John Mitchell

I'm a 32 year old software developer living on my own. I never had a girlfriend and my life is pretty lonely. My parents always want me to move back in with them because of loneliness. Most of my social contact is with my parents, but even then I dont talk to them much. I'm always in my head. Do you think it would be a good idea to move back home?

Here is a classical trained psychotherapist who is also incorporating meditation/spirituality concepts trying to help gamers/incels/etc. on youtube.

@Parththakkar12 This is exactly how I feel, I feel like shit for never being in a relationship but I feel like I am not allowed to and its something I have to hide in society, especially around girls. Check this video out

@UDT I'm working out, i'm fit. Meditation, Yoga, Workouts every day. I'm now microdosing to try and deal with depression.

Yes im very well-off with lots of free time, social anxiety and depression

@ColeMC01 I don't, I consider myself average. I have no idea, there is just something about me that makes it Impossible for girls to see me in a sexual way, if I knew what it was I would fix it. But if I am totally honesf I'm not a good looking guy at all so that makes it hard of course, but I dont want to talk about myself like that its a slippery slope for me.

@ColeMC01 well said

@Jacob Morres lmao you really think starting a business or doing meditation is going outside social norms? Society would not exist if not for someone starting businesses, its not frowned upon at all. Meditation/Yoga is also mostly seen in a positive light, and even if you have fringe hobbies as long as you are not pushing it in other peoples faces most stuff is socially accepted. im not talking about not being into mainstream stuff, I'm talking about basic social contracts, like not being rude to strangers. Why not go on the street and start kicking people in the nuts? This is going against social norms and a healthy mind will almost not let you do it.

1-2 girls PER year is fucking insane, I would be more than content with that.

Life is not a movie. Notice how almost every guy has approach anxiety, it's definitely not a disorder. What you are doing is breaking social norms - Its your bodies way of saying "hey man if you do this you gamble with your survival" and its perfectly normal. Yes 1 in 500 women will probably sleep with you, she might be hot but probably has metal deficits like low self-esteem because she doesn't pick up on your out-of-line behavior. If you would go to work naked tomorrow your body would respond with massive resistance to not break this cultural norm, and you want to fight that low-level instinct and call it self improvement? Its fucking nuts, nothing more.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.sciencealert.com/the-percentage-of-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-a-record-high/amp It was 28% in 2018.

@Timur The bar for what is an acceptable man has been rising dramatically in the last 10 years. 31% of Males aged 22-35 are now virgins. Dont just blame external factors but also I dont think ite healthy to blame yourself for everything. If you had a life sentence in prison would you blame yourself for not having sex? This is bullshit, under certain circumstances its just very hard. @Leo Gura ironically did a rant against pickup and yet he is closed minded about this topic for years and advocates only a generic hardcore pickup approach to all dating problems.

Yeah I'm aware I'm making excuses. But I still think the major struggles you face in life are not random. I dont think there was any way for me not to end up where I am.

@Leo Gura I don't want to sleep with hundreds of super models at all. In fact I don't give a shit about that. If that is the cost than tell me why 95% of guys don't approach hundreds of girls and still manage have an average sex life. I see it happening in other people, opportunities for relationships just present themselves magically. Its something I don't see happening in my life. You are thinking surprisingly Materialistic on this point, like if the Universe is just "atoms bouncing around randomly" like you often say. Having trouble with relationships is just not part of most peoples Dharma, they didn't come here to struggle half their life getting into relationships, they have other lessons to learn so this is a minor part that sorts itself out. But it is such a central theme in my life that this was probably not a mistake, its part of my Dharma, the suffering I have chosen to go through as as a catalyst. I may have to overcome it through meditation, approaching girls, maybe it will bring me to the edges of suicide or maybe it just sorts itself out once it has shaped me into who I should become. We will see.

@Leo Gura I have not cold-approached hundreds of girls if that's what you are getting at, but I did some. I decided against this hardcore approach, because I'm not cut out for it. I tried meeting women in traditional ways. I also firmly belief that there is a good reason why approach anxiety exists. Its likely a mechanism guarding you against doing something that will lower your social status from a time when humans lived in tribes. You don't want to be that guy that just hits on every girl in the tribe, selfishly disregarding any social conventions. I admit this doesn't translate to big cities but even then, if you frequent the same bars/places you will gain a reputation as "that guy" and people will just avoid you. If you live in a smaller town doing this shit while being awkward can destroy your status. There is good reason 95% guys will just shake their heads if you talk about wildly hitting on women alone in the streets. This stuff is so far removed from the reality of how guys get into relationships, only people inside the pickup bubble believe this is how things should go, and they are in that bubble because they were dysfunctional to begin with.

It can be something that can make a man suicidal for sure. I'm myself over 30 and I'm on this journey of improving myself for over 10 years. Despite constant meditation, fitness, reading, being independent, online/offline dating, having a good career, socializing on every opportunity and just trying to make myself into an interesting guy I was not able to attract a single woman. I still will continue all those things but at times it makes you insane, you have this huge biological urge to experience these things and on the other hand you have the fact that you tried for years and didn't even make one step of progress. You get into a love/hate relationship with women, it pulls you to and away from it, it literally makes you insane. External answers and theories outside yourself also start appealing because you looked inside and fixed one thing after another that could be unappealing, also at some point you have to accept that certain features of your personality wont change. At my age you just want the suffering and self image issues that stem from it to end. I'm at a point where things like chemical castration sound appealing to me.

@Gidiot There was a recent Interview about Law of One by Aaron Abke with L/L Research, including Jim McCarty

Do you get recognized in public and how do these interactions go? Worst/Best experience? What is your families opinion on your videos?

Its not that I personally think it's crazy, all I'm saying is these kind of statements can end bad for you in a therapist setting. And I don't think thats wrong either, if someone I don't know declared that he is God I would be immediately suspicious about their mental health, even though I know what is meant by it in the nondual context.

"ask the therapist if you're God and observe their reaction." Do this if you want an express ticket to the looney bin.

Leos says dont believe in anything I say in his videos. If he says that, it must be the truth.

Yeah good idea, I just ordered some.

I've been dosing 2 Times per week in the dose range of 100-300mg dried shrooms for 1 month. Motivation: I am very neurotic, have weekly depressive episodes and I also want to enhance my meditation. To be honest I'm a bit dissapointed because it is praised like a miracle cure on the internet. I can say I feel better on dosing days, my depressive episodes are a bit milder and I'm a bit less in my head overall I think. But I'm still wondering if its placebo which is not a good sign. No philosophical/personal Insights, enhanced emotions/emphaty or anything of that kind. Maybe the brain needs longer to rewire, I will continue until my shrooms run out and report back.

I wondered about thie passage here a lot. It seems like what is first described is just observing something later because of the speed of light (what hads this to do with time?), then it goes on about how a week is a construct (duh), some basic Einstein and that somehow should conclude that time does not exist. Maybe I just dont get it, but it seems like the first stuff is just there to sound smart and confuse the reader so he just buys the conclusion. Maybe someone with more experiece can explain. A "What is time" video would be nice @Leo Gura Your science has already proven this mathematically. Formulas have been written showing that if you get into a spaceship and fly far enough fast enough, you could swing back around toward the Earth and watch yourself taking off. This demonstrates that Time is not a movement but a field through which you move—in this case on Spaceship Earth. You say it takes 365 “days” to make a year. Yet what is a “day”? You’ve decided—quite arbitrarily, I might add—that a “day” is the “time” it takes your Spaceship to make one complete revolution on its axis. How do you know it’s made such a spin? (You can’t feel it moving!) You’ve chosen a reference point in the heavens— the Sun. You say it takes a full “day” for the portion of the Spaceship you are on to face the Sun, turn away from the Sun, then face the Sun again. You’ve divided this “day” into 24 “hours”—again quite arbitrarily. You could just as easily have said “10” or “73”! Then you divided each “hour” into “minutes.” You said each hourly unit contained 60 smaller units, called “minutes”—and that each of those contained 60 tiny units, called “seconds.” One day you noticed that the Earth was not only spinning, it was also flying! You saw that it was moving through space around the sun. You carefully calculated that it took 365 revolutions of the Earth for the Earth itself to revolve around the sun. This number of Earth spins you called a “year.” Things got kind of messy when you decided that you wanted to divide up a “year” into units smaller than a “year” but larger than a “day.” You created the “week” and the “month,” and you managed to get the same number of months in every year, but not the same number of days in every month. You couldn’t find a way to divide an odd number of days (365) by an even number of months (12), so you just decided that some months contained more days than others! You felt you had to stay with twelve as the yearly sub-divider because that was the number of Lunar Cycles you observed your moon moving through during a “year.” In order to reconcile these three spatial events—revolutions around the sun, spins of the Earth on its axis, and moon cycles—you simply adjusted the number of “days” in each “month.” Even this device didn’t solve all the problems because your earlier inventions kept creating a “build up” of “time” which you didn’t know what to do with. So you also decided that every so often one year would have to have a whole day more! You called this Leap Year, and joked about it, but you actually live by such a construction—and then you call My explanation of time “unbelievable”! You’ve just as arbitrarily created “decades” and “centuries” (based, interestingly, on 10′s, not 12′s) to further measure the passage of “time”—but all along what you’ve really been doing is merely devising a way to measure movements through space. Thus we see that it is not time which “passes,” but objects which pass through, and move around in, a static field which you call space. “Time” is simply your way of counting movements! Scientists deeply understand this connection and therefore speak in terms of the “Space-Time Continuum.” Your Dr. Einstein and others realized that time was a mental construction, a relational concept. “Time” was what it was relative to the space that existed between objects! (If the universe is expanding—which it is—then it takes “longer” for the Earth to revolve around the sun today than it did a billion years ago. There’s more “space” to cover.) Thus, it took more minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years, decades, and centuries for all these cyclical events to occur recently than it did in 1492! (When is a “day” not a day? When is a “year” not a year?) Your new, highly sophisticated timing instruments now record this “time” discrepancy, and every year clocks around the world are adjusted to accommodate a universe that won’t sit still! This is called Greenwich Mean Time… and it is “mean” because it makes a liar out of the universe! Einstein theorized that if it wasn’t “time” which was moving, but he who was moving through space at a given rate, all he had to do was change the amount of space between objects —or change the rate of speed with which he moved through space from one object to another—to “alter” time. It was his General Theory of Relativity which expanded your modern day understanding of the co-relation between time and space. You now may begin to understand why, if you make a long journey through space and return, you may have aged only ten years—while your friends on Earth will have aged thirty! The farther you go, the more you will warp the Space-Time Continuum, and the less your chances when you land of finding alive on the Earth anyone who was there when you left! However, if scientists on Earth in some “future” time developed a way to propel themselves faster, they could “cheat” the universe and stay in sync with “real time” on Earth, returning to find that the same time had passed on Earth as had passed on the Spaceship. Obviously, if even more propulsion were available, one could return to the Earth before one took off! That is to say, time on Earth would pass more slowly than time on the spaceship. You could come back in ten of your “years” and the Earth would have “aged” only four! Increase the speed, and ten years in space might mean ten minutes on Earth. Now, come across a “fold” in the fabric of space (Einstein and others believed such “folds” exist—and they were correct!) and you are suddenly propelled across “space” in one infinitesimal “moment.” Could such a time-space phenomenon literally “fling” you back into “time”? It should not be quite as difficult to now see that “time” does not exist except as a construction of your mentality. Everything that’s ever happened—and is ever going to happen—is happening now. The ability to observe it merely depends on your point of view—your “place in space.” If you were in My place, you could see it All—right now! Comprehend?

There are some interesting passages in the Ra Material how the conditions for contact were actually better thousands of years ago. Ra says because people were more isolated they could decide to which tribes specifically they would show themselves without interfering with the other ones. Their policy was to only reveal themselves to cultures that already had a pantheistic belief system because their teaching of oneness would not interfere with it and therefore preserve their free will. Today aliens can only show themselves to everyone or nobody, and some religious worldviews would be destroyed overnight, therefore heavily interfering with our planet.