Vaishnavi

Hidden Assumptions I've always liked the show, precisely cause it's so real and without pretence (I don't mean the medical cases Greg comes across, if you know what I mean). I have this "sacred page" in my digital notebook where I keep all the quotes I like and I found it today, and it got me. (don't make the post unnecessarily lengthy) I'm paraphrasing Greg to show how it fits into my reality. 'I can’t believe everything is my fault unless I also believe that I am the one in control'. Control is a more appropriate fit I guess. I used to believe I am flawed and defective and things are wrong cause I am at fault. But it also implied that I am the responsible one, that i have the power to change it, that I am the one who eventually have control. I've always made efforts to become the control freak I idolise, play the God of my existence, to be more than human (a separate post on that later). This however is an interesting example of how something can be absorbed so subliminally that you can go about life never knowing they exist. I never remember consciously making this assumption but I have it nevertheless. Its unconscious meaning I am not (was not) aware of it but it exists and functions and dictates my life never the less. Uncovering these assumptions can be powerful for they tell you what is hidden but active in the psyche.

This. Dear @Stretch, how can anyone force "wanting". You either want something or you don't. And Leo and other teachers only pose a possibility, that so and so is a possible something and you can empirically investigate it. If you don't want to go for it, you shouldn't (and cannot) force yourself into it. You'll end up causing more damage. The goal I believe should be consciousness (or awareness). Realising the depths of your own ignorance and deception can be a good enough reason to set you up for enlightenment if that is what you want, but again, don't take it as a goal or something. Once you're truly honest with yourself, you'll realise that you don't really know anything, anything at all for sure and that your mind is constantly deceiving you. Now if you see value in becoming more aware of this ignorance (and maybe undoing it) only then should you actually go for it.

(would love to hear any views on this guy, DM since this thread should be less of a personal discussion and more of a neat collection of ideas) A lot more to the videos than just the law of attraction. Summary of the presentation (since its a 9 hour thing):

How could I forget Aamir Khan's Satyamev Jayate! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Satyamev_Jayate_(TV_series)#Episodes It's a TV series which basically focuses on sensitive social issues prevailing in India including domestic violence, rape, untouchability and even the criminalisation of politics. The guy himself is very green (and i feel a bit yellow as well) using his status and position to a very positive use. He's recently working on the drought condition in Maharashtra. Also, all 3 seasons of his show are available on YouTube with english subtitles. While the primary language of the show is Hindi, it is simulcast in eight other local Indian languages, and subtitled in English, to ensure maximum reach. Here's the last episode which tackled the issue of Masculinity (from the green perspective) Also what's interesting is that he likes to take up work projects which embodies the values of green (for instance his films like 3 Idiots, PK and Dangal)

Yea this guy by the name of "MO Vlogs" https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_hoQDD6zKcIqpIYLsFbBeA/videos

Likes to call himself "Candyman", runs a tobacco company, lives by the motto of "work hard, play harder", his Instagram feed is every man's dream. https://medium.com/@pythonhaxor619/travers-beynon-wiki-about-the-candy-man-557967d44684 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCT65Gg_f0wHZEi3r3RnP0JA/featured (that's his youtube channel in the name of "Candy shop Mansion")

What do you think of Mark Passio and his work on natural law and occult teaching? What's your opinion on The School Of Life and Alain De Botton? Are there any Youtube channels you follow for recreational purposes or just to have a different perspective? (say Vsauce, nerdwriter or Wisecrack?) Also, do you plan to bring the reputation points back anytime?

Leo, do you anytime consider updating the blueprint you created? Why/why not?

Its all up to you at the end of the day. I personally believe that he did a sincere job, but the work is up to the person taking the course. I remember procrastinating on doing the exercises and listening to some concepts, so it really depends. Something I observed is this tendency of people to "get done" with the course, for the sake of it, out of duty, because they paid for it, which is absurd, since then the work one puts isn't genuine. Move at your pace and ponder deep, especially with the values and exercises. You'll find yourself coming back to the course over time for something very specific and niched, say for a particular exercise. You'll have to listen to the concepts over and over again, over time, not out of obligation but out of need. You might find a few exercises more beneficial than the others (which is how this works). Also the course (in my case for instance) didn't give me my LP, it just helped me with gaining more awareness about myself, giving clues here and there, which eventually helped me. You at the end will have to connect the dots.

careful. The mind's way too crafty and manipulative. You never know how it manifests itself in different forms, marriage, following the pattern, food, being neurotic about health, it will manifest itself in anything at all. Self deception's real.

I left my college and currently pursuing a correspondence degree in Arts. I agree with Aurum. Something I would add is that its very easy to get lazy and procrastinate. Also going 100 percent online is a real challenge since internet is huge and messy, so as long as you're specific and mindful, you're good, something I personally am striving towards. Just the room for getting lazy and dull expands since no one's behind you, you have no obligation or formal commitments, you're all by yourself. Specificity and discipline is vital. Otherwise I think its capable of producing striking results, so go ahead.

One thing I've personally realised is that it's not the thing itself that is the problem but the mind, and your relation to that thing. Even if you manage to work on say your porn addiction by going on a "No-Fap challenge", I mean that's cool but eventually your addiction will manifest in something else (say in eating bagels or watching YouTube) the mind's very sneaky. I realised this with my internet addiction. I thought social media is a problem and therefore deleted my accounts but eventually it manifested itself in binge watching YouTube (and when I left that, it manifested itself in Television) So the thing is why? Why do you have it in the first place? Doing some deep self inquiry might help. Also when life lacks meaning and quality relationships, it tries to numb the mind with substances. My neighbour's addicted to shopping which manifests itself in eating crap and gossiping and then again shopping. She has to numb her mind in some way you see? So porn is not necessarily the meat of the problem, it's your mind. Above anything, mindfulness is the key. It's so underappreciated that it's a shame. Being mindful while you're engaged in your addiction will blow your mind.

Nice I came to this realisation myself some time back but didn't give it much attention, but really, isn't language just another creation? A mental construction? It seems that it should be obvious when it really is not. Interesting what the human mind is capable of; and sad how the majority of us simply abuse it. P.S. love the geometry diagram. Thank you for sharing.

Hi Kenny. I can understand precisely because I'm in a similar situation. What I have learnt is to not see the course as something to "get done with". You in fact can't. Core concepts like Mastery and Responsibility are something you'll have to listen to over and over again over time, not out of duty but out of need and the importance they hold. So the first thing I might suggest is to leave the desire to somehow finish the course for the sake of finishing it. However, do not confuse it with procrastination. The mind's tricky. The course is more about self assessment and self inquiry, therefore try taking your own time. Suit it according to your needs. For instance it took me personally a week or so to get crystal clear with my values. So take your own time. I say this also because of the point you made of "just so much damn theories". I realised this myself. Take your time. Can't mug them up. However you might find a few theories a bit more intriguing than others (say the purple cow) so take some time to ponder deep on them. P.S. Be very mindful of not giving resistance and procrastination the name of "taking time".

It's a term used to describe the state of excessive fantasising. I see day dreaming as an escape from doing any real work and pain. It takes up a huge amount of your time and above all, you end up looking and feeling like an idiot. One of my friend talked to me about this matter and how it has grown into an addiction for her and hearing her almost paralysed me for I feel that I too fantasise way too much. I fantasise about how my ideal life would be and how I will execute all my plan to make it work. Not that it's causing any real big problems but i in general don't like the idea of fantasing since it is more like an escape from the real task in hand. I would love to know your thoughts and if you can relate to it

I agree with Aurum and Dan Arnautu, don't limit yourself in the name of being an introvert. Sometimes its just self esteem issues (as it is in my case for instance) I am naturally an introvert as you might call it simply because I like being by myself more, but honestly I do not have a problem with socialising, its about the company and the environment I am in. I can't stand shallow and futile conversations, but if i have decent company I'm good. so don't limit yourself with the tag of being an introvert. People like Hitler and Gandhi were introverts too btw. But in case if you by any means want to keep yourself to yourself and keep your socialising minimal, I'd suggest psychotherapy or a writer or computer work or blogging, but i think finding work on the basis of your personality trait solely won't give you a strong and juicy enough passion cause you will be motivated by more like a limiting belief Interesting.

I'm not a particular Lana fan but her music has this indie pop and melancholic note to it which is soothing. Maybe check out her Young and beautiful, summertime sadness, Love, and Video games. Also check out Particles by Olafur Arnalds, All I Want by Kodaline, High hopes by Kodaline and Let it go by James bay. Oh he's great.

@Charlotte haha, you just reminded me of my yoga experience. I remember I left my yoga classes the day I joined it since all they were practicing was just movement of body parts. There was no focus, no feel and zero mindfulness. This is an attitude I've seen in most of these classes, i.e. to get done with a set/pose. They don't usually care about the breath or connecting to the body. This ain't with everyone ofcourse but I've seen this first hand with many 'experienced teachers'. This is why I like to do yoga by myself. I can do it the way I like. Doing it by yourself gives you the freedom to choose the theme of your yoga practice (hardcore, full flexibility, focusing on the chakras, strengthening the joints etc.) You can decide the variety for yourself, take your time and make modifications that suits you. There is Yoga with Adrienne and ekhart yoga on YouTube if you like. However if you're specifically into traditional hatha yoga you can look up for online courses on Udemy. However it's just a pov, you might actually find a capable teacher if you look enough. Good luck

Try developing an emotional connect to the practice of yoga or else you will soon face motivation problems. Being mindful during the practice will help you to listen to your body which is the single most imp lesson I have learnt. As cliched as it sound its true that the body knows much more than we credit it for and yes, avoid striving for perfection in the initial stages. I second this.

"So avoid using the word 'very' cause it's lazy. The man is not very tired, he's exhausted. Don't use 'very sad', use morose. Language was invented for one reason boys- to woo women, and in that endeavour, laziness will not do". -Dead Poet's society *made me day* And yes, there are these two that I really like from the creator of The School of Life, "Evidence of good parenting: the child has no desire to be famous." "Kindness begins with a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice."

Not knowing.. backed with the whole pretence game

I personally experience serious cramps the reason why I talked about it. With the mood swings (I know they're terrible) I try doing the same i.e. be really mindful of it and not judge it. I just let myself do what I want to but with awareness. So if I want to eat chocolate I'll do that but be aware of it, it reduces the intensity of the emotions I feel. Being simply aware of something sounds too easy and too good to be true but this one thing alone has made tremendous difference for me.

@sarapr I'd highly recommend trying yoga on a daily basis, it's one of the best solutions for painful cramps. Also, (now as silly as it sounds it works) try being extremely mindful of your situation, especially the physical pain that you might experience. I'm not being naive, trust me, simply being aware of the physical pain, observing it deeply and not labelling it as "pain" can actually make you more tolerant towards it. And I say this from experience. You can't really avoid PMS and especially the physical pain so instead try making an effort to engage in it. It sounds immature and foolish but it's not if you do it with patience. Also avoid medication (completely if possible) since it gets easy for the body to get addicted to it (been there so I know)

@Drsamy Hi! I know I'm inexperienced in the field of parenting but there are things I wish my parents had done for me when I was 11. Things would have been way more different. Beside physical exercise (sports preferably) I'd really recommend exposing your kids to the whole of life and feeding in their curiosity heavily. They're naturally curious given their age (maybe not your son but he will be in a few years) and appreciating and nurturing that curiosity can be very rewarding. And yes, encouraging them to find what they're passionate about overtime can be the best investment. For this (and I wish I've had this opportunity) expose them to different domains of life (music, art, books, science, craft, even something like public speaking) and see what interests them. Like help them try and experiment. They'll get a rich taste of all the different breads in the tray. And maybe with time, meditation. Guess you're smart enough to know that already Good luck!