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@Gili Trawangan I am actually really privilaged in this regard. I have access to an ampartment in the central parts of Stockholm every weekend. My location that I have on here is our summer house that my family goes to every weekend. I have lived there during Corona so that's why I put that as my location. If I come in at stockholm university I will also get to live here alone during my university years. That's a warrior like mentality. I have tried doing daygame In Stockholm but I just went around for 2 hours being scared approaching. Respect man. Yeah this is key. My intuition tells me a combo is the best. One thing that I suck at is physical escalation which is easiest to practice during night game, yet on the other hand, during daygame I have a higher chance landing someone that is compatible with me and for that I need the ability to talk to girls in that context. Thanks man. Yeah, thanks for bringing awarness fo this. I need to think long term.

Thanks Leo!? @Leo Gura Also, any news on when the how to get laid series comes out? that will be a Game changer ( game pun intended).

Thanks man, I appreciate it. Yeah I tried daygame a bit before and I like it more, but it's pretty hard to find girls and it is even harder to muster up the courage to approach. How did you move past these obstacles? Maybe I still can do a lot of daygame but I just don't see the opportunities. Wingman in the day maybe is a good strategy, never tried that before.@Gili Trawangan

Yeah exactly, that's what happened. Yeah that's a much better question. The thing is that I thought It would be so casual becuase it was in a club that you could just go for it. I always hear my friends say, who I made out with her, and her and my neighbors fucking dog you get the point. I basically thought it wasn't that big of a deal and wasn't on the look out for those clear yes kiss me cues, which is stupied becuase it's painfully obvious that you should. I need to learn the social context better + learn to look out for the cues. I know I can Google or YouTube search this but do you have any good video that explains this?@aurum

Yeah I am or was, eventhough I let more loose after a while. I go into this 100% Sober aswell so it's hard, but I will definitely work on this. I actually believe I can become really good at this, if I get more comfortable. I am generally good at " letting lose" in other social contexts. It's so true what you're saying. If you really enjoy it becomes like a mirror and people see that and want to join. The same thing can be said about other contexts aswell. Energy never lie.. in this case it worked agaisnt me, my goal should be to work with the energy. How do you reccomend going about doing this? @Lyubov

@Leo Gura This means so much Leo! Thank you! What you gave me right there is exacly what I needed, propor expectations. It kinda felt like a total failure, not because it wasn't a useful experience - but because it felt like my result was unusual and bad for starting out. Thank you - this was gold.

During today's meditation I realized that everyone lives in different realities and that I almost jump back and forth between them all. It feels so scary that the world is so unstable and unpredictable. There is no stability at all. Maybe this is due to the fact that I haven't built my own worldview, but why should I do that when I know that it is false? ( not absolute truth, and therefor unstable aswell). Whatever I do it's unstable. I don't know, it's just makes me freak out. Anyone experienced something similar? Any tips on how to deal with this?

@Javfly33 For me it depends on what sort of flow I am in and with who. Sometimes I can be really quiet but many times I talk a lot. My problem is more that I am afraid of sounding like I have anxiety. Also, the worst part for me is honestly not interacting with people.. it's passing by people and walking where a lot of people are. God I hate it so much. I think the reason for this is that If I talk to them, I have more control over how they will percive me. I am pretty socially adept, and I am good at making people like me. If I am just passing by however, they are judging me and I can't do shit about it. I also notice that if I am in an environment where i can excell, I don't have that much anxiety at all. If I talk to spirtual people ( or about spirituality/ psychology), old people, and kids I am generally more comfortable. When they are my age and especially woman my brain basically believes I am about to die.

By realizing that your value is not based on anything except for the fact that you are who you are - and that that is what is ultimate love and makes you loved. Self-esteem in other words. When you become conscious of this you stop doing stuff to become, create or be something. Instead, you do, be and create whatever you choose, no matter what because that is what is infinite love. Who gets to decide what´s good and bad? no one, because it is all relative

@Leo Gura I am unbelievably grateful for this Leo! Thank you

What do you think your meeting with Cristy is for your spiritual development?

I have a really good relationship with my mother. She is amazing, very loving and understanding.

I would suggest coaching by healthy gamers. It would help you a lot and is fairly priced.

I sleep a lot, like easily 10 hours a night. Sometimes a wake up the first time at like 8 and feel pretty awake but then I just don´t go up and sleep for 2 more hours. Other times I sleep like 10 hours straight. How do I stop needing to sleep this much? I want to just wake up and be full of energy with like 6-8 hours of sleep, preferably less than that. what am I doing wrong? How do I change this? I am 20 years old.

Omg I love this so much Haha realize that the ego trick could be that you say it is an ego trip. I relate a lot. I realize that I for example am super stage yellow in my center of gravity yet super stage orange at the same time. It's almost like I am super unconcious yet super concious at the same time. I am in other words the most unconcious concious idiot XDXD I understand your confusion and frustration of not being able to peg yourself somewhere. You want to understand where you are at so that you can controll the world better, and therefor counterintuitively make a modell out of it not being a modell. It's very tricky. Just keep doing the work. You are so on the right track, you're doing great!

You two need to move on.

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yeah! It's a very heavy task though because it means that both parties must be willing to observe their own patterns and therefor also as a consequence of that understand the other point of view and how they are biased, and be humble enough to be honest to oneself about it. Furthermore I belive it is important to turn this humbleness either outwards or inwards depending on our style of trying to hold onto our identity. Some people are super skeptical about if other people are right ( and belive they are right) while others are skeptical about if they themselves are right ( belive that everyone else is right) which basically is the same thing but different manifestations of it. So if we want to move past this, I think we need to become aware of where we tend to lean towards and either turn our skepticism towards our skepticism of other people or towards our skepticism about ourselves.

I honestly think that the way to heal It is counterintuitively to let it happen but let it happen consciously. We need more awarness of what is causing it/ the dynamic so that we more easily can observe ourselves when we do it and therefor also slowly heal. Awarness alone is curative.

@vizual Yeah true. What I am wondering however is if there are some studies or something that say that it's better to work shorter or longer blocks. Some talk a lot about pomadoro ( 25 min blocks) and how that is the best while others say that the best is to focus for 90 minutes instead. Doesn't it exist some sort research that suggests where one should lean towards?

@Gabith And here is where the counterintuitive principle comes in... You're not having problems with your masculine side.. you're having problems with your feminine side. I know this sounds like complete bullshit and I understand exactly how it sounds like but bare with me. The reason why you repell girls is not because you display feminine qualities... it's because you display toxic feminine qualities. What I mean by that is that you subcomunicate powerlessness, neediness and victimhood which furthermore subcomunicates that your masculine side ( See "Bully" on the picture) is criticizing, pushing and bullying your feminie side ( See "Victim" on the picture) That's why woman don't like neediness or when you put them on a pedestal. It signals that you right now don't have the capacity to take on and " own"/ provide containment for the girl because you don't even allow your own feminity to be owned. How the fuck are you going create a safe space for a girl to be in if you can't provide that for yourself first? I understand that you might feel like this is contradictory because of the fact that you see yourself as feminine and that you therefor are in touch with it your feminine side but trust me bro. That's not your femine side. That's your shadow femine side that is unintegretad and disowned... because guess what, I know you hate being feminine, and that's what is the problem. Don't take my words for what I am saying. Investigate it for yourself and see what you can come up with. Here are some good concepts to look up and learn more about. 1: Anima 2: Parts work. 3: Masculine containment

@LordFallWow man. That's so inspiring. One could say that I am where you once were. My story is basically that I've always struggled with low self esteem and suppressing my feminine side and therefor also struggled with girls. I am slowly but surely starting to trancend this now but I still have a lot of work ahead of me. Idk why man but it feels like you should help people with this somehow. ( this is my intuition talking). There is something there. Also, I know you're probably super busy but if you have 5 minutes to spare sometime I would love to pick your brain on this topic and how you where able to go beyond this. It would help me so so much on my journey in doing the same both for me and for others. Let me know what you think

@LordFall By observing what's happening within me. If you grasp that, you will understand what is happening in the outside world. It is the mind that is projecting upon reality - not the other way around. Mind sharing an example of this cycle in your own life? I am curious. (:

The question at it's core is, why did God create a world where woman suffer and men get to oppress woman. The answer to that is because suffering, disintegration and evil ultimately creates union and peace in the end. Suffering pushes us forward and forces us as a collective to integrate ourselves. It's an ingenious design. The same can be said regarding all other oppression and evil that mankind have created against itself. It exists so that we will move towards God - towards ourselves.

He is Yellow for sure