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Hmmm. Thank you! Why do you think this ambivalence exsist? @PepperBlossoms

Everything is imagined which means all your problems are imagined + your identity. That means you can be and do whatever you want. It's all infinite amounts of levels of conciousness so you can effectively step into a new reality by very simple means.. like meditation. This realization made me take life less seriously. Reality can change in a second, if you gain higher conciousness.

@ivankiss Amazing insights. This makes me think about this quote. "Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like children you will never enter the kingdom of God" - Jesus. It's also interesting that you say 3 forces and that the child is the creator becuase jesus is often referred to as the son of God and they also refer to 3 forces. The spirit, the father, and the son. Maybe the spirit is the feminine, the father is the masculine and the child is " jesus".. or in other words, maybe we all - as humans, that are created in " God's image" are the children. That would explain what christianity means by us being the childeren of God.. becuase we are that - the creator in our own world. The voice of pure potential and pure imagination - that was created in God's image. ( the father * masculine and the spirit ( the feminine - which together is one thing, the child).

What I love the most is the realziation of oneness, which is experienced through understanding something so deeply that you realize you are the the same thing as the thing you're trying to understand. When I experience sameness, I experience love.

I want to say daily meditation because it acts as a reset. Awarness alone is curative.

@aurum I really like this approach, becuase it's a very intuitive and in the moment way of going about it. The only thing I see as an obstacle to this is that I have very little experience with woman and because of that I struggle to relate to them and understand them which makes it hard for me calibrate to them intuitively. The male sexuality is so different compared to how men get attracted. It's still a mystery for me how it all works, although I have more understanding of it now then before Female sexuality and attraction is based on something else and it's very subtle. What just popped In my head is that I think I approach this the the wrong way. I intellectualize.. I don't go with the flow and follow my intuition. I should do that more. Maybe the solution ( intelectualisation) is the problem in this case. What do you think about this? Yeah awsome. I'll do that; just to get a better hunch of what my subconscious mind should look for.

This Is both meant for reflection, a way to seek advice and to help people who are on a similar pick up journy as I am. I went with 2 wingman for the first time ever to a club. Both where experienced and had very high laycounts. 1 of them had 100 + the other 60 +. My first reaction when I got into the club was to start approaching and I did.. and it went kinda well, especially with one girl. Here I quickly fucked up big time though. I tried to escalate by kissing her way to early. We only talked and bounced around for like 15 min without prioir physical escalation. Rockie mistake I know. Super fucking stupied I know, but suffering is the best teacher I guess. It's really embarrassing to share this honestly... I was super naive and foolish, enough tension hadn't been built up. I feel like the biggest idiot alive. Here is what I don't understand though. The guys I went out with said to wait til like 1 am to approach. In the beginning I didn't know that, so I didn't do that. Here comes the question. Are they correct? Should you do it in the beginning or later? Why? In the beginning it was atleast for me wayyyyy easier to approach and make the girls invested and then the more crowded it got, the harder and non reactive the girls became. Second question. What the fuck should you talk about when you approach them in the club? Like, A, you can barely hear them and B they just bounce around and get distracted so easily. What should you say to grasp their attention. Fuck man Game is haaard. Overall experience and conclusion: It's a huge difference to go out with wings. They tried to nudge me in the right direction. It was really good. I fucking hate clubs though!? it's loud, you can't hear shit and you hear weird random sounds all the time. It's really fun to meet a lot of girls though. It makes me motivated. In the beginning especially, I felt like a king. Like they got invested very easily. I honestly think that I benefit more in an environment where I can communicate more freely and where there is less stuff going on. Don't move to fast is the lesson for today. Any thoughts or advice that you have to fellow newbie? Thanks. @Leo Gura

@Gili Trawangan I am actually really privilaged in this regard. I have access to an ampartment in the central parts of Stockholm every weekend. My location that I have on here is our summer house that my family goes to every weekend. I have lived there during Corona so that's why I put that as my location. If I come in at stockholm university I will also get to live here alone during my university years. That's a warrior like mentality. I have tried doing daygame In Stockholm but I just went around for 2 hours being scared approaching. Respect man. Yeah this is key. My intuition tells me a combo is the best. One thing that I suck at is physical escalation which is easiest to practice during night game, yet on the other hand, during daygame I have a higher chance landing someone that is compatible with me and for that I need the ability to talk to girls in that context. Thanks man. Yeah, thanks for bringing awarness fo this. I need to think long term.

Thanks Leo!? @Leo Gura Also, any news on when the how to get laid series comes out? that will be a Game changer ( game pun intended).

Thanks man, I appreciate it. Yeah I tried daygame a bit before and I like it more, but it's pretty hard to find girls and it is even harder to muster up the courage to approach. How did you move past these obstacles? Maybe I still can do a lot of daygame but I just don't see the opportunities. Wingman in the day maybe is a good strategy, never tried that before.@Gili Trawangan

Yeah exactly, that's what happened. Yeah that's a much better question. The thing is that I thought It would be so casual becuase it was in a club that you could just go for it. I always hear my friends say, who I made out with her, and her and my neighbors fucking dog you get the point. I basically thought it wasn't that big of a deal and wasn't on the look out for those clear yes kiss me cues, which is stupied becuase it's painfully obvious that you should. I need to learn the social context better + learn to look out for the cues. I know I can Google or YouTube search this but do you have any good video that explains this?@aurum

Yeah I am or was, eventhough I let more loose after a while. I go into this 100% Sober aswell so it's hard, but I will definitely work on this. I actually believe I can become really good at this, if I get more comfortable. I am generally good at " letting lose" in other social contexts. It's so true what you're saying. If you really enjoy it becomes like a mirror and people see that and want to join. The same thing can be said about other contexts aswell. Energy never lie.. in this case it worked agaisnt me, my goal should be to work with the energy. How do you reccomend going about doing this? @Lyubov

@Leo Gura This means so much Leo! Thank you! What you gave me right there is exacly what I needed, propor expectations. It kinda felt like a total failure, not because it wasn't a useful experience - but because it felt like my result was unusual and bad for starting out. Thank you - this was gold.

During today's meditation I realized that everyone lives in different realities and that I almost jump back and forth between them all. It feels so scary that the world is so unstable and unpredictable. There is no stability at all. Maybe this is due to the fact that I haven't built my own worldview, but why should I do that when I know that it is false? ( not absolute truth, and therefor unstable aswell). Whatever I do it's unstable. I don't know, it's just makes me freak out. Anyone experienced something similar? Any tips on how to deal with this?

@Javfly33 For me it depends on what sort of flow I am in and with who. Sometimes I can be really quiet but many times I talk a lot. My problem is more that I am afraid of sounding like I have anxiety. Also, the worst part for me is honestly not interacting with people.. it's passing by people and walking where a lot of people are. God I hate it so much. I think the reason for this is that If I talk to them, I have more control over how they will percive me. I am pretty socially adept, and I am good at making people like me. If I am just passing by however, they are judging me and I can't do shit about it. I also notice that if I am in an environment where i can excell, I don't have that much anxiety at all. If I talk to spirtual people ( or about spirituality/ psychology), old people, and kids I am generally more comfortable. When they are my age and especially woman my brain basically believes I am about to die.

By realizing that your value is not based on anything except for the fact that you are who you are - and that that is what is ultimate love and makes you loved. Self-esteem in other words. When you become conscious of this you stop doing stuff to become, create or be something. Instead, you do, be and create whatever you choose, no matter what because that is what is infinite love. Who gets to decide what´s good and bad? no one, because it is all relative

@Leo Gura I am unbelievably grateful for this Leo! Thank you

What do you think your meeting with Cristy is for your spiritual development?

I have a really good relationship with my mother. She is amazing, very loving and understanding.

I would suggest coaching by healthy gamers. It would help you a lot and is fairly priced.

I sleep a lot, like easily 10 hours a night. Sometimes a wake up the first time at like 8 and feel pretty awake but then I just don´t go up and sleep for 2 more hours. Other times I sleep like 10 hours straight. How do I stop needing to sleep this much? I want to just wake up and be full of energy with like 6-8 hours of sleep, preferably less than that. what am I doing wrong? How do I change this? I am 20 years old.

Omg I love this so much Haha realize that the ego trick could be that you say it is an ego trip. I relate a lot. I realize that I for example am super stage yellow in my center of gravity yet super stage orange at the same time. It's almost like I am super unconcious yet super concious at the same time. I am in other words the most unconcious concious idiot XDXD I understand your confusion and frustration of not being able to peg yourself somewhere. You want to understand where you are at so that you can controll the world better, and therefor counterintuitively make a modell out of it not being a modell. It's very tricky. Just keep doing the work. You are so on the right track, you're doing great!

You two need to move on.

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yeah! It's a very heavy task though because it means that both parties must be willing to observe their own patterns and therefor also as a consequence of that understand the other point of view and how they are biased, and be humble enough to be honest to oneself about it. Furthermore I belive it is important to turn this humbleness either outwards or inwards depending on our style of trying to hold onto our identity. Some people are super skeptical about if other people are right ( and belive they are right) while others are skeptical about if they themselves are right ( belive that everyone else is right) which basically is the same thing but different manifestations of it. So if we want to move past this, I think we need to become aware of where we tend to lean towards and either turn our skepticism towards our skepticism of other people or towards our skepticism about ourselves.