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He's average looking. I see. But I don't want to flirt like that yet. I mean, I'm the one who sent him a message, that should tell him I find him interesting, at the very least. I think I will be flirty once I see him making a move next (by sending me message in the next few days), cause it's his turn now. The ball is on his court.

@kras My last message I sent didn't have any questions in it. I will see if convo dies down after that or he wants to keep going.

I don't care as long as he took care of himself sexually and tests himself regularly (once a year) so I wouldn't have to worry about that. That's the most important thing for me. Body count really doesn't bother me. And also, it doesn't bother me as long as he doesn't mention his exes. I don't want to hear about your ex in any context, at all. It makes me think you hold grudges instead of moving on and building something new with a new person. ???

Alright, thank you.

@Leo Gura First of all, love the episode, very appreciative that you released it. For me personally, I love these kind of videos because they are applicable to my life and are practical. 1st question - You mentioned: "Life is a beautiful thing if it's lived according to right principles." and then said that one of those principles is "The pursuit of love for reality is not a luxury, it is the core." . Can you elaborate more on that? I'm not sure what you meant by that, but I so want to understand it, it feels important to understand. 2nd question - Apart from all other principles you briefly mentioned in a video which are: having work ethic, facing your fears, be constructive, "you get in life what you put into it", can we please get a few more? These are gold. I know you have talked about it before in one of your videos, but here you mentioned few new principles which all resonated with me very strongly. 3rd question - Stupid one, but gonna ask anyway. I was wondering, is me declining to go out with my friends/socializing (while also applying other principles you have mentioned) really necessary for me to live a good life? Shouldn't there be a balance? Can I just simply organize my life in a way where I will have room for all things (not just isolate myself with meditation, reading self-help books and not ever socializing with others). Or is any kind of partying/having fun with friends bad strategy in the long run and will sabotage me from living a good life? I guess what I'm really asking is - can i have both or those two don't go together? Thanks in advance!

It is expected that a guy sends follow up message the next morning after sex. Also, he was pursuing her, not other way around.

@aurum has some valid points, I'm impressed.

Why didn't you tell her that you need to recharge or whatever you needed to do? Of course she felt used if you didn't contact her like the very next day about this whole thing. You just met her, she doesn't know you that well and what are your needs. At least a follow up text saying you really enjoyed her company would've been nice and would reassure her that you didn't just want to use her for sexual pleasure. You just didn't communicate well even though your intentions were good.

That sucks so much. It's awful whoever is on the receiving end of that neglect.

She said she wanted commitment from the beginning. She obliged to casual sleeping (though this is your version of the story, hers might be different) , but maybe she was doing that in hopes that you two will be together. It is very unlikely that the girl who said she wants committed relationship is suddenly okay with casual thing. She's not. Other thing. Leo's right. Many many girls want committed intimate relationship. This sexual liberty and freedom shit is damaging to women. It encourages them to do hook up more, but did you see how those girls turned out to be? Most of them are not happy with that way of life. That should tell us something. Guys thinking they can be casual and not cause any damage along the way are delusional. You certainly do. Especially when you know a girl likes you. I had a guy who hurt me just by us making out one night and not sending me any follow-up message the next morning. Or, ever, after that. And he knew I really liked him. I certainly felt used.

@Harlen Kelly OP asked specifically about his girlfriend and his specific situation (and his gf might be different than other girlfriends), not women in general, but you kind of just needed to generalize by default. @Lyubov You have to talk to her about it. It's wrong of her to expect that you won't ever cry for the rest of your life. Guys cry in arguments sometimes and they cry when they care. It's freaking normal. She should be the person to allow you to express yourself in a authentic way. If she is unable to, and that obviously hurt you enough to make a thread, then you should think hard if this is even worth it. You don't want to be with a gf who secretly judges you for expressing yourself. You won't grow that way. It will always sabotage you unless you guys communicate.

... or unavailable in some other way. What's wrong with me? Does it have anything to do with my childhood and upbrining, do you think? That I subconsciously think that I don't deserve a guy I ACTUALLY like? Maybe I only say that I want fullfilling relationship with a guy I absolutely love but in reality I don't because of some kind of past trauma. But maybe the most important question I would like help with, is - How do I actually attract high quality guy I like and have a fullfulling relationship with him? I don't think I ask for too much, to be honest. I think I deserve it. I offer a lot too, besides my looks. I think I am pretty funny (friends tell me that too), non-attached/non needy, talented and have my own thing going on in my life and I know what I want career-wise, and very open-minded to all kinds of ideas related to spirituality and deep topics.

@Harlen Kelly Oh those clueless females. We indeed are stupid. Luckily our males will save us if we're just submissive enough.

@PurpleTree Nice. I don't know but I love washing dishes and cleaning. I just imagine, as I'm cleaning my room, how I'm cleaning and organizing my mind along the way (because I view my room as a reflection of my mind).

Cooking is not feminine trait, it's a life skill. That everyone needs to survive. Let's finally move past 1900's.

Not sure what's happening ? I hope he's fine.

Wow... You will tell me who will be better fit for me? ? I sense strangely negative tone in your comments. Don't know what's up, since you're a moderator here. I won't be submissive, and I have my standards, just like guys do, if that triggers you, I don't know what to tell you. I guess we all want best for ourselves. We live in 2021, not in middle ages.

Omg, I know about it but I wasn't using that but Retinol, which is similar thing I think. Though I stopped using it because I'm afraid to use things without prescription. Do you have experience with it, is it safe to use on your own? As it should be. Yep, Scandinavia. Would like to go there one day. Maybe even Switzerland but it's a hussle to get citizenship. Honestly I just hope I can find high quality guys here as well. I mean even though it's stage blue society, there's always a chance to find other stages as well. Actually no matter where you are there are all kinds of stages.

@mandyjw I'm not sure I understood you. You're suggesting that those "creeps" or weirdos are the best kind to hang out with and get to know? Why would I feel uncomfortable around them then? Doesn't our intuition suggest something? I'm not sure if I am open to the possibility that someone who makes me uncomfortable is actually, in fact, a good guy I should get to know.

Where did you meet them, if I may ask? Makes perfect sense lol. Hmm. Not my place lol. This plac I live is stage Blue. Would need to move which would be kinda scary... Thanks. these are very helpful.

Absolutely, I don't understand being submissive. In bed, I might be able to understand, but like being submissive as a person? What does that mean? To negate my personality and individuality to please my alpha man, because that's somehow right and feminine? Nah lol.

Might be but I visualzed high quality guy next to me and I don't fit that picture. For example, I don't mind my physical appearance, I'm skinny and tall, and I take time to groom myself before I go out, but maybe the way I walk or carry myself might not be so feminine. Lately I've been kinda on the edge cause I fear some weirdos approaching me. It has happened before and I absolutely hated it. So I'm not as open and receptive as I could've been. Mostly guys I don't find attractive/older man approach me when I'm out in a city (yougner guys not so much but I understand its because of fear not to look creepy, older man are much more confident). Second thing is - My skin is not too good. Actually have problem with body acne. Face skin is perfect, but my back, legs, stomach... It's full of some kind of acne, dark sports, bruises... I have very sensitive skin. I also have something called Keloids on my shoulders (so I don't wear open-shoulder clothes too much. Thanks so much for these recommendations!

I just realized that I'm not high quality girl that would attract the guy I want

Why did God think it was gonna be a good idea? Women have suffered lots of abuse, rape and mistreatment throughout history because they couldn't physically protect themselves. Physical strength is number one advantage that guy has over women. God is everything and all-knowing. God knew some men would misuse their physical power. If God knew there were gonna be a lot of abuse and mistreatment that women would endure due to their physical weakenss, why would God create us that way?

Basically this. I know you want to get out of your comfort zone, that's awesome. Just avoid these topics. You can get out of your comfort zone in some other way. There are millions of other topics. If a complete stranger approached me and started talking about period blood, yeah... A bit uneasy I would feel. You can talk about those stuff when you're a little bit closer to a girl (like in a relationship or something)... Otherwise don't talk about sperm and other disgusting stuff that most people don't like to talk about, especially with someone they don't know.