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Gives me chills that this kind of romantic interaction exists and is actually possible. Imagine what the world would look like if everyone was this open, in touch with their emotions, understanding and honest. Their child is so lucky. Does anynone have any other examles of relationships that are similar to this?

Feeling bored and slightly sad. I want to talk to somebody.

This is all one aspect of reality you chose to put your focus on. Have you thought of how it is much better than it was before? Girls are not treated as property anymore. People are not reproducing "just because" anymore. And people that did choose to have children did so by carefully considering if they are able to be good parents and not make same mistakes as their parents (thanks to those very social media you're talking about). People are much more aware of things they need to work on and of how damaging some of their parent's behaviours were, so they are able to make conscious decision not to do the same to their child. And also many people do not reproduce because they think they will damage the child. Isn't this all good?

I think it is limiting belief though. While that arbirtrary statistic is made up to show how rare it is to find such person, who is to say you cannot get one, one day? You can raise your chance and even create opportunity for yourself. It is a limiting belief in a sense that it holds a belief of "This is so rare that I surely cannot be the one THAT lucky to find me such partner".

Ahahahahah Ouch. This is a declaration of war!

Ohh yeah, you're right. This is beautiful btw ❤️? That's the point. We should admire each other differences (men and women) and find beauty in how differently we operate.

Why do I continue to take everything so seriously and personally. I am just tired of this

Why do you think he was walking on egg shells? I didn't get that impression. And also, I don't think she was more fragile than the avergae girl or even average human being. These are all the thoughts and emotions we have every day, we just do not express them consciously and in detail like her.

Sure, fair. Though it's also interesting for me to watch you guys react to football match when someone scores a goal A bit too emotional maybe? ? Isn't this counter intuitive? When a guy embodies their feminine side, it makes them more masculine (because they are so confident in their masculinity that they can afford being emotional/dressing in pink shirts etc). It doesn't threaten their masculinity. Only insecure guys feels wearing pink threatens their masculinity. Well... I guess we as girls have our own struggles in this life, just like you guys. I get that these things are very restricting to you, but I guess we also have stuff that makes our life on this earth a tad bit harder (like periods, child birth, hormonal stuff, pressures to look good and young forever, fear of being kidnapped at night). So in the end, it balances itself out.

I understand what you're saying. And it's true you have to first become a person who will be perfect much for such extraordinary partner. Couldn't agree more. However, I'm not claiming I am that person right now. I definitely cannot handle everything you asked above at my current state of development. I'm using this video as a reference of what is possible in this life. I'm just so inspired, hopeful and grateful when I see examples like this. It's like God telling me "Yes, if you put in work, you might get this". I just want to use this to set intention on what I want in this life. I don't even like Eben and Annie's interaction in its entirety in this video. But an idea of being so open, to not hide anything, to feel safe enough to tell even the smallest emotional sensation you feel without feeling threatened is so... Wow. What a refreshing sight to see.

But guys are emotional as well! How is that not obvious? They just hide their emotions because they are told they shouldn't show thise because it makes them "less masculine" or whatever. Being emotional is universal human thing that has nothing to do with gender.

What do you mean am I serious, what did I even say? Lol So what? I don't freaking care if those guys are rare. The better we feel when we find them, obviously. How can we get good things in life if we believe we cannot achieve them in a million years? How can we hope for a better life and live to our greatest potential if we believe that it's almost impossible? Where the magic in that? We just sabotage ourselves before we even begin.

Though I wouldn't even like a partner like Eben, even though I like some aspects of him obviously (like being deeply in touch with his emotions and having that self-reflection and self-awareness). But he seems a bit rigid and stiff overall. Even when interacting with others, he's just too serious. Like he can't just let go and be spontaneous a bit, make a joke or whatever. That, for example, is not something I would want in a partner.

I don't claim to be, I know I'm not developed enough. I'm just setting an intention and this is an ultimate goal I want to strive for. Just picking stuff I like here and there and making a list of things I want to be and experience.

@Leo Gura We'll see ? Besides, if one believes something is impossible, then they will most likely witness that reality. Don't you think?

How did you try? And why did it fail?

@RendHeaven Wow, such detailed and great analysis ? Yeah I cried too at that point. You should watch their wedding vowes, that's something else. Yeah I thought that too! It was such a killer but I guess it would have been awkward if they stayed silent and said nothing after that "dance". They weren't alone after all. But I think, when something is real and authentic like this was, people are drawn to that and naturally want to observe it even more. People like authencity. Yep, felt the same but couldn't verbalize it but you did explain it well. I guess that explanation of Eben's was magic -killer, but I understand they couldn't just not address what happened and move on to their next point lol. Yes, but I noticed she wasn't ready to speak after that emotional segment. She stayed silent after they parted their hands, kinda letting Eben take the lead again. Sadness can be an overwhelming feeling and I guess one can not just continue on with talking given she cried beforehand (plus she was experiencing frustration, self-loathing and all of that) . Needed a time to gather her composure I guess. You have similar observations like me lol. And she is big on "telling the truth" and not witholding anything (was watching some of her YT videos so that's how I know), so this would go against her value. I wonder if they did something similar to this again, since I cannot find it on YT.

Yeah, I also remember Annie saying that she even got married much later than most people, which goes to your point. But she grew up in a very stable household, where parents treated her as their equal and were very open about her discovering her sexuality and didn't shame her for it. She had big advantage in a sense that she could easily build herself up to be such conscious and emotionally mature person she is today. I don't know, I might be fooling myself, but I have a hope that this kind of interaction can be created even before hitting 40s. I mean, it's not that hard. And plus it's beneficial and healing for both partners. Who wouldn't want to be cared for like this.

Guys are emotional too. Just look at how most men react when they watch football match. All humans have emotions, men are just taught to hide it. Which turned out to be very damaging for them. But of course you can't expect to hear ordinary women talk about metaphysical stuff in every day situations. Of course. But that doesn't mean that you can't talk 1-1 with some female about the meaning of life (maybe with your future gf). Some women are interested in those kind of stuff, some are not. That has nothing ro do with gender. But of course I won't talk with them about deep metaphysical stuff when I go out with my friends. We just want to have fun. Guys don't have deep conversations with each other too. As a matter of fact, girls in general are more likely to be interested in deep spiritual stuff than guys.

I'm just gonna roll my eyes if you really think someone has lower IQ just because they do not value the same stuff you do. ? Women are made for different things than men. They are wired differently. This is why most females are good at being social and at being a mom, than guys, for example. Does that mean guys have lower IQ? No, that conclusion wouldn't even cross my mind. Men are just wired for different stuff in this life. Then you obviously haven't met anyone worth having conversations with. "All girls/guys are this and that" statements really have to go out of the window because it sounds childish.

Hahahah I'm sure they will be proud of such meaningful accomplishment coming from their grandfather ?

You will have that honor to be 1000th comment I replied to ?

Welp, it's obvious to me, might not be to you because you seem to like her, but this "I just wanted to get closer to you" is a bs. If she really wanted something serious with you and had noble intentions, she wouldn't have sent what she sent. I really like your reply here. You go man! Don't let anyone treat you like that. What's sad is that this probably has worked out for her so far. I think some guys are really willing to pay her or do anything she asks. And then guys get disappointed why they are not respected sigh.

I've been going out ever since I waa 19 and I see people my age in their early 20s and younger people, and so far my friends and I have come across people who are straight up not looking for anything serious, they're being flaky, non-responsive to texts etc. I've managed to find a bf in the club though, but he was working there, didn't drink. So in that sense you can find someone, but in most cases people usually go there to drink, get wasted and have fun one night stands and makeouts.

Because people you meet at the clubs are not relationship materials usually. They look for a fling or fun, rarely a long commitment.