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Not inherently. But in many 9-5 work settings, politics (spoken or unspoken) play a big role and dysfunctions are tolerated due to poor leadership. If someone doesn’t play those games or refuses to engage in gossip or alliances, others may treat them as an outsider. Hard work alone doesn’t always earn trust.

Ignorance is bliss, that's why. You're ignorant too, to some degree; look at your punctuation.

@Someone here From what you write it doesn't sound like the army is suited for you long term. Depends on where you're from, maybe you could do basic training to get that feeling of having to man up out the system and then do your own thing after. Also, to get more clarity around where you should be headed you could rent a van for a month, take your camping gear, tools and food with you and see what it takes to survive living in a remote area and then decide if you wanna invest more into this lifestyle.

@Yimpa Let’s swap locations, I’ll leave you my stash and existential problems, you leave me your lesbian friends and blue cat.

@Aaly I used to be extremely anxious cause of a very rigid and isolated upbringing. I was a virgin until 24 and was barely able to talk to people around me, even less girls. What helped me get started was actually posting on forums (like you're doing now), it's a form of putting yourself out there, and not too risky. As time goes by you will see you're being seen and appreciated as you are and become more comfortable in your own skin. Basically face your anxiety taking baby steps. You can just smile at someone walking past and keep practising that, even if they're not looking. Then take it further, say something short to a cashier like "hi how are you", etc. Move at your own pace, not your parents', not your friends' pace. Extroverts can make it seem like socialising and striking up conversations should be easy, but you gotta see they NEED interaction, even if it's just shallow and boring talk that people with more depth are simply not interested in. Here's an old but gold video for you:

Leo: Heeeeeey, this is Leo... Pope: ...and this is Leo. Both: And today we're gonna talk about how to make any nun squirt.

I'm just playing, my strange neighbor, you know je t'aime.

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Why is smoking banned? Because of the smell? Switzerland prescribes it too, but they don't care how you consume it. Other than that it's still illegal, but more of a grey area since every second person uses it anyways. You are allowed to carry 10g for personal use even if you got it from the black market, but at the same time you are not allowed to have used it in the past.

@Yimpa 😂 love your weird humor

@Hojo @Thought Art It's the same with this forum, all about balance. It can enhance contemplation and creativity, if used in the right amount. And I guess it depends on where you live how it's been marketed. It's still illegal here and the only people who say it's harmless are addicts.

Leaving France might open your mind.

How?

It is not the full truth, just a spike of truth you're seeing.

Yes it does.

That's the goal, until then just passing time in the most fun way possible 🤙

Fair enough you've got it, better times will come.

@Sugarcoat There is no ego really, just like there's no soul. What you’re experiencing could be more about being trapped in your head, letting thoughts and concepts disconnect you from your body. The mind can make everything seem way more complicated than it is. Interacting with physical reality more (even short walks to the forest) could be worth a shot and help you feel more grounded

@Sugarcoat So it's more as if you’re not using up any space? One very underrated way to gain some momentum that can help ground you is exercise. Even if it feels like it’s not going to make a big difference and the problem might be metaphysical, just moving and feeling your body can shift things a little over time.

I felt like this during what I could only describe as the dark night of the soul. It was a time when everything felt numb and disconnected, almost like I was watching my own life from a distance. I didn’t feel much of anything, no joy, no drive, and no connection to anything around me. Like you, I didn’t have the desire to engage with the things I used to love or even take care of myself in the way I should.

@Majed I'd say becoming suicidal is your clue to take a step back from trying to meet society’s standards and focusing on building a life you actually enjoy. Ironically, when you stop obsessing over sex and validation and focus on growing at your own pace, things start to feel less hopeless and that's when you start attracting effortlessly. Don’t let outside pressure rush your process.

Sounds like it yes. It's confusing because we tend to overthink and are introspective in nature, so things will rarely make sense in the moment. It's less that something's off with you, people are just not matching that depth and are repelled by it because they're mostly shallow (compared to an INFP's inner world).

It's not strange, you probably intuit that it does do some harm, even if you can't see how at the moment. How long have you been using it for?

Yes, I can relate and for me it was only clear in hindsight. What is your MBTI personality type?