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@Leo Gura You can see he's even arguing with you now. This has reached the point of ridiculousness. Your open-ended statements are not proper forum moderation. You are avoiding a very simple solution(s) here. — AI-assisted summary, reviewed and edited by me. I’m providing direct links so you can evaluate the record yourself. Leo, I want to clarify that my concern is not merely that this became another disrespectful discussion about women. It is that a moderator created the problem, acknowledged it, continued it, and repeatedly used trolling and personalized sexual remarks when challenged. Chronology: Inliytened1 initially admitted that he was being sexist and apologized: comment 1804648. After that apology, he described women as “leftovers” and a “whale”: comment 1804847. He then continued with “ugly,” “fat,” “whale-like” and “old chicks”: comment 1804850. When I entered the public discussion, he told me, “No one asked you,” said I had “nothing,” and implied I had no standing to comment: comment 1805242. He then redirected the discussion toward my sex life, asking whether I had “fucked her” on my car: comment 1805248. The personalized sexual mockery continued. He claimed I was “crying” because I had not gotten “that piece of ass”: comment 1805352. After I deleted a personal sexual story and explained why, he insisted that I could not take it back because everyone now knew how I lost my virginity: comment 1805377. He publicly speculated that you had probably only been laid once and were therefore “mesmerized” by the thread: comment 1805407. He later said that you would not remove him and that, even if you did, he would return “without stars”: comment 1805430. Natasha eventually got him to acknowledge directly that the degrading descriptions were inappropriate: comment 1805516. That concession was valuable, but it did not end the conduct. When you finally instructed everyone to pause and reflect on the disrespect toward women, comment 1805850, his immediate response was to redirect responsibility onto you: “you are the one doing the pickup game, not us”: comment 1805851. He then resumed competing with and mocking you sexually, saying you had “limited ability in this area” and that he surpassed you “by a mile”: comment 1805858. After I pointed out that he was continuing, comment 1805860, he characterized the criticism and moderation as “abuse”: comment 1805864. I am not presenting myself as blameless. I became personally insulting and retaliatory at several points, including making comments about his age, attractiveness and sex life. I accept scrutiny or moderation for those posts. That does not erase the chronology above or the heightened responsibility attached to moderator status. I am not demanding that anyone be banned. I am asking you to review whether repeatedly trolling members, sexualizing criticism, dismissing objections, speculating publicly about your sex life, and suggesting immunity from your authority are compatible with being a moderator. This is broader than whether members are sometimes disrespectful toward women. It concerns whether the moderator responsible for escalating the thread can be trusted to enforce the standards you just stated.

@Leo Gura He is not going to stop. He's literally been making jokes about you and toying with the idea that he has some sort of immunity from you and the forum. This is is not just cruel towards women. It's completely dishonest engagement even after formal acknowledgement. If this is the type of engagement you want on your forum from a mod, then I guess so be it.

@Inliytened1 Yes, he has the power you think you have.

@Leo Gura Then pick better mods to do it, that won’t cause the issue themselves. Simple solution. I'm not asking for anyone to be banned, but this was a weak response. The forum is your responsibility regardless of tiredness.

@Mellowmarsh I agree. He seems like a really good guy. I empathize with the anxiety because he seems really smart and kind, so it's like, fuck. If you just find an exercise or a hobby that makes you feel attractive so you can get over that, the dude is going to end up in a really good relationship.

@LordFall Is this your life purpose: dating/sex? Genuine question.

@Inliytened1 Don't worry, we'll whip you into shape. You'll be getting laid in no time. I'll even teach you how to do it with some class. We see you've been at this conversation basically non-stop since Monday. I already asked the forum to help, but maybe this is just a special project between me and you. How can I help, buddy? Dairy Queen is a restaurant lol

@Inliytened1 Don’t forget about the Dairy Queen table. Forgot about that one

@Inliytened1 😂😂 keep whining bro, you wish Just making shit up and complaining, lol. Can't even help yourself showing some jealousy either

@Inliytened1 Right, for what? You don't even know because my actual logistical engagement with direct points is too much for you to consider, so you still didn't make one here. Quote where I said that. Oh, right, you can't because it was a hypothetical you just made up and I didn’t say that. Please find an outlet for your anger that isn't attacking me without reason.

@Rishabh R If you think someone's a narcissist, it's not worth hearing their side. At least for anything involving people. Don’t you think? Also, consider that he's only been with dozens of women, but yet he's claiming to have this great method he can teach you. And you didn't attack him. You said the truth, brother. You do not need to feel bad about that at all. He is playing mind games with you and himself. — I have not read that book. I'd like you to ask yourself something, though, if you don't mind: - Do you think Lordfall has ever slept with the same woman twice? - Do you think the women wanted him or wanted sex? - How many relationships do you think he's been in? - How many fulfilling connections do you think he's had? - Do you think he always feels satisfied, or does he leave you with the impression that he still wants more? You have to ask yourself the impression people actually give off, despite their words.

@Inliytened1 Don't moralize me. You have no ground to stand on. If you're gonna attack me, better provide an example. Otherwise, go whine somewhere else. You're killing your own attractiveness thing you claim to have.

@Rishabh R Why are you asking someone you just called a narcissist for advice? Do you really think sitting here and fantasizing with another man about talking to a woman is going to help you get anywhere, or would it be better for you just to go do literally anything else and get your mind off this? That's vulnerability. That's admitting you need something and not letting it get in your way. That's attractive. That will not go unnoticed. That will let you be vulnerable in the future. That will build upon itself. I'm not attacking you, man. You're one of the more honest, nice people here. It's not a good look, though. It seems desperate. But for what it's worth, you look like an attractive man, and you mentioned something in sciences. You seem pretty articulate and smart. You've got nothing to worry about. Realizing all that and doing it more and more and letting these thoughts go. That builds confidence. That will reduce your anxiety.

@Rishabh R I understand his theory. I'm not attacking him. I'm putting him in his place, which is very important for some boys.

@Inliytened1 Well, if the argument is you guys are stuck in fantasy, I couldn't agree more.

@Rishabh R Yeah, Lordfall's best response was to call you a narcissist back and then use all caps and bold font to express his little boy anger through the screen. He can't even practice what he preaches. He's a hypocrite, like you said.

@LordFall That's such a narcissistic move to call the person who accused you a narcissist a narcissist, lol. You need to calm down and practice what you preach. Your facade of Mr. Cool Guy who doesn't care has already collapsed. Don't set it on fire!

@Rishabh R They're definitely a narcissist. Good job standing up for yourself. Where you come from definitely matters. It matters epistemologically. It matters emotionally. It matters logistically. It just matters. Anyone who says it doesn’t is avoiding something and certainly isn’t God realized. Thank you for calling that out.

@Inliytened1 The problem is he's undermining his own argument by suggesting an abundance mindset and also that life is so brutal you can't even have manners towards people. Whether he's right about being laid or not, maybe it'd be more effective to portray the brutal mindset nicely then let people act it out for themselves. Besides, if that's a pickup move, there's no need to talk to another man like that unless you're trying to pick him up, right?

@LordFall Why so sensitive then?

Where you are.

Dairy Queen Table

@Inliytened1 Nobody is taking relationship advice from you. Edit - Edit - Edit: Hit my own post limit lmao. I live through the spirit of the edit.

@LordFall There you go, you finally admitted it: "the burden of competence it takes to have results in society." Why don't you just admit you're the one having trouble getting laid?

Aren't you guys getting tired, trolling and making stuff up? See, that's my problem. I can get sucked in here because I just have to keep telling the truth, and that feels so easy compared to what you guys are doing. It also gets you laid, lol, which might be the only helpful tip in this thread.