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Not sure how long you plan to keep the forum active, but I can see this as a very good move because as my life purpose starts to gain traction you better believe I'm going to be directing a lot of attention to actualized.org and the life purpose course through my projects.

I use Google Voice typing all the time. I used it to write my book.

@UlaxThat's so inefficient! What's way better is to just create a Tulpa of Leo such that Leo is present in your everyday consciousness at all times.

I've been spending countless hours reading through this thread. Currently I'm reading page 2. I've dissected Leo's lecture on the topic, and I have read Cutler's book. I will let you know if I have any questions, but I am curious to know what your research process looks like, as you seem to be pretty good at pulling sources together. Also, how much time do you think you've spend researching?

That's wild

(Inb4 just telling me to just do more approaches.) The worst part about game is not during, but the day after when my mind starts to reflect and it starts to become an echo chamber of the worst sets. Sets where I get bullied, sets where women are just being immature with the way they reject me, etc. As time goes on, I naturally recover, but I honestly would like to recover within a couple minutes rather than having it distract me from my work for the entire next day. What are your best techniques to process these experiences and quickly move on? Context I've overcome a lot of hurdles as of recent. I had some really bad nights, but I chose to keep going and do more approaches. I will not stop approaching because I know I am headed on a trajectory of personal development and growth. Last night I managed to do 42 approaches towards women in 27 sets with women in it (so I would run approaches on multiple women in a group for example. I don't count approaches to just men.) No matter how tough it is, I won't tap out. I am aware of the learning curve of pickup being very high, very brutal and extremely emotionally difficult. Sure, I have had thoughts of quitting, but I wouldn't be able to become the teacher people need me to be if I back down, so I wont. At this point, I'm getting pretty good at just surrendering to the gauntlet of approaching. Most of these problems out here are just solved by doing more approaches as Leo says. Additional Ruminations and Questions Leo says: "Stick it out to the end of the night" I do not see the practicality of staying in the last hour of the club when I have not even yet built the skill of doing solid approaches, building rapport, and establishing premise. Until I learn how to hold a good set on a consistent basis, I see no need to stay out in the last hour. Plus, in the last hour, it gets incredibly aggressive and most people already have paired up. Leo Says: "Clear Your Mind As You Approach" What do you mean by "clearing your mind", I need to hold at least set of openers in my mind, I'll then say the opener that holds the most congruence, I will then immediately clear my mind such that I can calibrate to the conversation. How do you find better wings? Game global is kind of a crap source for my city. At this point, I feel like I need to just focus on my life purpose so that I can earn the money to move to Vegas or something where the whole nightlife is better. Yet at the same time, I still see it as practical to still do game in the city I'm in in the mean time. Since game takes a long time to develop, I don't see it as wise to shelf doing game for a while. Yet at the same time, survival is knocking at the door, and waking up at 5AM would be a whole lot better than waking up at 10AM to facilitate a pickup lifestyle. (I am unemployed ATM, so I do have my time to myself, but if I ever need to run to the store or something before it closes, I will have to interrupt my routines throughout my day.) I thought about just looking at the guys in the club that have game and then turning them into my clubbing buddies, but I have an extremely tough time to build rapport with these people that appear to be "high value men" that have good game. If I plan to go down that road more, I need to shift my approach, still have to figure this out. I notice that I avoid physical escalation because I am aware that my hands are always cold as fuck. My body in general seems to operate at a colder temperature on the surface of my skin. I tried to dance to warm my body up, which works, but I would need to to that periodically throughout the night. I am considering using a heat pack in my back pocket to warm my hands up lmao. I am always holding water because otherwise my throat would get dry as fuck where it's rough to speak because it's such a loud club that I go to. That also makes one of my hands tied and also makes it cold lol. Does holding that water sub communicate an unwanted perception of me being sober? Is holding an object holding be back from physical escalation? (I don't think so) I'm noticing that I have siloed my life so much that I find it hard to talk to people outside my few niche interests. I need to consume more popular media in the social matrix to be able to create conversations that people can relate to more. I need to find great sources of news/tabloids to help facilitate this. It's such a pain in the ass to have to carry 100% of the conversation, for men AND women, but that just be how it is. When I do the random sentence string practice routine (From the video how to be funny), I find that all of my sentence strings start to silo around my own life, self improvement, and empowering self talk. Which makes me think that I'm doing the practice routine incorrectly. Where a better approach to that exercise would be to try to make it as random as possible such that you train your mind to free-associate random topics. Thoughts on that?

Out of approximately 200 approaches I got bullied once. Don't worry, it's not very common. It just is a pain in the ass to shake off because it is a hot button for me because of a trauma for being bullied my entire life. Perhaps it's an opportunity to do some shadow work on, and that girl just created the perfect experience to reflect on. The energy of the set triggered me, and I should have set a quick boundary and left before it went super down hill. Like I had another set that night where a girl straight up said I'm too short for her, and I feel no emotional negativity to that because of how secure I am about that part of myself. (I'm 5'3") I worried that when I worded it like that it would give off that kind of vibe. This is not how I frame it. I do not have a negative self talk like this. Just had it hit me a little harder that day because of a trauma button and also I just had my employment plans uprooted so I don't know where my next income source is from. So I was a less grounded at the time. As I write this, I am a lot more grounded as I had a few days to process it and sleeping on it desensitizes it. Plus doing HIT workouts desensitizing it helps plenty. Yeah I'm noticing that I need to first feel the sting of a negative experience before I learn how to react to it. I am not one to think fast in the moment. As beneficial as going to a club on a psychedelic seems, I think that any negative blowouts will massively throw the entire trip. Even a micro dose. I think it would be a very bad idea for me to do psychedelics in the club. And MDMA I have very little interest in doing. Only curious in doing MDMA in combination with DMT. I'm entertaining the idea to transition fully into day game for the next while. As my productivity would massively benefit from an earlier sleep schedule. According to my new wing, the malls are packed with hot girls at certain times. I always appreciate your insight Leo, thank you. I appreciate the idea of saying it 20-50 times out loud, makes total sense. Every set really do be a lesson out here. I think focusing more on acceptance of what happened will help me a lot. I notice that I need to pay attention more to accepting what happened, processing the emotion, use my notes/learnings from "How to forgive anyone who hurt you" video if required, and also just try to remain more objective and curious about what happened, what could be done differently, and move on.

Hey guys, I would like to share with you one of the BEST techniques I have found for controlling my phone addiction: BUYING A SECOND PHONE! Super duper counterintuitive! Since buying my second phone, I have found that my addiction to YouTube has completely VANISHED overnight! I still like to use YouTube to access Leo's videos and whatnot, just having it on the main phone is not good. Having YouTube on my main phone is the equivalent to keeping a crack pipe that's ready to smoke in my pocket at all times. I inevitably always waste at least an hour when YouTube is on my main phone. This is because I would use YouTube a lot for music and podcasts, and now I just use Spotify. Spotify is way less distracting than YouTube with their clickbait thumbnails and #shorts. Buy yourself one of those refurbished phones on Amazon, and you'll be happy with the price and the performance you will get. On your main phone, delete all the apps that distract you. For me the big one was YouTube. But don't stop there, nuke all the apps that distract you like crazy. Then, dedicate your second phone as your “distraction phone”. This is where you can put all your distracting apps. Then, set rules as to where your distraction phone is allowed to be located. You want to have your distraction phone to be restricted from the areas that create the highest distraction opportunities. For example, my distraction phone is not allowed to be in my office, my bedroom, my bathroom or at the dinner table. Create habits for you to turn off your distraction phone during certain hours. I'll usually also create habits of turning off my main phone just so no one can contact me while I'm working in the morning. Also keep your main phone on "do not disturb" for the first 12 hours of your waketime. Hope this helps!

lolwhat

Where can I find more information about this? @Leo Gura Should one do the same with 5MEO DMT, 5MEO MALT?, MDMA?

That recontextualizes for me so much about why women behave the way they do. That makes sense too, most people don't have the emotional support to be able to have that vulnerability.

Holy fuck guys I'm killing myself laughing You're totally right, it is MDMA. I fucked up lmao. Like I said, I haven't tested them yet so I haven't even identified which one was which cause I ordered them at the same time lmfao. HERE'S my DMT. @Girzo @acidgoofy @Leo Gura @Juan @thepixelmonk @Chives99

Still gotta test my DMT, but how does it look?

Can relate. Wanted to one time Stab myself with thumbtacks to inquire into the nature of pain. Another time I had this idea to brand myself with a burn as a symbol of commitment to my higher ideals. And the pain in the subsequent days will be a constant reminder to do better. One time there was the freedom convoy rioting outside of of nowhere at the peak of my highest LSD trip. Another time I was on LSD, I had a annoying guy that wouldn't stop texting me about a fucking $10 purchase. Pissed me the fuck off! Another time I was so high on mushrooms that I couldn't even use my phone and me and my mom that was also high as fuck were near an area with a very high chance of seeing a bear. Was also in the blistering heat. Shit was a fucking mission. Other times I had anxiety attacks basically every day for a month.

LMAO all my wings suck ass and they're honestly a hindrance to my game. I do better when I just start approaching alone.

This is one of my biggest goals with Awakening. That and realizing I'm immortal.

Guys, what does the Brita System Do?

It's better than google.

@Leo Gura there's no way you've done that, right?

I realize that I do not have an explicit enough definition of self Deception to identify my own self Deceptions. This has been a problem for me. As I would like to learn how to derive my own list of discovered self deceptions. Any pointers guys?

This needs to become a pinned post.

How does one build awareness around the moments they have negative self talk? I am having a very hard time finding any negative self talk in my direct experience, either my awareness is too sloppy or I don't have it. What are the best ways to install a new operating system of self talk? Great book suggestions are massively appreciated here.

Kambo is definetly on my to do list.

Noted.

How many days do you do the protocol?