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@Hardkill What's your goal? If you want to attract normal, decent and nice girl (that most people consider girlfriend type), she will certainly not like to be flashed/surprised like that. She will find it inappropriate and gross. Might even call the police. If you want the type that suck stranger's dick, because she likes his "confidence" and alpha energy he radiates when he does these type of things in public (even though she met him 2 minutes ago), then do outrageous and scandalous things like that. But I feel asking about whether or not these things that are out of the norm work, are just used as a distraction from actually going out and talking to girls and being a decent human being. As if you would ever use this technique in the first place, so why even ask if this works. Who cares.

Help me find out what you think about pregnancy and being able to carry a new life in your body. Do you think it's beautiful, magical thing and you would want to have such "superpower" or you belong to other group of people who think like: "Thank god I'm not able to become pregnant, pregnancy is so stressful, scary and terrible!"

@tsuki No, but by that logic, noone would have kids, because of childhood trauma (that everybody, including women, had) , is what I'm trying to say.

As for child trauma, everybody has it. Women and men. We all have some unresolved childhood trauma so it shouldn't be used as an alibi to rationalize "men's lack of desire" (compared to women) to have kids.

I can relate to heighten sense of responsibility blocking someone from desiring kids. I feel like most people (girls maybe more, generally) just pop out babies without thinking through what that entails. But I feel like, if everybody were so super careful, noone would have babies. Lol

@Understander i agree completely.

I got the feeling that children are indeed percieved as something that takes away your freedom. Which is sad.

This made me laugh, as noone ever asked me this. Well... I guess it doesn't serve ego's need for esthetics and usability lol.

You couldn't have found a better example of God creating in action, eh? Lol

Ohh I see. You really think so? That women are, generally, more mentally dependent on men? That it's like a gender thing?

Luckily you don't have to have a child if you don't want to. As for carrying a baby, yeah, I have that reaction too. It's so fragile. I don't want to hurt a baby. I feel that way towards children too (but not about carrying them but about not saying something they will remember 20 plus years from now that will impact them in a negative way lol).

The first part about pressure is sooo true. Lucky you for not having to make such choice under pressure. ?

So far no man has answered yes hahah. Which is to be expected. Everyone is like "It's amazing and magical and all, but no thanks" lol. To answer your question. I like being a girl very much, but I would want to be a guy just so I can experience the bliss of not ever worrying of being pregnant (when you don't plan to be ofc). That's the only reason.

I see... Well women can also choose to have that "freedom" by going childfree I guess. But intuition tells me it's kinda wrong to think that woman's freedom ends when child arrives. Maybe you get more responsibility, yes, but freedom is defined differently from person to person. It's a matter of how free you feel individually.

Really? What changes? I was alluding to physical pain btw (that it's a one-time thing, because once you give birth, you stop having pain)

I see. I see lots of replies mentioning pain. It's not like it will last for days and weeks or months even. It's a one-time thing. After that you just move on and continue with your life normally, you know ?

@Preety_India Do you really want it or you think you want it? Because it's easy to take something everyone around you is saying, as your own thought.

@Preety_India Yeah but it's good cause it shows whether or not you're pregnant (whether you plan to, or not). So it helps I assumed guys don't think about this stuff, so it is fun to me to see your opinions hahah. Yeah it's much pain, but you get to have a baby which you will raise into self-actualized being! ? (In best case scenario). Jk, well, you come from a place of not wanting kids in the first place so it's only logical pregnancy would not be desirable for you.

You just made me excited to buy these books! Do you know where I can get them online?

I was studying Art History and came across this very interesting Room that famous artist, Rafael Santi, painted all by himself. It's interesting to see how artists from that period were spiritualized and knew even then what were the most important things in life (talking about 16. century). By the way, artist were very respected at that time. They were viewed as privileged individuals who were given "gift of creating" by God itself. They were known as hommo universalis (genius artists who were good and successful in multiple fields) who had special ability to bring forms they painted to life by adding soul component to it, which is essential thing for Self. Stanza della Segnatura belonged to vatican stanzas (rooms that were painted by Rafael). Main focus in these Rooms is on human. Della Segnatura has 4 walls that contain following art scenes: -La Disputa (which represents Theology) -Parnas (reseprents Poetry) -Athenian School (represents Philosophy) -Justice (represents Justice) Above each wall there are peronifications of Theology, Poetry, Philosophy and Justice in (form of tondas, circles) So, the purpose of Stanza della Segnature is to show 4 walls of the temple of the human mind. Its purpose is also to express basic Neoplatonic principles (of Truth, Goodness, Beauty) in art form. Truth is represented in 2 ways that illustrate 2 paths to get to the Truth: one is by Faith (La Disputa, representation of Theology) and the other way to get to the Truth is by using Reason (ratia) (Athenian School, representation of Philosophy). These two walls (scenes) are located across from each other, but not because they are irreconcilabe opposites, but because they are complementary paths to the Truth: one using Faith, other using Reason and Observation. Goodness is represented through cardinal and teological virtues. "Virtues" is allegory for Justice. Cadinal virtues are: -Prudentia - Wisdom -Fortitudo - Strength -Temperantia - Balance (Moderation) -Iustica - Justice (They each also have personification in form of beautiful young women) Angels are personifications of theological virtues which are: -Fides - Faith -Spes - Hope -Caritas - Love Beauty is represented through representation of Poetry (Parnas) aka searching for beauty in art.

I understand some relationships indeed began like this. But I think most would agree that in most cases, it doesn't work like that. Women need to feel safe, first and foremost. She needs time to get to know the guy. Build some kind of emotional connection and familiarity. Then after she is sure he is fine and gets intuitive impression she will not be used by him, sex can take place.

I think I can even say she's self-destructive in her thinking and beliefs. She has typical victim mindset. And is very negative. This is serious so please read. Her life story - she basically decided to be stay-at-home mom and devote her whole life to me and my brother. I think it's because of her lazyness and lack of ambition, but she says it's because she wanted that. I think we are her purpose now. She cooks and cleans, has her friends, watches tv series in her free time, but other than that, she has no hobby, nothing else she does that makes her passionate about life. However, she does complain about everything in life. She says how "we are the worst" in our big family because everyone else "progressed" and got richer, and we stagnate. (again, she doesn't contribute any money to this family, and that's her her choice). She's 55. She feels like a victim, and she feels gulty for my brother that got sick, she thinks it's because of her and she cannot get over it. She blames herself. So she tries her best to make it up to him (even though she did nothing wrong). However, my brother doesn't appreciate what she does for him. And always complains about her, how she doesn't do anything. (He is bitter about her lack of ambition and lack of money my parents had all our lives). And it obviously makes her sad, to say the least. She's also kinda paranoid and a perfectionist. When I got a little bit ill, she gets mad at me for getting ill as if I wanted to. And she immediately assumes the worst. I dislike that. Now, as a 55 year old, she has given up on life. And i see that. She basically doesn't go anywhere for pure reason to enjoy the time, she told me today she doesn't have anything she can look forward to in life. When I ask her why she doesn't read books or does something she enjoys, she always tells me she doesn't have time. Which is awful excuse. Because other women who have jobs, their own family and also do house chores, can still manage to do everything else. I can't even begin to tell her she needs to work on herself and maybe get into self help. I can't suggest her that UNLESS she feels that need herself. And she doesn't, for now. I don't know how I can help her. She's emotionally hurting herself. I also dislike her lack of ambition and willingness to enjoy the life. She is like a plant. What would you guys suggest I do in this situstion? All I know is that I don't want this to take a toll on me. I don't want to be dragged down with her.

Good advice. Thank you.. @Nahm Thanks, as always, for your wise words. Spot on... @abrakamowse Will try to then, thank you!

She does watch a lot lf tv. Which I feel is not productive oftentimes and makes her lazy. But will look into some suggestions. Thanks. I think she has to read books, to stimulate her mind and intellect a little bit. But she says she doesn't have time... Which is again an excuse.

My mom also loves gardening! Our garden is most beautiful in neighborhood, and people who come here always make comments about it. But I'm afraid she often overlooks such positive things and easily forgets. Like she is unable to be grateful. I feel like her life will also improve if I started bringing my parents money. I wish I can buy them a house or renovate current one.