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Most sensible thing I've read in a long time. Still guilty of it myself though

There's women out there just collecting orbiters. That's pretty much it. Next time just kiss the girl to make it clear what this is about and to find out whether she's in or not.

Has this always been the case or is your mind playing a trick on you making it seem like bad = forever?

@Roy You should know by now

WTF did I just read.

Your dad is a lost cause as far as you should be concerned, don't try to save him. Do you still live with him?

@Manny Nobody here owes you shit especially because we're all trying to help out even while dealing with our own things. But you could make it easier for yourself by sharing some more details and maybe some gratitude

I'm starting to notice the same with me actually.

Love those posts, thanks for sharing! Where do you draw the line of who and what is conscious? What about animals, plants, rocks?

Never said it wasn't

This would be insane. Missing out on life for one person who isn't even guaranteed to wait for you.

There's a guy in our friend group...extremely extroverted, happy, smiling, chatting up people. But he's anything but killing it. He's more of a child than a man who gets a girl wet, so there's more to it than feeling good.

This guy's advice works really well if you want to attract the most shallow, immature and toxic women. This is an indicator that you might have been gaslit. Your confidence was crushed by this girl, she probably was pretty good of putting on an act and playing the victim and exploiting your neediness. It doesn't matter if this girl was a narcissist or not, she treated you like shit.

This is out of your control at this point, you gotta let it sting for a while. Don't try to get back with her even though there's a ton of advice on how to to so. Chances are zero to none for it to ever work out. Wishing you the best!

Yes, this is an illusion. The trick is to stay positive no matter what...it's your only shot long term.

@Yimpa Not even on his last legs anymore.

You feel like she owes you respect.

Yes totally outdated, even people with kids don't get married anymore here. It's wishful thinking to assume you're together for the rest of your life because of marriage.

I might have a personal bias with the label "good guy". But basically that's what I meant when I said you don't view the bad boys as bad, wehereas us men tend to see it differently. It's not easy to strike the right balance between edgy and caring.

It really depends on what you text them. If she's eager to talk to you then just tell her she still owes you a response in a lighhearted way, but don't act like nothing happened.

Your view of society can change depending on what information you consume. I live in the Western world and it's not being demonised as far as I've observed. It just takes a good leader...becoming one is the difficult part.

Your best shot is to find someone who's open minded and teach her how to enjoy the dream, don't force it.

Yeah, I didn't mean the jerks. Edgy would probably be a better word than bad. The good guys will listen to you talking about emotions, but in an emergency situation, they'll panic or run...there's no love in that.

A man has to start somewhere though. You love the bad boys, you just don't view them as bad because they make you feel safe...

How do you think it ruined your life? Anything specific? Maybe poor choice in hobbies?