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@Kalki Avatar The Swiss have a stick up their ass.

Thanks again everyone. I learned a lot the past days. I identified with my emotions too much, now I'm working on living with them, instead of getting rid of them. There's no rush.

@Jenkins Just moving on whenever they become unsure hasn't worked out so well for me in the past. I used to be too radical with it. I think women and flakiness go hand in hand. @flowboy Yeah might be the case. I took her reaching out as her putting herself into my orbit for me to set up the next date. She texts a lot if I don't end the conversation, guess that's her way to connect... @NoSelfSelf I'll probably reach out to her for once sometime in the next days, since she has been the one to initiate contact every single time from the start.

I agree, I wouldn't have made such fast progress without it. But prepare yourself to go through hell if you're getting off it after chronic use.

You gotta take emotions into consideration is what I'm saying. Which is also the reason for people's outbursts and they should be tolerated to a degree/certain period. Mods handled it well imo, they did seed out users for the overall health of the forum after all.

Yeah, I get you, you're an intellectual.

If I'm 100% honest this resonates the most. Biggest challenge will be immersing myself in the game after what I've seen though. I know it's just ego games

It doesn't matter, some of us have been dealt a bad hand.

Maybe what gives you hope for now is that you will not care about their opinions anymore in the future. You won't need their love because you will be the one giving it to them. You got this, man!

To be fair, he did say he was playing with insanity so this was to be expected.

@Arthogaan I used to meditate/contemplate all day, whatever I was up to. I was in a constant state of flow. But I got back in the dating scene this month and was overwhelmed by my emotions and how fast it all went and meditation completely fell away. I still have this urge for deep emotional connection with a girl and am now far too attached to outcome and unable to get back to a relaxed state.

Yeah. Like a negative energy field surrounding me, completely overshadowing my whole experience. It demands all of my attention. The harder I try to avoid it the stronger it gets, almost squishing me. Best way to describe it is with this clip (1:10-1:56) I'll try out bread.

This is really unexpected but I recently quit weed and now my mind is trying to convince me to take my pistol and put an end to my life. I don't want this. I went out of my house now. I feel extremely good during the day, high confidence but as soon as it gets dark outside my mood drops like crazy. Guess I just had to write this down here.

Thanks to each of you, I appreciate it. The rush is that life has a way of violently kicking me to the ground as soon as I start enjoying it and I'm sick of it. It's been like this all my life. I know it's just a story but I can't see past it rn, I'm losing hope. What even is the point of life? It's rinse and repeat for no reason whatsoever. I experience both extremes of any given spectrum until it balances out and then another challenge is just waiting around the corner, starting the whole cycle again. Then there's this damned energy in my stomach that I can't seem to shake. It feels like fear and being in love at the same time and it's shooting energy through my whole body. It's been there for like two years now and it's starting to get real tiring.

@LordFall Thank you, cool song

Sadly, this is your mom's story about you and you believed her BS since childhood. Now that you're starting "to prove her wrong" you should see that her model of who you are doesn't match with who you actually are. The good news is it doesn't matter how much trauma you experienced, you can always flip the story around to your liking. There will be a bit of work ahead of you to get through all the ugly mental images about yourself (which were fed to you since birth). Like @Breakingthewall said she might have narcissistic traits. Start by getting familiar with narcissistic family dynamics and you might soon see that you are actually perfectly normal, except you learnt to not express your own truth since it got you into trouble with your mom all your life.

@ivankiss This might actually help for a bit, thanks man!

I can get it up but after a few minutes there's just no point in keeping sex going. What can I do? I stopped smoking weed a couple weeks ago.

@Vrubel It would be better to say you had a nice time and ask when she's free next. Direct and straight to the point. Then you go about your life.

@Vrubel So you're seeking her validation. Women need time for their feelings to develop. Unlike us men who know right on the spot that they want to keep the girl around. Give it a few days until you reach out again to ask when she's free next.

Let her come to you at her own pace. Are you acting needy? Texting her afterwards or let her initiate?

@Osaid Thanks for the links! @hoodrow trillson Rarely while having sex. But then again, it has been some months since then. And now this time I was in my head way too much plus withdrawal symptoms didn't make it easier to relax. And yeah, I noticed me becoming anxious about future encounters, though knowing what the problem is makes me chill out a bit more now. Appreciate the advice. @Eternal Unity I want to avoid it as much as possible, I'll have to find some other ways.

@pinskyforest Cheers for the advice. After some research I realised quitting weed is the main cause, I'm feeling close to zero stimulation. Anyone got an idea what the time frame is until my sex drive goes back to normal? Weeks? Months? I smoked daily the past three years.

Do they love you in a way you feel free to be yourself? I doubt it.