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Awesome advice. Spot on. Thanks.

*sigh* I guess there is no other way around it. I can't get these needs met on my own somehow.

Not into it. I figured I don't want just raw sex with no emotions. I want someone I like to take care of me after that as well. Cause I don't wanna feel like an object.

No but I am interested in that

Do you think I don't want this? ? The usual situation is thay men don't want to commit. I do.

Because being a man doesn't depend on whether or not you are exclusive with someone or not. If you are a man, you have a need to protect, and will protect a girl cause that's how you are. How you choose to be. Will you not feed a hungry person just because you don't have anything to do with said person (it's not your cousin, friend, spouse)? It's just manners and humanity.

Motivate me in what sense? Would love to become that girl!

@mr_engineer yeah but I would disagree that men don't care for you when they only sleep with you. I mean we can freely let go of that notion. Like the only way to be cared for is to be in relationship. Men are human beings capable of taking care of girls even if they are only sleeping with them.

Would disagree. Well I realized this just now lol. I actually want a relationship. Dunno why this was so hard to figure out from the beginning lol.

Oh. I don't think there are such places here in this country. But I'm not sure, will look it up. Ah, no thank you.

Oversensitive? Ouch, believe me, they are hellish to deal with. They will blame you for turning your head slightly left instead of right, so mych so that you won't be able to behave normally cause they take everything as an attack and personally. Speaking from my own experience. ?

Absolutely. I know how it is first hand (having poor standards). I was miserable. However, now I am unhappy cause I need to wait for all these things to line up so my physical needs can be meet. I'm gonna cry

I am grateful for your compassion. It's a breath of fresh air. I knew a happy, fullfilled person wouldn't behave like this, I knew something must be bothering her on a deeper level. She might also have very fragile ego and admitting that she's wrong is too threatening to her sense of self-worth. Because "me being wrong=me being a bad unlovable person" However. We all have problems we face. I am trying to become aware of my own shadows as well. Just because I understand where she might be coming from doesn't mean she should not take any action to become aware of her own shadows as well. I know, it's uncomfortable. And freaking painful. But if she doesn't, I am not willing to work with people who are not trying to improve themselves. And who are not self aware.

I have certain standards. It's not that simple. I can't just be with any guy, just because he's a guy. I can't have sex with just anyone, it needs to be with someone who would care and respect me too, who I also fulfills my standards. Makes things more complicated, doesn't it? ?? How I'm gonna meet him? Have no clue. I gave up on thinking about that.

Oh. Sounds promising. Though I don't know cause I think about it all the time. Cause it's unfulfilled need of mine. I didn't have it as much as I wanted to in the past.

Yeah you said this amazingly. It's that balance.

Can you briefly explain what is a massage parlour? And an escort? What they are supposed to do? English is my second language. ?

Maybe.

First time hearing about it. I don't think there is such place here where I live. It's a small town.

The way I see it... I am sometimes embarassed to tell them the problems I am facing cause it seems like I am always the one having problems while they do not share any problems with me, making it seem like their life is perfect. This is why I hate it. Like I cannkt be 100% independent. I have to rely on others for some aspects of my life... Hmm. Yeah, for emotional needs that seems like a good advice. I can also talk to my current friend group, but currently I am kinda resentful towards them cause lately I statted disliking the way they have been behaving (always negative, complaining, victim mindset "oh poor me", whilst not doing anything to change their current situation).

Isn't it like surpressing?

What's herbivore mode?

Well porn is there, but tbh it just makes me depressed to watch it cause it reminds me that noone is beside me to do that with. It happened like every time I watch it, it just puts me into bad, negative mood. I can only behave like that towards myself. If it works. Cause I don't wanna bother friends. Yeah I know. It's just physical need that I crave... But I guess I should channel it through other things.

We concluded we were because we both said it on multiple occasions. But yeah, I'm wondering too how we ever were friends. It was unstable from the very beginning. She bas always had this attitute that everybody was bad and wrong and she was always the right one in every situation. But this time, she turned against me. Very disturbing... It's as if I never did anything good to her. She behaves that way at least.

Will do. This is really disturbing me to my core, this type of behavior of hers. Like it's all black to her, she forgets everything good I have done to her.