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Facing your fears is a success. Getting women isn't.

The lesson is you got too invested too fast. Not you screwing anything up.

After severe episodes of panic attacks I am now suicidal, last weekend I went to the forest with my gun, but couldn't pull through. The past decade have been a big struggle, only to barely stay alive. There's no hope of life ever getting better. I have no family to turn to. I need help but don't know how to get it, I feel paralyzed but can barely acces my brain.

A smart man will go out and test for himself what women are attracted to.

The same way you make yourself skydive, you just jump when the door opens.

Can you really be their support if you don't want to be around them? It's already a heavy burden for someone who does want it, by the sound of it.

@Ero Thanks man, I'm doing much better these days. Your approach is much underrated, keep moving and going through routines to create momentum is what helped me, it took time. Also exercising and partying has done a lot.

How would supporting them look like to you? Without further enabling their nasty behaviour?

Is this really about him also being unvaxxed or more about finding a guy with a lot more backbone than the guys you've met so far?

Not just women, anyone. There's no need for that.

The illusion of action. Your only chance of getting her back is to not do anything at all. But why do you want someone who doesn't want you? Besides, you already made the move and she declined, nothing in your control you can do about it.

If you go out to meet real people your problem will solve itself.

Being needy isn't the same as letting your guard down. The difference is whether you expect something in return or not.

More about leadership. Never have I attracted a woman without taking the lead.

Went to the optometrist to get contacts today and practised putting them in for 45 mins no success, getting them out myself after he got them in was fine. Tried another several times at home but still unsuccessful. Is there a trick when you have a strong reflex?

Finally getting the hang of it. It actually is cake when my mind stops fighting it

@Yimpa Fair enough. This whole learning process is such a pain in the ass, how many hours does one have to spend putting them in and taking them out? I'd rather get a second circumcision.

@Leo Gura Thanks, I had a big phobia feeling my eye, let alone putting something in it. It gets easier, though it took me two hours today 😅 looking straight ahead helps! Do you wear them everyday? Any downsides besides the cost?

@Schizophonia A lot better since thanks, the past three weeks was just partying, making friends and dating. I keep stepping on them.

Well, holy shit I'm seeing 8K.

I've never done it but now that I'm thinking about it it's weird to wanna go out and stay in cause you're friends don't go. You really want to spray someone ay?

It's not for everyone. Being human is the connection, allow yourself to be human. Or isolate yourself from people and see where that will take you...

@Human Mint I don't plan on cutting it out of my life completely, nothing comes close to it for me. But it sure does have its downsides, I definitely underestimated its effects.

@Etherial Cat I have only one big interest, vehicles and driving. I'm a nerd like that, it hasn't changed my whole life so other activities won't cut it for me (pretty much tried them all out). Also I'm sick of meeting new people over and over, my motivation left me. I gotta admit I don't even have any interest in people anymore, same old record, no real wisdom, just stupidity. Makes it hard to create friendships 😅 just the loneliness stays. @Schizophonia I'm curious, how does it seem that way? And yeah I'll admit I still have no clue how to devote my life to that one thing.

What you mean by that?