to find a job outside of Saudi Arabia. If you do that, the other challenges will become easier to solve. You can then when you have a job outside of Saudi Arabia, focus on actualizing your actual life purpose while at the same time gain skills for your life purpose ( if you land a job that is somewhat related to that LP). All of these could be good questions to ask and contemplate if you consider this approach: What is the theme of your LP? What is it about? What are some jobs that are related to this LP in some way?

@Julian gabriel Are you able to notice if you created this thread out of fear or love? Furthermore, did you get afraid that you wrote it out of fear when you read my question? When we're acting out of fear we shouldn't try to change that by not trying to do it, becuase that in itself is more fear on fear. I belive the key instead is to go after what you want and not care about fear in the sense that you shouldn't go around worrying over being driven by fear. This of course is especially the case when you feel fear. Trying to notice what drives you is many times fear driven aswell, and not trying to do it just adds to that fear. Don't be afraid to be afraid to be afraid

Me too! We need to raise awareness around this issue! #prayforthehotgrills

Ah, sorry. My bad@Karmadhi

Bro, that's your lens. Girl's are sooo much more insecure about their looks than guys, you have no idea. I know how it can feel like the reverse becuase woman can look so powerful and judging of you when you're insecure and not successful with them, but man - you have no idea how much girls obsess about their looks. I dare you to go ask them yourself! Am I right ladies? @Emerald @Etherial Cat @Preety_India + @alltheotherwomanreadingthis.

@Javfly33 Don't be to quick with your conclusions. Pick up is obviously to get laid and get good with girls, but man, this dude is onto something. He is talking about how to do pick up from a very holistic point of view.. than of course it is still survival, but why does that have to make it less spiritual. There is no duality between spirituality and survival. It's ultimately the same thing in a weird way. I agree with you but I belive it is more nuanced than that. I think it is possible to do pick up from a higher conciousness ground.

Here's a challenge for you!@StarStruck Search for feminism on YouTube and select the most outrages, toxic and man hating rant you can find. Than watch the video - but most importantly. Watch yourself. Observe you're reaction and when you feel like you want to punch the wall. Breath in to the resistance, hatred and anger. Notice how angry you get.. and than investigate why those emotions occur.

Low self esteem and a sense of being flawed. If you are insecure about your looks, you're insecure about other things aswell.

For sure man and I get that, but that's not the point. The point is that denouncing it tells you that you're denouncing a part of yourself and reality. Ask yourself. Why am I I triggerd by feminist extremists and not right wing incel extremists? The reason why we get triggered is because there is a wound there. The extremist feminists represent exactly what you feel but reversed. For you it's something like: " They say they are a victim, that I, as a man am the one who oppresses them but that's bullshit because I don't oppress them, I desperately want them. They are the one oppressing me, they are the one's not accepting my right to be. In other words - for you it feels like they A don't accept you and B gaslight that it is your fault, which comically enough is what you do to yourself all the time. You constantly tell yourself that you're not enough - that you're a victim becuase you yourself is defective BUT you experience that they are doing the same thing that you're scared of being... judging you as not enough. But guess what... they are only gaslighting themselves, just like you. The feminists and your own gaslighting is projected outwards because you or they can't handle that you yourself feel like you're oppressed so you switch focus and say that someone else is doing it which creates this endless cycle. What you see them doing to you, is the same thing you do to yourself. It's the same trauma meeting eachoter... Which means that in order to heal your trauma and relationship to yourself... you have to do it to them too ( which of course is counterintuitive) I say it again - you don't accept a part of yourself and at the same time gaslight that it is your own fault and that's the reason why you're triggered. Of course I am triggered by it but that only tells me that I have more work to do with accepting and loving them and myself ( that I don't fully understand and accept that part of reality) I want to punch my head against the computer everytime but that doesn't change SHIT. The point is to learn how to integrate the things that you get triggered by, because everything you denounce - is something you don't understand and love within yourself. I really feel you bro. We are in the same boat, but realize that them being wrong and stupied is not what triggeres you. You get triggered because there is a wound. Investigate and heal that wound, or suffer the consequences! @StarStruck