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  1. Comfortably Numb - Pink Floyd I live for these guitar solos. . Slow Dancing in a Burning Room - John Mayer
  2. @Username Oh, okay. My bad - I didn’t see it that way. Anyway, noted. Thank you.
  3. Oh, what? Boys like boobs? That’s news to me.
  4. With a profile like that, you are going to get all the girls, man. Thank you for blessing our day. Nice nostrils. I can see God in them. @mmKay
  5. A little drinking game for the holiday season - take a shot every time Leo uses this sentence, and you'll be drunk soon enough. You're welcome.
  6. Hey @Vlad_, Have you heard about the ‘Law of Diminshing Marginal Utility?’ It states that as consumption increases, the marginal utility derived from each additional unit declines. This might sound harsh, but worth a try - why don’t you start mixing sugar with each meal - a teaspoon or two to give it the sweet taste, and eventually, you would feel unmotivated to try other sweet things; also, this would be much less than the calories that you are getting from the consumption of the multiple processed food items that have loaded sugar in them. With you making each meal of yours taste sweet - your romance with sugar isn’t going to be special anymore. Eating Tacos? Add sugar. Eating rice? Add sugar. Eating bread? Add sugar. Just a teaspoon or two, and slowly that ‘need’ is going to evaporate into thin air. I strongly believe that we all need to have a healthy relationship with food - and also in the principle of moderation- but if the habit you have cultivated over a long period of time is going to have some long-term negative effects, it is best to do without it. Anyway, I still believe that if you can, you should cut it down slowly. The aforementioned law should be used only if you have no other option left. Also, on an ending note - I highly recommend you read Russell Brand’s book on addiction - ‘Recovery: Freedom from our addictions.’ You will get to know the underlying reason for this addiction - there’s always some root, and this sugar addiction is just a symptom. I wish you recovery! All the best!
  7. Hey @BlackMaze Can give a practical answer, though - always be aware of market trends, and then follow lead. Invest with proper knowledge, build your foresight, have a proper vision, and study behaviors - no one can stop you from success. As much as my knowledge goes, work on something that is going to be immensely helpful in the future - An example: I see building of conscious, renewable technologies being a very important part of the world in the future. With climate change, there's going to be a lot of issues - climate refugees, protection of endangered species, and many, many more - basically, mostly everything comes under the bracket here. Every aspect of human life is going to be affected by this, so there's so much you can do. See what works best for you, and where your passion lies. I am personally not aware of the metaphysical aspects, and do not consider myself any kind of authority over it - but I can tell you one thing - look at people like Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos - they did not 'manifest' that money just like that. They saw the current trends, and laid new paths all by themselves. As @Leo Gura said, they provided so much value, understood the behaviors of the people, and somewhere made people dependent on them, that innovation is giving them their millions, and will continue to do so. P.S. On another, lighter note, you can always open an ashram, it is most lucrative. As they say, there's no business like God business, haha!
  8. The Godfather theme on electric guitar. I love this.
  9. François de Roubaix - Dernier Domicile Connu
  10. Oh, for the Love of dear God, no!
  11. Hey, check these out: There are courses from the top Ivy Leagues, and other very well-known universities in the world - not only will you be able to learn, but will end up getting a certificate, too - that will definitely add value - both intrinsically and extrinsically. Some courses are free, some take a fee. (Unintentional poetry here) The courses are very good, though. Edx: https://www.edx.org/ Coursera: https://www.coursera.org/ . @Vision . Cheers!
  12. Just a few thoughts: @Vision If you are making enough money from it, you can delegate the work - if you have a team, great; if you do not have it, you can build it. You will have decision making roles, and you wouldn't have to go all-in with the administrative and logistics part of the job. Do not try to push it more than you can endure- you may have a burn-out. Of course, it is okay to lose passion for something you once thought was your dream career. My dad changed his career in his 40s, due to a change in passion, into a field he did not have any formal training in, and it worked out very well, so voila - nothing to be afraid of. Just be smart with your money, though - invest well, and there should always be a return, usually a well-planned long-term one. Last, if this job of yours doesn't involve a team, and needs your complete, individual focus, wherein you (skills, etc.) are the product that is being sold, then I would suggest you take the leap of faith and quit it - put the money you have already made in a bank, and you can have the interest, or put it into some other asset that you think is a very good bet. A quote by Jim Carrey that I love - “I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which, was that you can fail at what you don’t want so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love. ” @Lyubov A small idea here - something like an informal contract - why don't you give some money to your friend or someone you trust and tell them that any day you miss working out, they can keep a certain amount? This may bring about accountability, because there is a loss of something tangible, and we look at things as rewards and punishments, so this may act like a reinforcement.
  13. Love these versions:
  14. On another, completely different note, the transition of the sky throughout the video is beautiful.
  15. I will try to answer the questions with my best capacity. I have not read the answers posted by other people; if my answers do overlap with the other ones, look past it. 1) Healthy relationships, toxic relationships, other kind of relationships --- all involve people. People always have a scope for change. Where you need to pay heed to is whether the partners are willing to walk that path towards the advancement of themselves, as individuals first, and then as companions. So, yes, definitely --- any kind of relationship can be transformed in a positive sense, given that the parties involved make the effort, and take steps in the needed direction. 2) There are three aspects that come to my mind: awareness, acceptance and growth. Both the parties involved in the relationship need to be completely aware, should completely accept and should be willing enough to grow through it no matter what --- this is the condition that applies here. If one chooses to hide these issues, do not go forward. If you notice that mid-way, you or your partner are unable to deal with it, respect that, and walk away. Be open, and be mindful, for there is another person involved, as well. You will be an important factor in their life, so be sure to not put responsibility which is more than they can bear. Learn and communicate about each other's sensitive points so that you know the boundaries, and work through them at a comfortable pace - that will help you heal. There is this beautiful concept called kintsukuroi. "In Japan, there is an art form called kintsukuroi which means “to repair with gold." When a ceramic pot or bowl would break, the artisan would put the pieces together again using gold or silver lacquer to create something stronger, more beautiful, than it was before. The breaking is not something to hide. It does not mean that the work of art is ruined or without value because it is different than what was planned. Kintsukuroi is a way of living that embraces every flaw and imperfection. Every crack is part of the history of the object and it becomes more beautiful, precisely because it had been broken." 3) See, we all go through life, and life never stops surprising us. We can never get rid of issues, but we can recognize them, and see if they are the long-term ones or short-term ones. Long term ones should be worked on constantly. The biggest one is that you should never look at your partner as an indispensable extension of you. Learn how to be self-sufficient, cultivate self-love, and other good things will follow. For this, you need to be serious about your personal development and spiritual work. 4) You partner should only aid you in what you are individually working over, with much sincerity. There's no good issue, bad issue, neutral issue here- an issue is an issue, and if you are serious about working on it, and if your partner recognizes that, they will be supportive, regardless. Aren't all relationships like that? I work, you work, we both work, and we're done. 5) By recognizing boundaries. An adage comes to my mind now, "you can take a horse to the water, but you cannot make it drink." Do not force anything. Navigate through your spaces effectively. If you push your needs over theirs, and vice-versa, it is going to create issues with contentment in a relationship. 6) I advise you read some books, watch some videos about it. There are plenty, and this isn't a concept that you can use loosely. Gain a thorough understanding of the same. 7) Connect at an emotional level, try new things, explore your deepest fantasies, be okay with being vulnerable once you are sure about the individual, and things will follow. Also, maybe read something like the Kamasutra. 8) Already answered that. 9) Okay, this is how I would differentiate it. Working on an issue: it is you both vs the problem. You come together, act mature, communicate and work your way out of it. If this is not possible, do the latter, i.e. stop working on it and break up. If your partner gaslights you, puts you down, and if it turns into 'you vs them' in a bitter manner, let go. 10) See, this is very subjective. Think about your goals in life, be sure about your core values, and once you are sure about who you are as an individual, you will find someone, and even if they lack in one of those aspects, if you healthily manage through it, you can make that relationship work. 11) Boredom in a relationship arises primarily due to the fact that you both are trying to derive fun from the relationship solely. The relationship is one of the major areas for you to have the kind of fun you want, but it can't be your only hope. Learn how to be independent, establish this with your partner, and as two distinct individuals, you bring fun to the table; you are not deriving it from their actions, then --- relationships are not usually that difficult, it all basically begins with self-love, and other good things just follow. 12) Here, I would express a bit of a concern. It is difficult, unless both the parties have a willingness to work towards a high conscious kind of a life. Usually, it is difficult to convince another who is not able to understand your ways of life, and if they come from a state of consciousness that isn't well-formed, they may in-turn make it miserable for you, because they do not understand you. 13) Already answered. 14) Everything starts with attraction. True, comfortable romantic love only comes later. Wait for it, and you will know it yourself. Some may fall in love within months, some may take years. That's why - know yourself and your attachment style. 15) I think both are mutually inclusive, in my opinion. 16) Yes. Spiritual development is the key. You are on this forum; it shows you are working towards it. Go ahead. 17) Again, self-love. Do you feel like you 'need' someone, or 'want' someone. Need is an indispensable thing, and it does not show enough love for self. Want here is like, you are happy with yourself, and you would like to share it with someone. Here, someone comes into your life, which you anyway love, and you both share it with each other. 18) You will know it. Get into spiritual development, and the doors will open all by themselves. 19) Answered it. When you are so busy with keeping up with the other person and their needs, that you forget you have yours. Both the people in a relationship need to be aware of it. 20) Love is everything. No boxes to put it into. 21) I believe that it is a decision that needs to be consciously made. There will be someone who will evoke romantic feelings in you, but the decision to be with them or not should be conscious, considering the many factors involved. This is what I think, and this is subjective; others may disagree. Hope this helps. All the best, @Nicachi. All love,
  16. Hey @28 cm unbuffed, You seem very interested about staying at NYC - and of course, if that's something that you really want to do, go ahead. This requires serious work, however. NYC is a big city with many people; you definitely stand a chance. I'd recommend that you take some time to think what your niche area is. Narrow it down. Once you have landed on the areas you want to work in, start applying. Sensing the urgency of your situation, and while I respect it, I would advice you to apply to as many jobs as you can - 50 to 60 jobs each day. You will get rejected by some, put on hold by some, and accepted by some. It's a trade. Keep doing this until you land a job. Now we come to the practical 'how' part of it: Make a splendid resume. This is an example of the perfect resume according to Harvard career experts. This is the link: https://www.cnbc.com/2019/07/10/an-example-of-the-perfect-resume-according-to-harvard-career-experts.html Craft it well. Sell your strengths. . Now, about how to go about applying, and the places you'd find the jobs. These are the 10 best job search engines of 2020. This is the link: https://www.thebalancecareers.com/top-best-job-websites-2064080 . Clear your mind. It is not impossible. It will take work. You do seem very excited about it, so put in what it takes. . Then, build your communication skills. You can't be impulsive or hasty in your interviews. Watch a few videos. A book that I'd recommend is: Word Power Made Easy by Norman Lewis. It will help you with phonetics, grammar, vocabulary and sentence framing. . If your interest has to do in the literature and communication side of things, keep two articles ready, for you will need to attach them. Polish them well. . Last, I do not know which field you come from --- if you belong to the field of science and have worked in the area of healthcare, please do apply. There is a dire need for people from that particular sector. The chance is comparatively high. All the best, Hope this helped.
  17. Hey! Now that you have decided not to like me, from this brief communication, there isn’t much I can do, anyway. Also, no, we haven’t conversed with each other before. I started posting frequently on this forum 2-3 days ago. I replied on this journal not because I wanted to accuse you, but because I was fascinated and intrigued by you. I never meant to say that you lack a feminine side. I have a brother who shares traits similar to yours, and through you, I wanted to understand him better. I misread the fact that this journal is just a space you vent on. My bad, and I take responsibility. I am a no one, but I feel misunderstood here. Anyway, I don’t want to invade your space, but if you do ever want to know me, you are free to message. I am actually not that bad. I accept your criticism of me constructively, and shall ponder on where things went wrong in my communication, that made you perceive me in such a way. Have a good day! @Gesundheit
  18. Noted. @Gesundheit
  19. Not so much reading between the lines, as much as it is attention to detail. Nevertheless, I am getting there, slowly, and uhm, zombie walking? (See, I am beginning to understand.) No? Okay. You think you are a soul-less zombie, but then there may be something that you yearn for, right? Otherwise, why would you cry when you listen to that Arabic song? Why have you been crying intermittently (your words, not mine) when you know that nothing matters? You yearn for something that you may have already felt, or something that you have had a slight glimpse of, and you want to feel it in its entirety? Now, I am purely speculating --- shut it down if it is untrue or harsh --- is it that you have grown so comfortable with who you are as an individual now that you are afraid about what or who you would be without it? Is it so much hatred, as much as it is fear --- fear of who you may turn out to be? You have carved a more-or-less perfect identity for yourself. Is it that, with this identity, you are at least sure of yourself, and are not giving the reigns to the world? You fear losing control, because you know others can't handle your emotions, or that you have seen enough to not have faith in them? Ah, then again, you would say, "I am just an illusion, on a forum, masquerading as a human; what emotions?" Of course, you are God pretending to hate on God. Nothing new. Also, Just for the sake of inquisitiveness, what is the emotion that you feel when you have an awakening? - "Woah, I am infinite, and...uh, yuck?" Haha! What is your first memory of an emotion? God, I hope this did not sound like an interrogation, a counselling session, or hippe -talk - I know they are on your number one murder list (again, your words, not mine) Some music, in case you do not hate me already!
  20. I think no one should be vulnerable until they are sure of who they are sharing it with. Our vulnerabilities are a part of our make up as an individual. When one centers themselves too much around their vulnerabilities, they commence seeking validation in the name of emotional expression. Vulnerabilities have certain question marks, because if we had all of them answered, they would not be vulnerabilities in the first place. Now you have to decide whether you want solid answers, or some fleeting, half-hearted answers to questions that are very important to you, and your existence. Everybody is vulnerable, and vulnerabilities are meant to be understood, for within them is who we hide as individuals. If we do it too fast, too much — it becomes a mess. Wait for it. Work on your strengths. Cultivate a reliable relationship based on your positives, and then, once you are ready in a sure sense, go for it. It will be an emotional and special experience. The foundation of your relationship should be cemented with strength, and vulnerabilities should be like doors, windows and other accessories that can be used to navigate, accordingly. Sorry for the cement/door example, I couldn’t resist it. Now I know how it feels like to be an author of a best-selling self help book, haha.
  21. World Bank Open Data. Free and open access to global development data. https://data.worldbank.org/
  22. The Revealing Silence Outro is beautiful. Your journal is intriguing. I have a question, and because you prefer blunt communication, I'll try to put in the most direct way I can: Have you ever felt deep, ecstatic love towards anyone/anything, where you have just wanted to explode because you are unable to contain the intensity? The kind of love that has made you feel at peace, also? Have you actively sought it? If it comes your way, would you be reluctant or accepting? Sharing some music to calm you down in case you did not like my question, haha! .