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I feel the same! I think most girls go through a phase where they have some casual encounters. Although I had a few fun times, overall I didn’t feel good about it and it brought out all of my insecurities. Which was also good for my growth… Actually, one of the worst time for me was trying to have a friends with benefits type relationship… because you have to try and keep emotions out of the picture (easy for guy to do) so after a certain amount of times it just isn’t fun anymore without going deeper with emotions. It’s very easy for a girl to feel used from casual sex! Being in a safe relationship where you can feel comfortable and be yourself with a guy you trust beats any casual sex ?

Yea you are right. I missed that one.

There is some toxic comments going on in the other thread the ‘broke up with my older girlfriend’ one

Thanks for sharing your story. Sorry it’s been this way for you. I think the problem is that you appear too needy too early, in the beginning girls like a bit of mystery. If you tell a girl you’re in love with her before anything happened sexually between you it will repel us.

Lol, I didn’t see anything particularly mean said here but there are lots of toxic or mean comments said regularly around this forum

There is a lot goes unregulated I don’t think anyone moderates this section of the forum

Did anyone see this video? (What women should know about men)

Yes incelism is becoming an epidemic (I also learned about incels here)

Mixed signals are the answer in itself. When a guy or girl give mixed signals, just don’t fuck with them.. if Someone makes you confused then simply refuse to play their game and back off

We all get a second chance at being empathetic and loving people. Let’s see how long it lasts ?

@Natasha It’s inadvertently mandatory. By Societal pressure and not being allowed to do certain things without it. The privileges are enough to make people take it. Ive had my first shot because I want to be able to travel again. Not saying it’s good or bad. Only time will tell. But for now I want life to get moving again.

Yes. But there has even been whole threads on this forum before about how women loose value as they age, yada yada yada.

@MatteO22 I know. Was hoping my post wouldn’t attract misogynistic comments, which is mostly why I shared my thoughts in this section.

Why are you so determined to try and put women down or put them against eachother over men? Does making these type comments make you feel better ? it’s not young vs old.

I was also thinking about this. for example In older times or even today in some countries, boys would be forced to go to war when they are still children. Or they would have to take on an adult role at a young age like providing for the family. So they can also loose their innocence in this way. So this would also make sense as to why in those times paedophilloa was more normalised, and it wouldn’t be uncommon for men to marry children. If a boy represses his childhood innocence he will try and get it back in unconscious ways later in life.. and because males tend to find intimacy through sex, it makes sense that they would be likely to try and get back that innocence through sexual acts.

Paedophiles were also sexually abused as children so they had to reject their own childhood and innocence and grow up fast. So they try to get back their own lost innocence as an adult...it’s searching for that lost part of you

Ridiculous. Why do you think we go on a first date to see if we like the person? Especially if it’s from a online dating.. you don’t know the person until you hang out with them. also some people just date without the intention of sex. Maybe out of boredom.

I was once ‘tricked’ into going into a guys place who I was on a first meeting with, it was during the daytime. He told me he needed to use the toilet (we were walking around in the streets) he kind of ushered me into the flat to wait for him, I reluctantly went in the flat even though i didn’t feel right about it..once inside he gave me a beer then started to force himself on me. I felt really unsafe in that moment and started to panic. Out of fear I let him kiss me, because of how aggressive he was, I was worried what he would do if I pushed him off. I told him I wanted to go back outside and he was really coming at me wanting to have sex. Being very rough with hands all over. I honestly thought I would end up being forced into sex with him out of survival. Anyway my anxiety took over, I got kind of dizzy and I said again I want to leave I don’t want sex. He was really pissed, but let me leave. Sometimes a girl will kiss back for many reasons, some of them being out of fear and being forced upon. going to a mans house alone does not mean you want sex. please guys realise this.

Instead of expecting women to drop their standards and give pity sex to these poor struggling incels, why don’t you guys drop your expectations a bit too. You are all out here aiming only for girls who are a ‘10’ you expect that you should get the best quality girls handed to you on a silver platter. Why shouldn’t high quality girls also want a high quality man. Today girls have the right to choose, so that means that you have to up your game.

I know it’s mostly societal programming and how women are treated based on their looks, especially in the west. It’s even prominent on this forum the way women are spoken about and judged by their appearance. How women are thought to lose value with age. It’s so deeply ingrained that I think of it as true. So when I see myself ageing I see myself as loosing value. I wish this could change I’m hopeful ❤️ I probably sound like I’m being a victim, but just been feeling a down lately so that plays a part in how I feel and my inner radiance.

Thanks everyone ❤️

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