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DIRTY LITTLE SLAG?is he abusive? You could say some actions deserve that… has he tried marijuana? Couple of hits and I last as long as I want on that. Not the ideal solution but it’s decent in the meantime

Suppose it’s more the kinda mindset to adopt when trying to attract women, which is also too broad, but realised I’ve probably been misaligned with higher values. Not exactly sure what I’m asking atm. Might be guilty of objectifying a bit ? edit: only to an extent tho and feels more of an act rather than what I actually want and know. Bit confused. Got some conditioning to release… I value connection over anything tho but been acting the big man?

Everything happens for a reason. This was meant to happen to open my eyes to some shit. No stress. I appreciate the lessons. Gotta get out more… Needy for more attention when I sense there’s some of it, fuck knows?learning. Thanks for the responses.

Little interactions with a girl online. At first I was too aggressive, then I was too passive. Both backfired. Second time I didn’t wanna come off needy again so thought I’d be a big man and do nothing? Would be good to hear some thoughts about timing, neediness and whatever else I might be missing. Cheers

Yea I get it. Learnt a lot today. EGOOO? cheers mate

Lose friends but gain peace, sounds like a fair trade to me ?

@flowboy ah yea I get it. Just had mini ego death. Cheers. @hyruga not on me anyway, fucked it

?new year new me

@museumoftrees @flowboy That little insight just made me realise how often the ego likes to manipulate things. Still, it feels like I’m going after the right choice, and can only learn from past experiences or mentors, right? So instead of overthinking all these angles trying to get the best outcome, no matter what’s happened, it’s always best to go off my own intuition for what feels right in that unique moment? Suppose past experiences will always influence the present decision tho? Isn’t modifying behaviour a natural part of the learning process?

@flowboy makes sense, noted. Thanks. Got lost in my head.

Maybe to some extent but I always be me. I’m very open about my flaws to anyone who knows me personally but that’s backfired with people I thought I could trust, so I’m closed off to opening up in a more public space. I’m more private in general and prefer it that way but anyone who knows me knows I’m honest about where I’m at and I like to express my true personality. Bit off track but get the feel a lot of people here think I’m fake, people who know me, know I’m open and expressive. Lot to learn and experience ofc… I tried being aggressive, apparently too aggressive so was unsure the next time. Still got shit to learn obv. Every experience is a lesson for the next one. Just gotta start racking up the experiences. Not been ready, dealing with some intense shit, isolated through choice but lately I am ready again. Let’s go.

Thanks for the responses. Taking on board.

@museumoftrees So what feels right, not try be clever? I try to be authentic but obv not always in alignment with my higher self. A lot of ego/unconsciousness still going on. Sometimes just unsure. I was judging this from a scenario that went wrong and felt maybe it was too quick/aggressive again if I just dived in. Think she’s a bit loco. What you do when you’re unsure? Seek guidance seems obv (facepalm) @hyruga fuck is this question?

Depends where your attention is. For example, there could be one path that you know makes you money with pay rises as you excel, but takes a tremendous amount of focus and no distractions from other things… Then one might have other passions and/or fall out of love with the first thing so the focus on the first thing diminishes. When someone splits focus to multiple things results suffer. Get clarity on what you want then focus on that. Sometimes you have to be willing to let go of something you loved for years but no longer serves your deeper core, no matter how tough that may be, in order to go deeper into your life purpose. Try it instead of slinging out back handed comments.

You can’t be serious, who would do such a thing ?

@Nos7algiK desire is part of the human experience, it’s only a problem when there’s dependence on the outcome. “Some say that one should not have ambitions; they equate these with greed and lust. However, some ambitions are the result of curiosity and inner desire. They are individual interests, like wanting to know about a certain subject or wanting to achieve goals. As long as they do not harm others, they should be exercised rather than suppressed.” 365 Tao: Daily Meditations

@Moksha it’s always now but we know there will be upcoming situations which makes sense to plan for, right? What about the tough decisions which no amount of meditation or presence can seem to give, for example, a choice in the direction of your career. There’s multiple options in everything which often leads to indecision. Being present and seeking guidance through tarot I’ve found does have something to it. Have you tried, what were your experiences? I see how being present ultimately is the state to be in, and probably wouldn’t need anything if it’s become natural and there’s a great relationship with intuition. I think for someone like me who’s still a long way from enlightenment, with a lot of monkey mind and avidyā, they’re good tools to call up on.

Do you eat well, exercise, yoga, etc? What’s your current schedule, are you awake all day then go to work, or go to work and have spare time after? I’d focus on micro habits with something you really enjoy “this week I’ll practice x for 10 minutes a day” we all have ten minutes. If something sparks you’ll pick the pace up, get in a good rhythm and build momentum.

I recently started calling for guidance through tarot, intuition, meditation, astrology etc. First believed there are spirit guides all around us, maybe there is, now I suppose it’s all coming from source; infinite intelligence, creativity, god. This life might be created in a way where there are different entities or in a way where you can believe whatever you want. Direct experience will tell. If the goal is to achieve clarity or whatever anyway it was effective, even if it’s just turns out a placebo. Doesn’t deny what it is tho? Higher power operating everything that we’re fortunate enough to use if we let go of bad habits and fear, and tune into intuition.

Doesn’t sound like you could live without pussy and why would you if it’s on tap ? ha Good luck with the music man! Well there is no luck if you work smart. Crush.

@ivankiss What helped you with confidence/attraction? Guess its something you developed early. Full potential with girls or LP? Yea action is mega important, I’m aware of this and what I need to fix. I need to pick up the volume, it’s inevitable. No stress.

I’d love to be in your position with girls. Too many excuses to be comfortable held me back in recent years while dealing with personal shit but isolation gives opportunity to learn skills in other areas. I’ll have girls hanging off me when I get out of this funk, what matters is the deeper purpose. You clearly have the traits to crush in whatever field you choose. Go deep into your why and build habits balanced between the love for women and the drive for success. I’m behind in one and getting ahead in the other. I’ve experienced both to a degree but life works in mad ways. Fuck incel forums. Where the birds at??

It’s more to do with energy right? Obviously if you have serious views against animal killing etc then that aswell, but our bodies must be balanced 80/20 alkaline to acid in order to receive the maximum amount of energy. Too much acid burns blood cells clumping them together making it difficult for electrical impulses to be passed through our cells. Important for proper functioning of some of our major organs aswell and the gut. Acid environment also increases chances of diseases, virus etc. I’m still hazy on this and see from different sources about how for example, meat is ok for main meals etc but meat is highly acidic. Same for oats which are acidic but they’re good for micro biome so still ok, I think. Still a lot to learn but think meat should be avoided mostly. https://medium.com/beingwell/the-importance-of-the-80-20-rule-for-alkaline-versus-acidic-foods-7ab1ecf4850e

How do you identify without being stubborn? What are good questions to meditate on? Suppose this one is a start. Any good resources? Namaste

@thisintegrated on it