Vaishnavi

Name- Vaishnavi gupta Age- 17 Gender- female Location- mumbai, India Occupation- student Martial status- single Hobbies- reading, YouTube, writing down my thoughts and experiences, personal development, spending quality time with my family It's quite funny how I was introduced to conscious personal development since when i first came across Leo's video I at once dismissed it cause of my short attention span. I was a complete people pleaser and I came across Leo's video titled How to stop giving a shit about people. But because it was a 1 hour long video I didn't bother to check. But the other channels couldn't provide me the depth I was looking for. I was lookin for depth in a 2 minute video. It was weeks later that I tumbled upon the same video again. Because I had nothing special to do, I decided to check the video and that moment changed my life and I don't mean to exaggerate but for the next few days I was only listening to him and it blew my mind. This happened about 2 years ago and since then I've been reading a lot of books and have seen some growth. Challenges I've overcome- From being a complete people pleaser to someone who now doesn't care about people's opinion at all. although I do have a hard time saying no Got over my internet and tv addiction. From 7-8 hours a day to an hour Got a meditation habit in place Have become more calm and peaceful Overcame my victim mentality Have become less judgemental Started reading more books. Earlier i used to hate books Found my life purpose. Have become more mindful and aware and this is probably one of the things which have generated maximum results These results aren't great but they've set me on the right track Things I'm working on now I have to work in every area you can possibly think but the ones reserved for this year are- Emotional mastery Intellect Understanding myself Diet Meditation and mindfulness Time management P.S. Thanks leo. You changed my life

Make sense. Thanks Btw I ain't on Facebook. You can keep scrolling the feed and it never fails to bore you, probably that's the reason it's so addictive

things i'm grateful for- - my vision, the knowledge out there in the world, the basic amenities which a lot of the people don't have, having a comparatively sane mindset and lifestyle, all the colours of life -emotions, the different phases, people, challenges the scope and opportunity of growing up for having all the beautiful and the not so beautiful experiences and meeting some really amazing people actualised.org and all the sane people working to make the world a better place. Things i need to work on- Myself. And that includes more than just 10 things.

it is indeed a wonderful site. I love the way how this writer has discussed the topic in depth. @STC Great point made, if not used mindfully, you'll end up doing more harm than good.I have a question though, the point you made, say about eating pasta, can be made even in a face to face conversation with someone right? And now that you've heard it, your mind will process it creating the same chain of thoughts like you mentioned. What do you think? @Babybat @Issa Campusano i try to catch myself when i'm in that world and it seems to help. Also i've been doing mediation to gain more focus. Maybe read the article available in this thread. It's helpful.

I totally understand and can relate since this was and to an extent is the case for me. You continue to avoid the pain only to realise at the end that there is no other way, really. But its like the cold shower, you fear it and you don't want it in the beginning. In fact it hurt and you want to run away but only if you decide to stay a little longer that you realise that its so worth it. Do you see all these marketers trying to sell us stuff? Why do we love the greasy food and netflix and the stupid cat videos? well because all these things promote instant gratification and helps us to avoid pain. Just like leo said, our culture is always up to spoil us. And now you might think what does it has to do with facing pain. Well it has a very direct relation. They make us more prone to instant gratification and help us to avoid the real work to be done. Try curing your addictions since they drain your willpower and make you more vulnerable. I'd recommend you to become more aware and mindful about the things you choose to avoid pain. It can be an addiction or any activity of yours which you choose to neglect the work you should be doing, (the painful activity) Try taking up cold showers every morning and doing meditation for it works. And be patient above all, for i've been working on this for quite a long time now, but I still struggle with it. And and, read this book titled The war of art by Steven Pressfield. Probably one of the best books written which deals with this exact same issue, resistance.

@Kuba I love the humble approach which the writer has taken towards this issue. Thank you for sharing

I love cooking and btw I am a highschool student, and I've learnt all my cooking through YouTube. There are a thousand YouTube channel offering you to tell you everything from how to make the best ratatouille to how to crack open an egg so you don't really have to worry. And also, you have a hundred YouTube channel offering you to tell you how to do the exact same thing in 50 different styles. So yea..

@Neo well marrying Beckham sounds great, more than great actually but no, things are different although I sometimes do think about having a deep relationship but that's a different thing. About fantasies, I think I get too involved in them and then execution of no real work happens. Like I do work but the ratio of fantasies:work is almost 75:25 so that's a problem. @Arman you don't look an idiot to me for sure, but really, don't you think sometimes a person gets way too involved in it? I sometimes do. Also I realize that sometimes I confuse thinking with fantasizing. I'm addicted to it.

He who has a why can bear almost any how. The film, The Revenant has a beautiful quote, As long as you can still grab a breath, you fight. Btw great film.

@J I can completely relate to you as I myself am in last year of high school. I've really stopped caring about grades cuz I realized that I was doing it simply because of maintaining a 'reputation' and 'standard'. I was so into this idea of getting grades and excelling at school that I completely ignored the other aspects attached to my life. Currently I'm working on improving my lifestyle, especially my diet and sleep schedule. I'd recommend you to take up the basic activities and work on them like exercise, diet and meditation. Write it on a piece of paper and stick it somewhere where you could clearly see it. Take up just one habit and try to be consistent at it. Don't be tempted to take everything at once cuz I've tried it and it only make things worse. Also try spending some time by yourself where you're just being.

I would love to know what your personal development journey has taught you so far about life and your views as to why life was really given to us? Is there some special purpose behind it or simply to provide us with an "experience" And also who gave us life?

You're going to go through a series of breakthrough cuz the breakthrough you went through, couldn't break you.

Probably with the thought in my heart that I lived. I really lived. most people just exist.

Don't you think then life would be I don't know..meaningless? Life is something which fascinates me deeply and dropping the idea of figuring it out would be no less than a nightmare. just saying @Ayla that is something I would really want to experience by myself thanks all

Maybe i'm wrong but I want to know if you mean everything's written? And that life isn't about creating but rather discovering/finding what there really is?

The worst part is when people start to label you as a "depressed" person with a sad life. I'm in highschool and the things they talk about is simply mindless and shallow. Like really mindless. And because i try to avoid it, they consider me rude and depressed and almost pity me. And I can't help but laugh.

I don't know if this of any help and i guess you already know it, but anyway, the 16personality site (the MBTI site where you take the test) has a forum of its own but more than the spiritual work, it's about development of self in terms of personality. But you can give it a try because there are people who I'm sure will love your channel. And oh, it was through the Diamond Net that I came across the test so thank you Your channel's worth the time.

If you care, like really care, then go and talk to him. Just listen to him, and maybe try to help him out. Let him know that his behaviour actually hurts you and that you care for him and you are there for him if he needs someone to talk to. But don't fake it. If you really feel want to help him out, then only would I suggest you for this talk. If you don't however, then take up leo and emerald's words.

So i really want to introduce conscious personal development to my brother as soon as possible. But I feel he's too young. He'll be 13 in October. I want to do so cuz first of all, he hates studying and I don't really blame him but I don't want him to develop the same feeling for learning. He is always busy with his xbox and can spend literally hours in front of the tv. He eats junk all the time and the only books he enjoy is the wimpy kid series. I know he's too young and all of this is natural but I don't want him to carry these habits in his teenage years. My parents care for him but they don't really give priority to personal development. So when and how should I introduce personal development to him? P.S. He loves imitating Leo but never really continued listening to him for more than a minute.

Lovely! I completely agree. The more you try, the more resistance you feel. Thank you so much. @Beam thank you for the insight

Oh this is exactly my case. My brother too hates the idea of working hard and I'M finding it hard to engage him into doing even little jobs like reading a good adventurous book or something. And I totally agree with the idea of being a good role model. Example is the best way to lead. Good luck. @Christian @Zane thank you so much for the boost. Much appreciated. @Eelco1981 I love your idea of inviting him for walks. Thanks. And oh I try my best to be sweet to him and not criticise him but sometimes he pisses me off really bad @Richard Alpert haha. I would love to do that but he's more into playing football and going for his drum classes. I think he wants to maintain his social image or something..

You don't. Just watch them like really deeply observe them and you'll realise how much they're missing in life, that how they never will be able to live an actualized life and that they will die with the shitty habits they possess. Knowledge of the fact that such people exists is important. For me they're like reminders as to how the world is growing neurotic and how much is available for everyone of us but they will never have the opportunity to experience true fulfillment. And of course of the fact that I have to continue working on myself.

There was this really eye opening statement in one of Leo's recent video which stated that it's very easy to grasp the so called knowledge just by sitting back and listening to all the personal development material, I mean you can go on and on and on and on just sitting back relaxed listening to personal development for hours, there is no real inner work there. You have the knowledge the tactics but you don't take action. One of the best things which I can suggest is implementation of the acquired knowledge. Just read one book but commit to actually apply the principles you think are beneficial. Just listening to some audio program or self help stuff and thinking that oh you're doing personal development (when you actually are not doing anything) is the biggest trap. That is why probably even Leo suggest taking immediate action and doing emotional labor.

Oh I always wanted my mother to watch your videos but she always had her language excuse ready to shut me. I'm glad I came across this post. Will be translating in Hindi

I don't know about talking but realising that people can be shitty and that most of them ARE shitty, is important.