killyourinnerloser

Yep number 7 is the clincher for me. I've always been one to just stuff my face and before I know it, the meal is over - and I don't even remember what it tasted like. It leaves me unsatisfied, and then I end up overeating. Thanks for sharing man. Sometimes I need a reminder to slow down and actually enjoy my damn food... -Andy

Noooo, don't go down the path of being a jerk just because you think it'll get you more girls. (Link removed by moderator) and I really regret it. Don't be a pushover - and don't be a doormat. But you can be a genuinely nice dude and get laid - I'm ridiculously nice to girls. (I'm just not a pushover - I have my own boundaries and I'm not afraid to walk away if a girl does something that's a dealbreaker to me). Ever read the book "No More Mr Nice Guy"? Start with that if you haven't. Usually when a guy says "I feel like I'm too much of a nice guy" what he really means is "I never stand up for myself" or "I try too hard to please girls" or "I have difficulty putting my needs first." But again, you definitely don't need to be a jerk in order to get laid/keep girls around.

@Bando Spirituality - honestly dude, a bunch of LSD trips from about 5 years or so ago. Before that I thought any sort of "spirituality" was "hippie bullshit, and I'm too good for that silly nonsense." Damn, LSD slapped some sense into me and opened my mind. I spent my first trip just nonstop writing in my diary for about 16 hours, unpacking all the preconceived notions I'd had in the past. That one trip made me more openminded than anything else I've ever experienced. Tripped like another 40 times since then over the last 5 years. A mate of mine also got into DMT, and I joined a group on meetup.com and made some awesome friends through that. At some point I plan on writing a tonne of articles about all this stuff for my site - just haven't had time. @Kalki Avatar - Yeah I know man, the timing is really bad. Dating sucks in my country right now too. Dunno where you're at in terms of looks/appearance/self-development, but one thing I've been doing is using this pandemic as really good impetus/motivation to lose some fat, work out at home, work on my mental health, etc. Even if dating's hard as hell in your country right now, there's always other stuff we can be doing that'll pay off later. -Andy

Yes online dating is worth it - I've gotten laid a ridiculous number of times through Tinder/Hinge/etc (I have pics/vids on my site for proof). Online dating is easy-mode if you improve yourself to a point where you look half-decent and have decent pics. If you're not getting results, you need to improve your looks and take better pics. (I started out obese and dressed like shit, so if I can do it, anyone can). Improving looks - you don't have to look like a greek god, but you do have to work on yourself a bit. Lose fat, get a decent haircut, dress a little better, throw in some accessories (watch, rings, necklace, whatever), hit the gym, groom yourself, whiten your teeth, etc. Better photos - just go out and take a bunch of photos, and keep practicing - you'll improve over time. Take 500 photos and I guarantee you some of them will be great. Use those in your profile. Messaging the girls you match with - I've got a full guide on my site but I'll wait til I've contributed here a bit more before linking to it (don't wanna look like a spammer). PM me if you want the link. But basically I just send: Hey, you’re sexy. I’m [your name]. Watcha up to? [Respond to whatever she says]. What do you like to do for fun? [Respond to whatever she says]. I’m into [hobbies you’re into]. What part of [your town] are you from? I’m in [area you’re in]. [Respond to whatever she says]. You seem cool, we should grab a drink and see if we click. I’m not looking for anything super serious, but if you’re up for a drink, a flirt & to see what happens, drop me your number & I’ll send you a text. Then just grab a drink, hangout and talk about whatever for an hour or so, and say, "I've got work in the morning so gotta head off soon, but wanna come back to my place for one last drink before you head home?" She'll know exactly what this means. If she says yes, then back at yours make a move. If she says no, just try again on the second date. -Andy

Sup guys, I recently wrote what I reckon is the most comprehensive post on the net on improving your looks & getting laid on Tinder/Hinge/etc. It's over 130,000 words in total, covering everything from getting your looks together, taking good photos, setting up Tinder/Hinge/Bumble/etc, messaging girls, going out on dates, having sex, and even seeing girls for ages afterwards if you're looking for a relationship (retention). It's everything I've learned over the last 4 years of self-improvement, getting laid and working on myself. It's free (no stupid email signup bullshit), and is written for everyone from complete newbies (including virgins), to veterans looking for an efficient way to get laid on Tinder/Hinge/etc. Even if you're not looking to get laid online, the first part is a standalone guide to self-improvement, particularly improving your looks. It covers: Hitting the gym Losing fat and getting lean Improving your fashion/style Accessories (watches, rings, etc) Hair, facial hair, teeth whitening, tattoos/pearcings, etc Skin care Height-increasing shoes It then goes on to cover every aspect of taking photos, including: The vibe your photos should get across How to take photos that look natural (not stiff/staged/awkward) A huge list of bad photo examples, and a huge list of great photo examples DSLRs vs smartphones for taking pics. How to choose and buy a DSLR. Shooting your own photos vs paying a photographer How to pose Editing your photos How to get usable feedback on your photos/profile The guide then goes on to tell you exactly what to text girls, how to get them out on dates, how to get them back to your place, how to have mind-blowing sex and even how to keep seeing them afterwards (retention). I debated copy-pasting parts of the guide onto here, or rewriting it as a condensed version here, but the thing is seriously freaking long... like I said, 130,000 words. I don't know any way to share something this long on here as a standalone post (especially since I can't post pics here, and the article is heavily reliant on pics to give more information). Mods, lemme know if this isn't cool, but I'll just share the link to the full post: (Link removed by mod) Any questions, lemme know. -Andy