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@Loving Radiance Gonna DM you!

Leo told me not to be gulliable so I don't know Well, he told me he got his heart broken in his previous long-term relationship and that made him not care about commitment and relationships altogether. Time.

Trueee Okay, this is a good question. He actually explained why. He told me that the reason he would totally forget about me after our "dates" is because he felt pressure to say something. And when he feels pressure he just runs away from it. Like, he doesn't want to have any commitments/pressure in life cause he doesn't know how to deal with it. Which is why he doesn't want a relationship in tbe first place. He said "You're right, that part wasn't right, sorry if I seemed careless, it's because I felt pressure."

@Razard86 Actually.... You have kinda helped me there. Yep, I replied because I cared, otherwise I wouldn't. Though, I need to say, just because you predicted I would deny, doesn't automatically make you right in your assumption that I have feelings for him ? I guess I just cared to explain that I don't have frelings because I knew people would come to that conclusion.

Karma is getting him ? @Preety_India yep I am very aware of this.

@Truth-Seeker He didn't reach out to me during these 2 years because I was already in a new relationship trying to move on. And he was aware I was in a relationship so he didn't want to interfere. Which was good because I wouldn't even talk to him if he reached out sooner, out of respect for my ex. I might be gullible. It's because I think fundamentally that people cannot be that malicious. P.S. I do not have feelings for him. I made this thread because I was curious if people like him are truly able to feel sorry for hurting someone in the past. Or does he just want to try to sleep with me this time. I know that I won't ever have anything serious with him. My friends hate him and also someone who wants serious relationship wouldn't behave like he did. I still think, however, that he is attractive, but nothing more than that. He did what he did and I just find peace knowing he felt sorry for what they did to me.

I do not have feelings for him and that's the truth. I was just glad he apologized because I craved for that apology back then when feelings were still "fresh". And him apologizing for anything altogether was surprising to me. I made thread wondering if people like him are capable of truly feeling sorry for hurting someone in the past. Things are not black in white in life.

@Yarco He suits a definition of fuckboy. I don't use it to offend him. A person who sleeps around and ditches every girl they are hooking up with with zero care or regard for other person's feelings is a fuckboy. I don't want any relationship with him now that he came back, I never considered it. I was just surprised he apologized. He doesn't seem like a person who apologized a lot, at least from the behaviour he displayed so far. This is why I don't know was he being sincere or was it yet again some of his games.

It does to me. Back then I craved for his apology because of his carelessness.

I respectfully disagree with your observation. Situation was way more complex than that.

Woops, missed this message. I am not. But thanks for assuming I wm an extrovert lol.

I told him my intent after I noticed I was suffering because I couldn't have him. I saw him on a party afterwards and pulled him away so we could talk and that's when I told him. You're so right... That makes sense actually. Damn.

Of course I didn't send a message. He knew I was inexperienced back then and those stuff were all new to me. A nice follow up message after doing new things like that would reassure me and would have made me feel cared for. He is much more experienced than I. It doesn't matter that he wants nothing serious, that doesn't mean he has a freedom to treat me like a doll. You still respect a person you're hooking up with or having sex with with no strings attached.

@NoSelfSelf He should have leave me alone the moment I told him I am not looking for a fling. When he asked me out after I told him my intent, I thought he changed his mind. Otherwise he wouldn't ask me out because he would respect my decision. But I was disappointed because it was yet another hookup with no follow-up message after that.

He told me from the beginning. I told him also after that I am only interested in real relationship and told him I cannot keep seeing him because of that. But he kept asking me when he was horny and I was too in love to say no.

Well after we would perform oral, we wouldn't hear from each other for a long time after that, until he felt horny again. A message after that would have been nice. So I felt I was on a shelf for him to use me whenever he pleases. I was too weak to say no to h back then even though I should have told him to fuck off ?

I don't believe he wants commitment now either. We actually never had sex. Only kissing/oral etc. We were about to do the deed, but he came to a conclusion that would be bad idea because he knew would most likely hurt me afterwards (his words). Which ended up happening anyways lol. Honest answer - I don't know lol. I really don't know. All I know for now is that I feel good that he apologized.

Yeah I understood it that way as well. It's not personal, we just want different things. Though he should have left me alone knowing I want commitment. This is why I was hurt. But he apologized. No matter what others say, I am glad he said sorry.

I see... Though how is that a red flag?

Yeah... Though this wasn't even a real relationship. It was something. A "situationship" someone might call it. However I didn't want that kind of "relationship". I wanted something serious. He didn't. But I was so weak to tell him "No, fuck off." because I was in love. I also thought it was positive that he even said stuff like "I'm sorry you felt that way" "The last thing I wanted was to see you that way" etc... I mean, could they be manipulative? My friends think they are. And that he is being manipulative and they are so against me ever speaking to him. One of my closest friend revealed to me that he also tried contacting her through social media but she denied his request to sent her a message because she thought it was inappropriate that he did that knowing I am friends with her. I don't know what he wanted though. Maybe he wanted to reach to me. But that would be too good to be true.

Why not? I mean... I don't have feelings for him anymore. However I still have a few unresolved issues. He also is scared to see me I think, we didn't even meet up and talk live, but through social media.

You sound like my close friends when I told them this story lol. They want to kill me.

He did flirt with me at the end of our conversation. So I guess that hasn't changed. I don't have feelings for him anymore. I just felt good that he said sorry, the better if he actually means it. Though now my friends want to kill me lol. They fill up my mind with stories of how bad he was towards me and that I shouldn't have spoken to him and that his "sorry" doesn't mean anything, he just wants to use me etc etc. One friend of mine also revealed to me that he messaged her before, for unknown reasons (we weren't speaking when it happened). She just deleted his message, because she is a loyal friend and thought it was inappropriate to speak to him when he's a guy I was in love once upon a time. So I don't know what's that about...

So... A guy I used to be crazy in love sent me a message last friday. After 2 years of not talking. I think I was dreaming one night about him beforehand, but I'm not entirely sure. What is crazy is that I saw him the very day he sent me a message. I really didn't expect it. But he basically asked me why I deleted him everywhere. He was seemingly bothered and kept asking me why I did it since we had great interaction, him and I. But I didn't unfollow him for no reason, there was planty of reasons, which is why I did it. I explained to him why. Every situation I felt used and let down. Hurt. And situations I cried about. And he felt sorry and apologized. He said that was the last thing he wanted me to feel. He leads this carefree life and in the process of it all, I got hurt because I felt used and ditched every time he would ask me out (even though I told him to leave me alone if he doesn't want something serious with me). I saw how sorry he was thoguh. He said "When I see you, I can only remember good things. There is no room for bad memories." And that soften my heart honestly. That I have that kind of influence on some people. It really was sweet to hear. I was kinda cruel tbh. I didn't want to make it easy for him. I was seriously hurt back then (not now, I moved on and have 0 reaction to what happened). But I didn't want to just let it be forgotten. I didn't want to let him get away with it and let it slip so easily. What happened needed to be addressed. Which we finally did. After 2 freaking years. It felt like I was dreaming. Everything I wanted back then (for him to apologize for hurting me), it happened. Plus he was hurt. He seemingly was hurt that our interaction ended. He wanted it to last. Which was a shock for me to know. I thought he didn't care about me, why would he be hurt that our i interaction ended? His actions told me he didn't care. But... He apologized. Though we didn't see each other still, we only were chatting. I want to see him too these days. It would be nice. But he seems apprehensive about it. He is kinda scared of me I think. Though he needs to understand that I was seriously hurt. I deleted him because I don't want to be in contact with people who do not care about me and do not consider my emotional and physical wellbeing. Which I felt he neglected my emotional wellbeing. He was doing what he wanted back then, when he wanted and how he wanted. When I wanted something, he would not make room for me. Anyway, he was flirting with me too. Which was interesting too. I don't know what we are. But I am not in love with him anymore. I am cold turkey now. But I still think he is attractive and interesting as a person. If he is willing to treat me with respect this time, I can consider letting him be in my life. Otherwise I don't need people who do not care about me. We will see. For now he lets me dominate him a little. In our conversations I mean. Which is good and I am thankful that he is smart enough to let me be that way, to get him back just a little. I see that he pays attention what he writes to me and doesn't want to seem like he is bringing me down/making me feel stupid/less than gim which kinda happened before. He lets me dominate him in conversations. Let's me make fun of him. He pays attention not to hurt me even by accident. And this is why I see the change. We will see. After things like this, when someone has done me wrong, and if that person ever comes back into my life, I expect them to "bow down to me". Because, hey, you hurt me, so just let me make you feel just a little what I felt. 1/100000 part of my pain. Let me dominate. You did me wrong. The least you can do is let me dominate a little. I won't abuse it. Because I am not that kind of person. So you can trust me that it won't last long. Just first couple of times. The other guy who hurt me who also came back after 2-3 years also apologized etc... But he continued behaving superior to me. He did. And that I didn't want to let it happen. So I just deleted him again and never heard from him ever since. You don't get to acr superior tlwards someone you hurt. If you care enough about that person, you will let that person have their moment and be a little superior in comparison to you. Because you hurt her. That's the least you can do when you hurt someone deeply. You can't afford being a smartass, it will backfire on you. Which it happened with this other person (we'll call him D). D fucked up and act like a smartass even though he should have let me have my little moment, just for a short while. But no, he wanted to act superior still, so I let him go. Find someone else to do that to. I noticed this is kinda crucial to me. Whether someone let's me have my moment after they come back to make amends and fix our relationship/friendship/whatever we are. ✅ I want to spend most of my time talking to people who care about me - about my physical and mental wellbeing. I do. This is crucial to me. ✅ I want person to be smart enough and let me have my moment of shine when they fuck up. Just agree with me, laugh at everything I say. Let me see that you care to make me happy.

@Striving for more HSV1 is like... Extremely common. And I mean extremely common. You don't have to worry, almost everybody has it, it's not a big deal. Some even get it from parents at birth etc. HSV2 would be different story.