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In person, for appointments, I only speak when I am spoken to or if I have a question. Otherwise, I just say ‘yeah.’ Most people do not continue talking. If they do, I just keep saying ‘yeah.’ Maybe they get weirded out and ask ‘everything alright’ and I say ‘yeah.’ Then maybe they keep talking but I tune them out and remain silent. If they catch the vibe and ask if I want to talk I say ‘not really.’ If they ask me random questions I don’t care about, something about knowing a word or whatever I say ‘I don’t know.’ And that feels honest to me. I don’t know. I don’t even know if I know in that moment. I don’t care to. Massage! Earbuds obviously work too. I just usually have this problem at the dentist, haircuts, etc. So sometimes there are legitimate questions and also I like zoning out. If I was at a massage and I didn’t want earbuds/and a grown man was asking me dumb questions I’d probably try to get a new massager or just straight up tell him ‘I don’t want to talk’— assuming he starts talking my ear off.

I’ve heard people say “If they fall for the scam, it’s their fault.” Also, this meme.

@mmKay Leo coined the term on his blog. It wasn’t a poem. It was a confession. It took maybe 20 seconds to type.

The more I choose to be honest, the easier it is to cover a lie. Honesty as a bias.

I lie to learn. I tease to learn. I hurt for joy. I bend the rules to see. I see if I can bend the rules. I rationalize the irrational for depth. I distort and conflate for scope. I wonder. And I hate to understand. I ignore experience. I take for granted. I am confused. I confuse others. I am an epistemic scoundrel.

@The Renaissance Man Either way it’s a simplistic embodiment that holds ground only in specific contexts and doesn’t reflect true understanding of women. And that’s really what this is about and what I care about. Understanding (women, anything) and helping others do the same.

@Rafael Thundercat Because the post is not meant to chastise and there is no spotlight. People will hold themselves to the standards they do.

I want integrity. Not perfection. Not agreement. Just the willingness to live by the same standards being taught.

There’s a type of hypocrisy that isn’t loud. It hides behind silence. Behind intellectual prestige. Behind platforms that preach nuance—until nuance starts reflecting back at them. I was recently part of a conversation where the leader—brilliant, insightful, often right—dodged a subtle but important callout. He said: “Don’t speak hard truths to women.” Then proceeded to do just that, harshly, repeatedly. When I pointed it out—not with anger, but clarity—there was no response. Not even a rejection. Just silence. And then the crowd did what crowds do. Labeled. Mocked. Meme’d. Not because I was wrong, but because I respected women without needing to dominate them. Because I didn’t play the expected role. Because I became inconvenient. This post isn’t about blame. It’s about the subtle violence of systems that say “seek truth” —but only if the truth flatters the structure.

@AION Good. You?

Double negative. Do you deny that clothing affects the situation* — At that point having a vagina affects the situation— not clothes. — Man gets punched in face. Shouldn't have had nose. — Sorry. — Man gets punched in face. Shouldn't have had such hittable nose. — If women walked around naked, you should have the respect not to fuck them. If clothes or the type of clothes changes that for you. Cum 3 times before you leave the house, please.

Yeah, men are more likely to be aware of the abuse and put up with it. Women typically get sold a front before the man reveals his true abusive self. Statistically, it is under studied though. And it’s difficult because while abuse towards women is for about 1 in 4 and for men 1 in 9– men are more likely to under report.

Yep

Yep

@Miguel1 Then tell me my agenda. No really, I’m curious. Tell me how much you’ve connected with thousands of women. You were being Braggadocious; arrogant.