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If a girl shows strong interest on IG but no messaging yet, would you still look at other girls and/or message them, knowing that they’re aware of it? Both are girls I thought have a lot of potential obv but there’s several atm. Nothing more than hints tho lol… not sure how the best version of me should be here and what I should aim for. To me it feels standard until something develops in person or at least over text. Happened twice now where I’ve looked about n they bailed. What do I need to express in these kind of situations? Want a gf eventually or find union but who the fuck knows anything until real developments happening? Don’t have my shit together financially atm either tho so in a weird spot. Second question: would you pursue girls at all if you was broke? Guess I just gotta chill back til I’m financially stable… silly to not get involved on some level tho when it’s coming back at me Would be good to hear some insight, not just to the specifics but general approach and some fundamental insight that I might be missing. Much appreciated.

https://backtojerusalem.com/one-world-religion-headquarters-set-to-open-next-year/ What you think?

“The universe is vibration… but there’s nothing being vibrated.” ?

https://youtu.be/aXuTt7c3Jkg This documentary goes deep

@KatiesKarma I have faith in that, or trying to lol

Been wondering why one would choose to be brutally murdered… I guess it’s part of a bigger karmic contract?

Boss man

Get loco bouncin off the back walls

? one love

For 27 years I was doing ok. Quite shy, bit of social anxiety, inexperience with girls, but nothing too out of the ordinary. Very strange upbringing around sex from early childhood that I don’t really wanna get into here, but I think this early exposure along with other deep insecurities fucked me up regarding sex and relationships as got into my teens… After splitting up with first gf few years ago, I was left with all kinds of insecurities and went into isolation mode. People in my life who I thought had my back, turned to ridiculous slander and I somehow let it affect me in a massive way. The last few years have been difficult, but I’ve not done everything in my power to make it better either I.e not properly regulating my nervous system (I was mostly blind to this until recently tho), not being social enough etc. I only have myself to blame for letting such ridiculous comments affect me (paedo bla bla) and not properly doing the work intensely enough in the first place. I’ve used medication which has brought me back to my normal self and I’ve improved my habits tremendously over the last year. I can thankfully say I’m out of what was a nightmare phase. I don’t get intrusive thoughts anymore and the anxiety around it has decreased majorly, still a bit of work to do but I’m much freer mentally. Guess I just gotta keep being social, regulating my nervous system etc I still feel some shame, denial, and get defensive when it comes to being open about it tho. It scarred me, I still feel a slight hint of resentment especially towards the people who knew me well and turned on me when it all went to shit, but I eventually took full responsibility for my situation. I know the truth of who I am but it still gets to me that people could still make slanderous assumptions, but I keep reminding myself that people will talk, assume, hate, etc. As long as I know what I know it’s all good. I guess the first step is to be open about it. My question is what would you do moving forward? It still feels uncomfortable to speak about for obvious reasons. I’ve not been totally isolated and I’m going to events etc more regularly now. Just wondering about how to handle the shame and denial around it? This is the first step. I was open from the start to people closest to me and they stabbed me in the back which also hurt deeply. I feel much better today but it’s a proper WTF thing to even think about. Is what it is. I’ve learned a lot. What do you think?

I really really struggle with cold approach. It feels super awkward and when I go out in the day it’s mostly alone which adds to the weirdness of it. Always worried about what other people will think and how I’ll look because it’s so uncommon. I realise how damaging these type of thoughts are for my progress. What would you do? Wings helped me ease up but had some conflict with the wings in my city and they’re really cliquey so probably won’t be getting involved with them atm. I go to events a few times a month on average, where initiating conversation comes much easier. Still a little tense initially, but find it easier to start conversations. Cold approach is a real sticking point tho. Got some attention on IG but obv wanna get this approach anxiety shit sorted at some point. Also wanna see how something develops with another girl. Could still go at least a couple times a week tho. What did you do to overcome it? What do you recommend from here? I’m not in a big rush. Higher priorities for more stability in other areas first, which I’m on the verge of solving. I’m confident in myself to get it sorted and really don’t stress about it. Financial independence is the number one goal, then I’ll be free to fully enjoy life, and will hire mentors, etc. So close. This is probably another limiting belief holding me back. I go through phases where I go out 4/5x a week then drop back off, but only indirect approaches and compliments, and as I’ve said, I get major awkwardness. Realise I’ve just gotta hammer the volume. How do you get over this initial awkwardness? I’ve tried affirmations, visualisation, good advice from friends, etc, but struggled to break through so far. Also been super inconsistent. Cheers.

Not that messy. I stand by my decisions (most). People can assume all they want, fuckin with my head

What do you do to remove shitty behaviours that you’re blind to?

Yea I understand. Shouldn’t be too harsh on myself. Especially when sometimes there’s just a lot of assumptions that lead to major misunderstandings. Still some ugliness I have to work on tho, cheers

Sometimes being myself gets me into trouble lol What do you do to expand the love within you, rather than acting out of fear and other lower emotions? How do you recognise, in the moment, when ‘being me’ isn’t really serving you/me, and only causes harm?

At least you’re not being abusive. Too needy tho stop it

Life feels quite hellish in general. Most people suffer on some level, plus all the brutality happening every second, and the constant fight for peace… but maybe we need to suffer to realise and appreciate love? It’s a bit too far in a lot of cases tho ??‍♂️

Thanks for the responses, really helpful. Gonna get back on it. @PurpleTree you tryna say I’m not god? Absolute mental case! Sit in your room all day meditating and see what happens?

@Migue Lonas yea, makes sense. So much depth, cheers

It’s over mate. No shame in still loving her. Plenty of opportunities out there. @Leo Gura @Migue Lonas what is, being grounded? In what ways can one become more grounded?

Powerful ?

Don’t judge spirit?it’s not exactly a prediction, it’s more about guidance on how to handle current circumstances. If the person doesn’t take it in fully, there will still be struggles. Even if they do, there are always obstacles. Some people need to stop slacking wtf ??

@flume just seen this, thanks a lot, I’ll look into it @Thought Art yea, I’ll reach out to another therapist soon. Had one not long ago but we didn’t really touch on anything to do with trauma. Thanks

@Emrie on it @actually trolls everywhere ?

Not a lot of experience. Tell me what’s bad, what’s good. Resources, etc? Much appreciated.