Tangerinedream

Being hairy doesn’t mean being unclean - of course trimming down the bush and keeping maintained is nice. But mostly it’s down to the fetishisation of young girls, and of course, porn being so ingrained into society. Society wants women to stay young. It’s only very recently that very young girls have been less and less sexualised by the media and Hollywood. There is an interesting podcast series called ‘lolita podcast’ it delves into the depths of Hollywood and the sexualisation of children, pretty much up until the 2000s. Discusses the book Lolita and how the story was twisted from the original meaning, it was so common for much older men to be sleeping with teenagers 13+. Anyway I don’t want to detail the thread but just thought yous might be interested in that podcast

I mean, is it not supposed to be a fun thing where everyone takes turns dancing and switching partners? Like a class or is it a dating thing for meeting partners? Maybe you are thinking of it too much in the way that whoever you dance with it means you like them and are afraid they get the wrong idea and then you get trapped by them or something. Try and just have a good time and maybe you can learn something from older women

Who is the musician ?

Friendzone isn’t also the same as being rejected outright by someone you don’t know well. Friendzone is so infamous because It usually happens after 2 people have been hanging out together a lot in a friendly way, then one person makes a move, and then they are told ‘sorry but I only like you as a friend and nothing more’ and that’s when you have been friendzoned.

Friendzoning is done before anything sexual happens. Basically you get friendzoned if the other person has no attraction for you. You feel attracted to them but it’s not reciprocated and nothing more happens. Friendzoning would be the same for guy and girl - they like someone but the other person doesn’t feel the same and nothing romantic or sexual pursues. The example you mentioned where the girl is used for sex, that’s just normally where there has been some attraction initially, but then the guy or girl doesn’t want to commit. Maybe they liked each other at first but then one person didn’t want to pursue the relationship or something. And that would be more of a situationship and not the same as friendzone.

Is going through a lot of emotional turmoil and anxiety about making a decision a sign that you should let the choice pass? I’m under pressure to decide on whether or not to take a job - but there is a lot of resistance I have against it. Ultimately because it’s not in alignment with what I want to do, even though I would be in a better situation that what I am in now. The person that wants me to work with them is very persistent about me going there and keeps making different offers and really wants me to go there. But I don’t feel totally happy or excited about it but I’m considering going simply because it would be a change and I would learn new stuff. But what they want is that I am committed to being on the team where as what I want is more independence. I’m trying to understand if if the resistance is a sign not to accept or if it’s just anxiety and inability to make a decision. Or even commitment phobia. ???

The new doco on Netflix shows old footage of him before he hit the big time in the early 2000s. Crazy to think how big he became. As annoying as Kanye can be these days and the huge narcissist that he became, it’s fascinating to watch that raw ambition and creativity in the early days.. Great example to see of someone who has a vision and doesn’t give up on it.

@Roy it’s called ‘Jeen-Yuhs’ and it’s on Netflix. yeah I know all we see of him is what is portrayed in the media, he seems like a nice guy in this documentary, it is before he got famous. I always liked his music although I haven’t really kept up with his more recent stuff.

I don’t think these things you listed are about being stage red per se. Actually, I think this is more about developing healthy masculine traits and feeling more empowered as a woman. People in general who possess more feminine traits lack these positive masculine ones. If there is no balance then that is when you develop shadow feminine traits like lack of assertiveness and weak boundaries. You can be in stage red and still not possess these qualities you speak of. For example a stage red woman might have weak boundaries and be a doormat to an aggressive and abusive stage red man whilst she is also engaging in toxic behaviour. Then as she learns to stand up for herself and develops more strong boundaries I think especially for women these assertive qualities develop more in stage orange along with feminine empowerment. i grew up in a stage red environment and still didn’t learn assertiveness or how to deal with confrontation or standing up for myself. I was still misbehaving and rebelling against authority whilst being quiet as a mouse and having morals. But this also has to do with the fact my mother was very stage blue and also feared confrontation so she passed that on to us. what I suggest you do is read or listen to some positive, non-aggressive feminist podcasts etc. to help you with feeling more empowered as a woman and help you develop those masculine traits.

Good, and yes, you are one of the biggest examples here and people look to you with a lot of authority/guide so would be nice if you would also take more responsibility for things you say. Especially in the dating section and with regards to women in particular. Infact, let’s be honest, one of the reasons for a lot of the drama going on there is because of things you’ve said which trigger the girls here. ? I’ve said it before many times, maybe I should move on and quit the forum for a while. would be nice to see the forum growing in a more loving direction. the forum is a reflection of you, so when you are seeing us as immature or causing drama, or saying vulgar things, it’s you too.

Thanks. Well Tangerine Dream is a German electronic band from the 70s, and at the time I made this account my hair was a peach colour and I was listening to one of tangerine dreams albums.. lol

It can both be true. I’m not trying to blame him, just calling out stuff he says. He makes a lot of claims about Women so don’t be surprised when women have something to say bout it lol

Yes. Why do you think so many women fake orgasms? Because they aren’t turned on enough to be able to cum.

Yes I agree with you here. It’s so hard for people to form any real connections these days, everyone seems so shallow, yet also not willing to put effort in a o getting to know someone, people treat eachother as disposable garbage. Mix all that in with the brains addiction dopamine, It’s the same way we are all addicted to social media. It’s not even about the sex or the relationships anymore, it’s only about the quick dopamine rush. That’s what makes porn so appealing. It’s easier and less effort. You don’t have to try and connect with someone. What I experienced in the past was when I just casually started to watch porn, it became a habit, and every night before bed it was like I had to watch porn, as casually as checking Facebook. I was single at the time, was finding it hard to meet people to form real connections with. I didn’t get any kind of connection or needs met from watching it though. it was just quick transaction. I actually started to recoil at the idea of sex with a real person. It seemed easier to watch porn.

There is no point trying to convince him, he would rather blame the woman than face that his brain is hooked on the stimulation of porn.. I mean why not tell the woman what you want her to do in bed? Some girls are also inexperienced. It’s just stupid to blame someone else.

Haha I know. But Leo said he only watches ‘high quality’ so I’m imagining a hot shot studio with the best cameras, lights and the best looking actors and all the trimmings.

if a girl is bored she’s just not that hot for you. Could be tired, but mostly just not into you enough. She feels like of ‘blah’ about it. Especially someone you don’t know and have just pulled from the club or whatever.

@Something Funny the point is that they are acting, over many hours and doing lots of different takes to get perfect shots and angles. Your mind becomes programmed to it, so then you automatically associate cumming, with watching porn, so then it’s hard to cum without it because you keep needing more and more stimulation. It’s not that the ‘in person’ sex is bad, it’s that it’s not stimulating enough for what your brain has been wired to. Im also speaking from experience, I have had a low key addiction to porn before, couldn’t orgasm without it.

“Many girls suck at sex” and that’s how porn corrupts your mind, porn is not real life it’s a fantasy and ‘real people’ will never live up to that. If you (people) weren’t watching porn all the time you wouldn’t be comparing every woman or man to it. No wonder people are insecure about sex.

Please no ?? I remember seeing those things on late night tv when I was a kid and being creeped out.. lol.

I’m feeling alright now. Still a bit tenderness under my arm and my boobs hurt. Other than that I’m ok. Thanks for asking.

Is it safe to use or should we be wary of being in trouble for ‘illegal downloading’ ?

Well it seems like they are resistant anyway, every boosted person I know has been really sick with Covid. Vaccine doesn’t work for everyone, it’s a gamble. Then there are people who didn’t catch it at all when they were around people who had it. For example my brother didn’t catch it when his wife and kids got it and he didn’t isolate from them. I didn’t catch it yet but I think that comes down to me not really mixing with people I don’t know, mostly it’s just me and my boyfriend doing stuff together like getting food or going to the cinema. No parties. No alcohol so immunity is stronger. At work I wear a mask all day. It seems like everyone with kids is catching it, and people who party/socialise are catching it. In Germany all the boosted people are getting it because they are the ones who can do what they want without getting tested. Unvaccinated people aren’t allowed to go anywhere since October last year so they aren’t the ones spreading. and if you are only double vaxxed you need a negative test if you want to go in a social place. Boosted people are the ones spreading it here.

Got the Pfizer booster shot on Friday. It’s not actually a half a shot as I had been lead to believe, but a full normal shot. Moderna is a smaller shot, but the doctor said half shot of Moderna is stronger than a full shot of Pfizer, so I went for Pfizer (my first 2 shots were Moderna) it had been almost 6 months since getting fully vaccinated. anyway my armpit and side breast is swollen and painful on my left side, the lymph has swelled up. Yesterday was feeling a bit spacey and body paining all over. My teeth have also been very sensitive and I was having an eye twitch all day (pulsing eyelid) I wouldn’t have taken the booster if it wasn’t for social pressure and not having to get a Covid test done if I want to spontaneously go to a coffee shop or eat inside somewhere.

Wouldn’t you say it’s more of a case of being educated about what food is good and bad, and then becoming conscious that what you’re eating is bad for you, so then feeling bad when you do it. Or for example if you consciously eat meat and think about the animals that suffered then you may choose not to. Or consciously eating something with a lot of sugar, then choosing not to. Isn’t it more about making conscious choices? I don’t think it necessarily has anything to do with whether or not they get sick. Someone shared a video on the forum about people in Mexico villages drinking nothing but Coca Cola. There was a shaman lady who used Coca Cola in her spiritual practices because she believed it was healing - and all of the people are sick and dying with things like diabetes. The shaman was even confident that drinking cola wasn’t the cause of their ailments and that it was a psychological issue. She said she had drank cola her whole life and was never sick. You could say all those people were low conscious, but they were still dropping like flies except for the the spiritual lady (but you could argue she’s also unconscious..which anyway doesn’t prove that lower conscious people are more robust) why didn’t the shaman get more sick since she was more spiritual than the other people in the village..