You can certainly flip a girl around if she is cold on approach.
But it's not going to be something you do consistently.
Just focus on improving your game rather than aiming for some magical 100% consistency.
Even the best guys in the world get blown out all the time.
I know many guys who are very good. And they have bad nights frequently. It's a very chaotic process.

A) Pay cover.
B) Bribe the bouncer.
C) Grab girls off the street and drag them into the club with you.
D) Find & befriend promoters who can put you on VIP guest list if you bring girls.
E) Make a deep social circle of girls who club regularly and invite them out the club with you.
Option C & D is best.
Some nights in Vegas I might pay $150 cover just to get into the club. Usually I can get in free using a combination of the other options above. And I can often even skip the line.
You can also game outside of clubs around closing time. This is the poor man's option.

You got 4 options:
1) I'm out solo tonight. I'm a man, not a herd animal.
2) My friends are around [point in random direction]
3) Meeting up with them in a bit.
4) I'm too shy to have any friends. [must be said while being very obviously charismatic and extroverted] And change topic.

All your insights here are spot-on.
Stop second-guessing yourself. The mushrooms showed you Truth. Now don't corrupt it with doubt, fear, and human bullhshit.
Love is too profound to be limited to feeling alone. It is not necessary to always feel it.
Since Love is EVERYTHING, it cannot be limited to good feelings.
Yup. Of course.
Now the real spiritual labor begins. Now you see that it will take you years and decades to fully embody the Truth. So it's not so fast.
Love/Truth/God transcends practicality. But if you follow up these trips with serious spiritual practice then practical results will come. It's a long term process that takes years to snowball.
You were shown a preview of what's possible after years of serious study and practice.

Compliments are rarely necessary or even used.
The most I will compliment a girl I just met is "you are sexy" or "you are cute" or "you are adorable". That's it. And these phrases are used to establish sexual intent.
As the conversation deepens, compliments can be made on things you genuinely like about her personality or lifestyle. This is genuine.
No, you are building a new connection with a human from scratch. Ideally the girl is not insecure. You're not hunting for insecure girls to prey on. You're hunting for the highest quality girl you can find, but physically and psychologically. You're not trying to attract some poor broken girl.
Lots of women are genuinely flattered by a solid approach. Some women light up and it makes her day, even if she is married or has a boyfriend.
Getting approached is a huge ego boost for her. And even many beautiful women are insecure about their looks so getting complimented on that makes them feel good.
If a random girl approached you and told you that she thinks you're handsome, you would feel awesome.
Besides, attractive girls get hit on all the time. They are used to it. It's no big deal. If you don't approach her, some other guy with more balls than you will, and she will sleep with him.
Actually, a lot of technical practice leads to exactly this.
Technical practice not only dials in your outer game, but most importantly your inner game. If you do 10,000 approaches and rigorously dial in your game you will fix the broken inner foundation along the way.
Genuinely relishing giving charisma is what game teaches you.
10,000 approaches will produce massive inner changes in you. You will become like a new person by the end of that.

That depends on what you want out of life.
For me it was worth it, not because of the sex I got but because of how much stronger it made me as a man. To me that is priceless. The sex is a nice bonus. I don't recommend doing pickup for the sex.

Go out and party with some friends/wings. Just party until you let loose and just enjoy being social.
This is a deeper issue than attracting girls.
You gotta train yourself to have fun. Which can be quite challenging if you've have been trained otherwise.
Alcohol was invented precisely because it's hard for many people to let loose and have fun while sober. But it can be done. I don't recommend using alcohol as a crutch for this. I have never use alcohol and I can have a blast clubbing sober with a good wing.

Dude, then your problem isn't lack of humor. You don't need to run a comedy routine for a girl for 4 hours to get her to sleep with you.
Humor is mostly necessary only in the beginning. Once she is attracted, you then need to shift in to building deep intimacy, connection, and comfort. This is what the majority of your date should be about. You do this not through humor but by sharing stories from your life, your values, your dreams, your passions, and asking about hers. Little humor is necessary here. And then while you're doing that you must also ramp up the physical escalation. Once you're 2hrs+ into a date most of the work should be done via just silence and physical escalation. Your hands should be all over her body by that point, you should be leading her around, kissing her, making out, heavy sexual eye contact, and getting her horny.
You don't need to be a dancing monkey. And you don't need a bunch of vapid small talk. Get to the business of turning her body on. You're here to fuck her, not to play talk show host.
You need to learn the power of silence and simply eye contact. Talk way slower.
It's not gonna be boring if your properly physically escalate and are making her horny.

@Karmadhi Which is why I told you that some dates simply won't spark.
The point of a date is to see if things will spark. The solution is to do lots of dates with lots of folk.

@Karmadhi Be less logical, more emotional, more intimate, more flirty, more physical escalation. Basically treat her like she is already your GF. When you walk with her, put your arm around her. Interlock fingers.
Physical escalation is very powerful once you get good at it.
Tease her.
Talk about interesting things.
Crazy strong eye contact.
Poke her. Tickle her.
Bounce around to multiple nearby locations.

If you get addicted to it, then obviously that's a problem you must address.
For me it has never been a big deal. In fact porn has helped me a lot to focus my energies on my work and other important things. Porn has also helped me figure out which physical features I want in a girl.
Without porn I would have to invest way more time chasing girls. Which is not necessarily bad, but I also had much higher priorities.
Porn is also helpful for curbing neediness and thirstiness.
The best solution to curb porn is to pour all that energy into socializing and attracting real girls. When I got into pickup I was so busy learning and going out I barely had time for or interest in porn.

The reality is that even if you meet your dream partner tomorrow, you will fail to attract her and lose her because you have insufficient experience to pull it off. And even if you get lucky enough to sleep with her, you will lose her later on, because you don't know how to manage her with confidence.
In practice it's a shit strategy. Your dream partner will quickly dismiss you for some more experienced dude. Chances are high that your dream partner will not even kiss you because you are so clueless. But she will happily suck the dick of some player who pumps her emotions and knows how to lead. So while you sit there at home fawning over your dream partner, she will be sucking some player's dick and she will really enjoy it. She will be moaning his name, not your name.
These are the harsh realities of how dating works. It does not work like in the movies. You have to man up if you want quality girls. She's going to sleep with a solid man, not an immature needy boy with fantasies of romantic love. And there will not be any relationship until you get her to sleep with you. She will have zero loyalty to you until then. You will be less important to her than a zit on her ass.

Stop listening to dating advice from women! They have no clue how things actually work. Everything works the opposite of what they say.
This was such a needy text, sealing in her mind that you have no balls.
The reason your girl felt you "didn't click" was because she didn't feel you had the balls to handle her. In order to let you fuck her she needs to feel that you are above her. Your lack of leadership and neediness demonstrated the opposite.
This is what happens when you don't learn game. You will lose lots of girls like this because growing balls takes a lot of work for most men.
I know it stings man. But it is this sting which you need to motivate you to actually start learning game and become a stronger man. Leverage that sting as fuel to develop yourself massively in this area.
Since you are so inexperienced this result was predictable. But that's okay. The only way to get better with girls is thru lots of failure.
You got lucky that you got that date at all.

Obviously
If you never compromise on anything you are basically too selfish and immature to be in any kind of healthy long-term relationship with anyone.
My philosophy is: be alpha but treat your woman really well as long as she is deeply invested in you. And aim to maximize intimacy. This will give you a great mix of both player and provider traits that women will find irresistible. She wants a player who will invest in her. Lead her into deep intimacy.

Because you might say that is "pure" consciousness. And because humans are so attached to forms that they can't see the pure empty consciousness at the heart of things.
You could use that as a technique.
But you could also do the opposite and meditate on forms.
It goes full-circle in the end. You can traverse the circles from either direction.

Of course. Truth cannot be a choice.
Truth can only be a tautology. 1 = 1, A = A.
Everything is precisely whatever it is. And to fully accept that is Love.
It's only the ego-mind that needs things to be otherwise than whatever they are.
Peace can only come with tautology, when there is no choice. Choice is stress, not peace.

As I have said, call it whatever you want, but in the end you better have ONE thing, otherwise you're in duality.
All modes of existence are consciousness. Existence IS consciousness. And existence is Absolute. You can't have something other to existence.
You need a much broader notion of Consciousness, one that includes all possible modes, zones, parts, etc. Whatever the fuck you think there is, call that Consciousness and be done with it.
"But Leo, what if then there's some other thing beyond that?"
NO! Get that there cannot be. You cannot have some part of reality which is cut off from the rest of reality or from yourself. All of it has to be ONE in the end.
So you can ask this lady, How many realities are there? And if she says anything more than ONE, she's up to no good.

Cessation is your imagination. Non-existence and unconsciousness doesn't exist.
You have no proof of cessation, you never experienced cessation.
If you think you had a cessation and that it was like skipping a few moments, like teleporting a few moments into the future, then that was literally what happened. The inbetween doesn't exist. If you think there was something, then it is something/existence/consciousness. 
You can't experience non-existence, and if you could, it would be existence.
 
It is certainly possible to have what seems like a cessation, and after the cessation your state of consciousness might be different. But that doesn't say anthying. Even if you have a radically different brain chemistry and are fully enlightened after a cessation, doesn't mean that cessation exists. 
In the same way as you gaining weight from eating food doesn't mean that the food caused that. No causation. God just imagined you gaining weight, it had nothing to do with the food.
God is really good in creating illusions. God even manages to sell you the idea that unconsciousness/cessation/nonexistence exists, by imagining benefits from skipping moments (cessation), so the mind thinks, that there must have been something during that cessation, because what else would be responsible for the benefits that occur after cessation, lol.

I don't normally feel a need to share, but I felt a deep calling to share this one with the community. I just released a video on my YouTube channel about my experiences meditating 2 hours per day for a year. If you're interested in hearing about what deep, consistent meditation practice looks like, check it out. If not, you still may find the below post useful.
Below, I elaborate on some of recent feelings regarding the forum and this whole meditation vs. psychedelics debate, as well as share more in depth about my meditation journey.
Lately, there seems to be a growing chasm in the Actualized.org community regarding psychedelics and then other spiritual practices such as meditation. In one camp, we have people raving about the power of psychedelics, how they provide higher levels of awakening, raise consciousness to higher degrees and how psychedelics more or less shit on other sober practices like meditation, being far superior for Spiritual Awakening or more recently "God Realization." In the other camp, you have people who are against this growing sentiment regarding psychedelics. I seem to have fallen into the latter camp.
Initially, I was extremely pro-psychedelics, believing spiritual teachers who more or less dismissed them were full of shit. Let me be clear, I am still pro-psychedelics and still believe many spiritual teachers who dismiss them are full of shit. I have achieved enormous amounts of healing, enormous amounts of spiritual growth, have elevated my baseline levels of compassion and understanding using these tools to degrees that I cannot attribute to anything other than psychedelics. They've propelled my meditation practice into levels and depths that I do not see other meditators achieving, even serious practitioners with more experience. They've tested the limits of my sanity, broken my conceptual paradigms over and over, provided absurdly magical, mystical, and profound journeys into the fringes of consciousness… The journeying has been utterly beautiful and I still have every intention to continue their use for these purposes of exploration. At the very least, they're fun! And even after some heart wrenchingly dark trips, like borderline traumatizing trips that almost feel like they've left scars on the energy body/soul, all of my trips have been nectar for the True Self awakening to what it really is.

However, after my first 9 day vipassana meditation retreat, there was a 180 degree paradigm shift. Originally, I was using meditation as a tool to propel my psychedelic journeying to deeper levels. I was successful; the harder I meditated, the deeper my trips became. Yet after that retreat, something very primordially deep shifted, almost like an internal earthquake, a transformation at the level of soul, at a level of self identity which transcends individual lifetimes and is instead the self activity driving reincarnation into subsequent and past lives (I don't know the validity of this necessarily, only that the experience points to something 'like' that). I spent 5 straight days in the most heightened states of consciousness I've ever experienced, essentially tripping balls while being completely sober. Every time I sat to formally practice, reality would just melt into and out of itself. My concentration had penetrated so deeply into the present moment, I was just watching infinite intelligence spontaneously emerge, moment by moment, while simultaneously being palpably conscious of the boundless, formless void of God as giving rise and fall to these microscopically transient fluctuations of formed experience. The space of consciousness would boundlessly expand into infinity as the formless jhanas, and contract into a singularity of non-existence… It is a challenge using words to describe just how profoundly powerful these meditative states really were. Since this retreat and after 2 other vipassana retreats within the span of the next 5 months, these types of mystical experiences have become regular. By the end of this first retreat, I realized psychedelics are tools for plunging more deeply into meditation first and foremost, not the other way around. While rigorous meditation will certainly facilitate deeper trips, meditation will also uproot the attachment to psychedelics as the means by which we awaken to God.
Though I do respect the authority and individuality of everyone's path, from what I read on the forum, Leo and those who align with Leo's paradigm have vastly underestimated the potential for meditation and utterly misunderstood the true nature of God. It is very clear to me Leo understands the mechanics of God, his videos are evidence of this, but true understanding of God is the embodiment of God in all moments, not in the transient states of psychedelic trips nor the intellectual conceptualizations about reality after the fact. Furthermore, the paradigm that claims it understands God because of psychedelics and meditation is peanuts in comparison is a paradigm NOT based in direct experience. It is a paradigm based on reifications of self that happen when the ego structure reforms after a deep psychedelic trip. Without the appropriate attentional skills (mindfulness) sober meditation trains, this paradigm occurs at an unconscious level, at a belief level, at a level that is silently creating the context by which psychedelic experiences are conceptualized after the fact.
Of course such an explicit criticism will most likely be met with opposition by the ego structure, an authority built behind "You don't know what you're talking about, I've achieved levels so far beyond all teachers, teaching or techniques. Your awakening is far less than mine! Etc. Etc." But please keep in mind, I have enormous experience with tripping. Not just tripping, tripping fucking balls. Please look at my past trip reports as evidence. This position I'm coming from is from the very principles Leo promotes - radical open-mindedness, experimentation, rigorous work ethic, balance, taking my own authority, existential curiosity for knowing what is really true.
 
Now let's be clear -
 
The True Nature of God
God is none other than this moment, exactly as it is.
This moment, exactly as it is appearing in all of its ignorance, entanglement, delusion, and suffering is an expression of divine perfection, as none other than the love of God.
The capacity for God to awaken to itself is infinite.
The context out of which experience expands out of, and contracts back into, moment by moment, is God.
You as what you really are, is God.
God is not an ego structure, but an ego structure is God.
God is Mind.
The human mind is not God, but arises out of God, as God.
God is pure intelligence.
God is pure imagination, manifest.
God is pure formlessness, unmanifest.
 
The True Nature of Love
Love is that which holds space for all states of consciousness.
When the mind stops pushing and pulling at experience through the contraction of craving and aversion, the surface level of the human mind slowly comes into union with God's Love. In Buddhism this is referred to as Equanimity.
Equanimity is Love. As the activities of the human mind cultivate Equanimity, you are merging into the union with divine, Absolute Love.
Notice, the Universe never fights with itself; the actuality of what is happening is the IS exactly as it is appearing as itself. As the Universe permits the actuality of what is, is radical permission of all form, as Love. A mind which radically permits all form, regardless of state, is a mind that embodies Absolute Love. This form of love is heart wrenching, heart cracking because it recognizes the necessity, role, and beauty of horror, delusion, suffering, atrocity.
All states of consciousness are Loved, recognized in divine equilibrium.
Absolute Love is not an emotion, perception, or transient form, but the context out of which all forms appear.
 
The True Nature of Self
You are the field from which all arises, passes, emerges, and vanishes.
You are comprehensible through direct incomprehension.
You are the expansion and contraction of all phenomena.
You are the expansion and contraction as all phenomena.
You are the context out of which all phenomena expand and contract.
You are the witness that sees self activity act its drama.
You are the witness, witnessing, and witnessed.
You are the witness of the witness.
You are the space from which time and space manifest themselves into and out of existence.
You are the womb, the creator, the created, simultaneously.
You are the grain of sand and the Sahara. 
You are the wave in the ocean and the ocean.
You are paradox itself.
You are the absolute unknown mystery, as well as the humility and arrogance that proports to understand.
You are the nothing at all, the still point where all points of reality envelope, develop and exist as unmanifest potentiality.
You are yourself, exactly where you are, as you are.
You are always here; you are always now.
You could never have been more or less you.
If these types of insights and pointers are only deeply available through psychedelics, if you believe you cannot become palpably conscious of these insights and pointers through meditation, then your paradigm may very well be backwards. A psychedelic insight's true utility is to bring back the insight into lived, everyday, mundane experience. How can we effectively do that? Meditation. A LOT of meditation.
There are two fundamental lessons we will learn from deep meditation practice.
1) Meditation can take us into states rivaling and surpassing the profundity of psychedelics, while doing so in a way which actually trains the mind to access these states without the need for psychedelics.
2) Right where we are, exactly as we are, is Absolute Truth. This is the beginning of the final awakening that 'what we are' truly seeks. The self activity keeps going, the dramas of life keep playing. The awakenings pull us ever deeply into the unimaginable depths of consciousness, yet on some level 'what we are' understands that what it is cannot exclude even the most unconscious of states.
The appreciation I have for Actualized.org is ineffable. I found Leo at an inflection point in my life, a point where I was so lost. It was Leo's brash, borderline arrogant teaching style that cracked open my mind to start questioning itself. It was Leo's wit and philosophical intelligence that forced me to challenge my long held intellectual positions about the nature of self, mind, and consciousness. It was Leo's channel that invigorated my interest in psychedelics and facilitated a Hero's journey across the internal cosmos. It was Leo's channel that lead me to understand my own authority and limitation. It was Leo's channel that challenged me to become a true sage, mystic, and lover of Truth. It was Leo's channel that propelled me to take self-actualization and the cornerstone practice of meditation even more seriously.

But it is precisely because of Leo that I write these words. It is precisely because I Leo that I so vehemently disagree with the direction this forum is heading. And in a sense, I'm writing into the collective here, urging, challenging and demanding that this community, an actual gem for humanity, not get pulled off track.

And yet Actualized.org will do and become whatever it will. As a move and practice of detachment, and love, I won't be spending as nearly as much energy trying to pull back on the collective ego that is caught in the hamster wheel of samsara, constantly seeking the illusion of deeper, more grandiose awakenings. As long as you're meditating, you will awaken to infinite degrees of consciousness until you die; you don't need psychedelics to do it. And as you're awakening to the true nature of God, you will lose attachment to all of it.
When you finally awaken, you will let yourself unfold in its own time, in its own sequence.
When you finally awaken, you will recognizing the perfection of every step up the mountain, honoring the necessity of every grain of sand, blessing the flow of each drop in the ocean.
 
Unity will emerge
As infinity unfolds
Life will be death
And all states, surrendered
 
All moments will be one
A seeking which as was sought
All delusions to be none
Contractions of craving
Finally, undone
 
As children, we'll keep growing
Expanding evermore
But in the light of Truth,
Does this moment truly soar
In the Love of God
Perfection's indiscriminate pour
 
I am happy to answer any questions below.
I wish all of you well on your path. Perhaps you may find value in my perspective, perhaps not. Thank you for your path, thank you for your dharma, in whatever form it takes on.

With Love,
You
 

@Leo Gura It concerns me that you seem to not fully understand the impact that your videos can have. I have had experiences like yours even naturally. I had a long period of time in my life where I couldn't look someone in the eyes without feeling like I was going to fall into them. I have also been able to merge with others. I also have had a near death experience and taken lsd and mushrooms where I was able to see that God was simultaneously being created by and constantly creating the individual. Hard to express but it was like cells in a body constantly dying and regenerating.  This was one of my first lsd trips. Even with all of these experiences I feel that the bible and Jesus's teachings have a better understanding of what is going on here. To claim to understand God fully in my opinion is delusion and arrogance. I think you are in dangerous territory my friend. I have experienced actual evil and have felt my heart turn completely cold and had to call out to God I am telling you there is something outside of us and its our hearts that connect us to that love and to God. 
 I understand what you are saying in your videos but telling teenagers that someone they deeply love isn't "real" is very very dangerous and it honestly infuriates me. I think you need to understand the impact your videos can have. Just because from an ultimate sense this life is just a blip does not mean it doesn't have meaning for the individual. Loving your wife is real, loving your children is real, and its why we are here! God did not create all of this just to bypass it or lessen the experience of it and the beauty of it.  You are missing a key component of being here and potentially RUINING the lives of others.  We did not come here in order to become one again with God. We came here to be the beautiful beings that we are. We came here to experience life not to become ego-less. You need to take responsibility for the stuff you are putting out there because I am telling you, you are missing half of the equation and potentially causing major harm to many people. 

Enlightenment is painful. As you spiral up the mountain, the air gets thinner. The demons of your conditioning become increasingly fierce. They recognize their impending demise. It is not an easy epiphany. Be prepared to fight through the dark night of the soul.
When you finally let go of the conditioned mind, seeing it for the chattering monkey that it is, there is spaciousness, which is who you actually are.

Hello dear people, 
 
With which phrase have you had better results in self inquiry? 

God:
YOU, the ultimate creator of reality. Love, Infinity, Truth, Consciousness, Everything, Nothing. That which has no other. That which created itself. Omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent. Universal Mind. The Absolute. An infinite dreamer.

In practice you don't need to worry about it. As you reach higher levels of wokeness you can assess for yourself how much woker you wish to go.
Obviously the highest levels of wokeness are not suitable for almost anyone. Only the hardest of the hardcore.
This is also the beauty of psychedelics. They can give you a preview of how woke you could be, and if you even want that. So you can take wokeness out for a test drive without buying the car. And if you happen to love the car, then buy it.
One of the greatest things psychedelics taught me is just how much I innately love consciousness.

All experience is Absolute Truth.
If you're not conscious of this, you're not really awake.
Forest creatures are as much a product of your mind as the Eiffle Tower.
Don't get stuck on the content of consciousness. The content is irrelevant and it is always imaginary.