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Of course I can. Through you. You looking at the code right now is me looking at it.

The hardest part for me was becoming conscious of my own BS.

It could definitely make you feel a little more safe. Just owning a gun won't protect you much though. So, unless you're willing to put in time and energy into shooting, cleaning and maintaining your gun there's no point. It would be better for you to address your anxiety of losing your life. Your mind is fabricating very unpleasant stories around that.

The main difference to other countries is in the US the assumption is that every citizen has the right to own a gun, wheras in other countries you need to earn the right to own one. If you do some research you guys are doing better than we do in the mental health department.

Sounds more like she was trying to get into his pants initially...

Listen to your gut when being around people. The way you feel after spending time with them should tell you enough about wether you should keep them around or not. Tell yourself it's fine even if you were to fall for another trap here. Ultimately it comes down to learning not to give your power away to others. Which will go a long way when trying to look for quality friends.

Have you tried therapy?

Logic is only getting you so far here. You need to get out of your head.

Good attempt. What if I'm not?

@StarStruck The less you care about some other dude's principles the more success you'll have. But the reason you don't care can't be because you want more success. It's simply because you're going to come up with your own set of values, like @NoSelfSelf said.

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@Aquarius Excellent. And how many concerns on that list still remain?

@PurpleTree Because women are good at hiding the fact that they're interested in sex and you might buy into their frame.

@StarStruck I wouldn't meet her at a club then. Better go somewhere where you can hear each other talking.

Well, you gotta start somewhere... Have you been out with her before?

@lizz_luna It's important not to fully rely on your friends, but you shouldn't feel like they're unreliable overall. Me and my two closest friends aren't always on the same wavelength, but I know they have my back without my asking. They also know me better than my family does, it really depends on your situation and your values. If I were you I'd take a few steps back and see how much investment is done by them. You should definitely get the sense that your relationship with them is secure without constantly stressing about not losing them.

Are you open to the possibility that there's an urge you're not yet conscious of? Something made you post here after all You want to improve your dating skills (and get some). I cut myself a lot of slack.

I feel you, man. I wasted my childhood and youth in a cult until 24, also gave away 10% of my income for this shit, lost my circle of friends, built a new social circle with manipulative and toxic people, got rid of them and wasted another few years. Then smoked pot to distract myself just sitting around feeling sorry for myself, achieving nothing. Another three years gone. I'm now 30 and living the dream. Doesn't mean life will is now easier though, you just learn to enjoy the process. The first investment you should make is in yourself. Get rid of your victim mindset. Take responsibility, feel the sting and move on. Realise you didn't know any better – or if you did, simply lacked the motivation you needed – especially when you weren't raised the way you deserved to be. This is your unique life's story. Plus, you never know when things will change around for you, could be a decade or as little as a few weeks until a new perspective opens up for you. But it won't happen as long as you feel sorry for yourself (not saying you can't rant btw). What is it you need the money for? There's a big chance you can reach your goals without the amount of money you think you need. Money makes it easy, but there's a lot of growth to be missed out on if you can take the easy route through finances.

Go about discovering your life's mission and make it as fun as possible. Until then don't beat yourself up for slip ups, they will only keep you distracted. Allow yourself to be human.

If you sense there's some underlying issues but you can't explain it it's worth taking a closer look into your childhood experiences.

It's not about waiting a certain amount of hours or days but about moving her down on your list of priorities. With that said you can still text back whenever you get some spare time (hopefully you're not glued to your phone 24/7). Keep it natural without reading too much into it, there's hundreds of reasons someone doesn't respond for three days.

When someone with this attitude talks BS about dating apps Girls on there are the same girls you meet outside, social circle etc. Online dating is a nice tool if it's not your only one.

Probably not his most precious stuff

Don't be fooled, this will change as soon as she see's your insecurity in person. If you're unsure about her meeting the current version of you and you're saying you're not ready to get involved emotionally and you want to meet someone more mature then that's your intuition guiding you towards more self love.

It's like giving away all the pearls you find for free, which is why they stop carrying meaning.