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@Carl-Richard Perfectly said haha

@Alex bAlex Doing something because you want something from someone is people pleaser. Doing something because that is who you are and you would do it even if you got nothing in return is more on the gentleman area. My advice would be to only act in accordance with the idea that you will not get much in return for what you do. That is your true authentic behavior. Doing things because you expect/want something in return will produce bad results for you. At least it did for me

@Bittu No i think i am around a 6 but looks are subjective so a girl might percieve me as a 4. Do i still have a chance with her for example,

@Leo Gura Btw sorry for all these question but im curious. If a girl thinks im just okay looking or meh, so lets say 4/10. Can i still attract her or do i need to be somewhat appealing on her eyes. I am saying this because i feel like most girls do not even give guys a chance if they do not find them somewhat attractive when they first see them. If you close yourself towards something then its hard for that thing to reach you compared to being open to it and see how it is.

@Arcangelo The more you struggle for something the more value you give to it. If you approach 500 girls to get that one that likes you, you have invested so much time and effort for that. It will have insane value to you, the more value you put on the girl, the more needy you will become. Neediness is basically putting wayyy too much value into something.

@Leo Gura If it takes 500 approaches for 1 girl you will be extremly needy with her. It is impossible not to be. 500 approaches its like 100 hours worth of work for 1 single girl. I feel like this is super inefficient unless you are bloating the numbers and assuming the people that start pick up are completly socially indept and barely talked with people in their lives.

@Leo Gura So it took you 500 approaches for your first girl. Keep in mind you said that you were legit HORRIBLE when you started. So i would say a more social person will need less. Also if the growth curve is that slow then how did you manage to fuck 100 girls, some of them very hot only after 5000 approaches. I would say 100 should be enough to get a girl (maybe not hot one) if you are absolute beginner at pick up but with social experience so not just some hermit getting out of his cave for first time. If it takes that much work for 1 girl how tf are you supposed not to be needy af and have abudance. Imagine going out for 2-3 months straight and do 500 approaches to get that one girl. You will be needy af with her if she took that much work

@Recursoinominado How the hell will girls know how big your dick is when you go and talk to them. Unless you are a 10 inch monster then they cannot really see how big it is

@Roy A lot of them put these retarded mental blocks in their head due to society conditioning that if i do not find the guy handsome then i will not bother dealing with him even if technically you might not be legit ugly in their eyes. This often happens for the good looking girls since they have so much choice. I do agree that charm and charisma may work but only if the girl is willing to let you be you, not doing the oh he is not good looking so i wont bother talking to him. It is the equivalent of a religious person being invited to do a religious debate, he will simply not even bother going.

@Leo Gura What do you think about social circle game? Meaning if you already know people, to tell a friend you have that " i find x friends of yours cute" and then she can notify her that x guy is interested and if she also is then you can start talking/dating? I am not saying to make friends for this purpose but rather asking the ones you already have for this. I personally feel this is more natural and convince than cold approaching on the street because i do not like night clubs that much and its hard to find decent girls on bars ( mostly older people) where i live.

@Leo Gura I have seen your videos about attraction and i must say they are some of the best on youtube, especially since i am also a bit analytical and introverted like you used to be/are. However from my life experience i see often introverted, quiet, laid back guys without great charisma or humor get quite good girls. Never understood it

Greetings, i would like to you guys something. I noticed that whenever i meet girls on normal settings and don't try to approach them in a romantic way, it never happens that they start liking me. Normal setting i mean a girl in class, social circle, student building, social clubs etc. So people that you interact to some extent but you are not very close with. Normally this is how things are, you have to make moves to get the girl. However, for most of my friends (not chad looking), it happens to them that a girl once in a while starts liking them, so they have a crush thingy for them (i'm kinda young, around 21 in university so that is still a thing for girls around my age). I have plenty of friends and some of them are good looking females and also plenty of guy friends. All of these people really like my personality and who i am so its not that i don't know how to talk to people. Also i am used to talking to girls even if they are attractive and i never got a vibe from them that i am boring or anything like that. Therefore i do not understand why none of them ever liked me when i do my thing normally. I do not consider myself ugly ( not chad either though), and i agree most girls will not like you romantically when you don't make moves on them but this never happened to me, not once. It makes me feel a bit insecure about my looks and personality considering that i have interacted with plenty of girls in the last few years but none of them liked me when i just do my thing normally. Thing normally meaning acting normal without the intention to pick them up. I am not saying for them to ask me out or to flirt heavily or to have legit feelings or love or anything like that. More of a crush thingy and some kind of liking. Any reasons why or tips? I live in Brussels currently but i study in an international setting with people from all over the world, my home country is in the Balkans. Thank you guys Show less

@Gidiot When you are exposed to a lot of girls like i am and none of them ever give you any signals of attraction it kinda fucks up your self worth and esteem regarding this stuff. I do know my worth as a person regardless of this but when it comes to this it's hard to feel like a boss. It is like taking a homeless person and tell him to feel like a millionare, it does not really work. I may feel confident and awesome at other things but when it comes to attraction i do not feel like that. I have seen all kinds of people get girls, even if they are dumb, quiet, wimps or judgmental af. I do not understand this, according to Leo videos if you want to get a nice gf you have to be confident and charismatic etc but i see quiet chill guys that are introverted af with quite decent gfs so i am really confused. They do not look like chad either or have huge bank accounts or fame

@Leo Gura Thank you for you reply and you are right about the mindset. It is just that i was wondering what kind of traits i was missing regarding attracting woman that lead to these results. If a guy is attractive to woman then he will not have this problem regardless of whether he is hunting or not.

@hoodrow trillson 170-172 cm or 5 7-5 8 in feet

@flowboy However the thing is not trust or comfort. I am able to do those effortlessly, they are my strongest points especially trust. People tell me shit that would get them in trouble if i spoke out without knowing me even that well. It always baffles me and they say they feel like they can trust me. I never abuse that trust ofc. My problem is girls seeing me as a potential partner, being turned on or having those romantic feelings in any way if i can say it in more black and white manner hahaha.

@flowboy Female friends are kinda clueless about what they want so i do not really trust them. Plus what they think they want is also influenced by their culture, i am in international setting so i deal with lots of different nationalities. Girls back home have told to have more of the qualities that Leo mentions in his "Why woman fall for assholes "video, however i do not want to because i hate being arrogant edgy and overconfident

@flowboy I would say i am decently confident, not arrogant, not overly charismatic but still chill and people enjoy the time they spend with me. I would say i am more on the intellectual side, enjoying interesting not basic conversations but i still know how to crack some decent jokes and make people laugh. On group settings i tend to be more funny and not serious while on 1 on 1 i tend to be a bit more intellectual. I disagree with people and i not obsessed with being liked at this point. I am comfortable with personality for the most part but not that much about my looks, especially height (5 8 in Belgium is like 5 5 in USA haha). So yeah i hope this clarifies things a bit more. I cannot read my own body language but i have been called a bit not expressive and serious but that really depends on the person and situation. It is not really universal but it has happened. I promised to myself to be more smiley and expressive once the isolation is over and school starts again. I also take care of myself, i lift on consistent bases, hygiene, clothing, good haircuts, frames etc. So looks wise i have kinda maxed out so i think personality will make the difference