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@John Mitchell Do you consider yourself unattractive? What is your problem you think?

@Leo Gura You are looking at it through the player pua paradigms where you want to sleep with a lot of hot girls. Most incels and the guy above do not care about that. They want a 5/10 girlfriend that they can love and be happy with. Why should that be so difficult for them? Ofc you should not expect hot girls for free but hot girls in huge quantities is not what they want. Most incels just want to get laid, they do not care how hot the girl is. I despise the Incel ideology personally but i have noticed that a lot of them would be willing to fuck a 3/10 girl if the chance is presented. So it is not that they want hot girls for free and to be drowning in pussy. It is like saying you have to work to be a millionaire but these guys just want some bread not to starve. The reason inceldom exists in the first place is that there are some guys that live life normally and get an average girl or even above average and there are others that dont get shit even if they are relatively social and outgoing. Then ofc they blame their looks because these days society is all about looks, just look Instagram as an example. There is more to it ofc but if you did the same shit as your friends and you saw them with someone while you were ignored you would start to blame your looks too. I personally do not but am not surprised that so many do.

@Thestarguitarist14 He works out, takes care of himself and used to think he was a normal looking guy. I am not denying the fact that he might be considered "ugly" by society standards but what angers me is why would people treat you worse for something as bs as looks. I would understand if you ask a girl out or something but for general stuff it is absurd

@Recursoinominado He did 300 approaches which should be enough for most guys. Doing 1000 approaches for 1 lay is crazy unless you going for 10/10 hot girls or something. He is not even ugly which i find weird for him to struggle like this. He has other problems that he needs to solve, even 5000 approaches wont work unless you have your inner shit together imo.

@Recursoinominado Could you please elaborate?

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This is not to be taken seriously it is just mindless fun, a satire. 99.99 %of leftist are not like this of course LOL

@AlwaysJoggin I did not like himm "soo much" i just made a threat because i wanted to know other opinions on it. If you could explain why you think he is full of shit i would appreciate it

Stop This Cold Approach Madness - Hot Approach Like A Real Man If you do not have the time or nerves to watch this, i will TL DR it. TL DR: "Men tend to be first come first serve meaning they will hook up with the first nice girl that goes to her and they project this into females. Females on the other hand they are reserved for the highest bidder, they will hook up with whoever they feel they deserve. It is basic hypergamy. If she is not giving you signals that she is interested, like playing with hair, looking at you etc then cold approaching will be very very hard to work. if she has put a wall of objections it will make you look thirsty af to approach her and waste your time. So just built yourself up and focus on those that actually are giving you signals. This is hot approach which is what actually works." I know the PUA's here will complain about this but from personal experience all couples i see the girl was always at least a bit interested. Would it not make more sense to become a cooler stronger more attractive and successful person and getting girls to show you interest instead. Personally i think cold approach is great to get over fear of rejection and build your social skills so when you interact with girls that are actually interested you wont fuck it up.

@Raphael Great question. As a person that is considered very polite by most of society i think i can give you some viable thoughts. First of all, politeness is a multiplier factor if done properly. It will not give you results by itself but it can built on a good existing personality. It is the ice on the cake, not the cake itself. I think basic politeness is very important for all of us to practice but i do not like fake politeness. It should come from within and developing basic respect and love for people and life can help. For women politeness is useless, can even hurt you a bit so do not expect it to get you laid or help you to. Regarding friends, it is a nice bonus. Regarding formal interactions it is quite important. The balance is to be polite but honest. Honesty should come before politeness. However, there is a difference between ruthless honesty and positive kind honesty. I think the latter is better and more polite. So in general i think politeness is good when combined with honesty and done from within, not because society says so.

I have a quick question guys. In the video "How to deal with strong negative emotions" Leo talks about being a strong emotional conductor where you can feel the emotions instead of running from them. On another video "How to let go" he talks about letting go of stuff, instead of thinking through it getting emotional etc. My question is, if something happens in your life would it be more useful to feel the emotion or just let it go without giving it much thought. Or should you balance and do both? Thank you

@electroBeam Day game is weird af if you are not good at it. Girls find it weird if you approach them in the street for no reason compared to clubs where it is more natural and "normal". Day game can be creepy if you are not good at it

@Recursoinominado Thanks for all the motivation. I cannot wait for life to resume normally so i can try this head on. Thing is that i am quite young and not emotionally mature yet to the point of being completely objective and grounded in myself like most mature men are. I feel quite envious when i see girls i know get all the male attention meanwhile i have to do all this shit in hopes of getting a yes in 1/30 or even compared to good looking guys who just exist and get girls as long as they are not completely socially restarted.

@Recursoinominado He is saying to work on yourself and the good quality girls will come towards you. It is the whole LMS vs game debate that is soo very common these days. LMS side says that focusing on maximing your looks, money, status will get high quality girls to check your ass while the game side says that maximizing your game will make high quality girls become interested in you even if they were not initially. I think balancing both is the best thing to do. No point to just do game when you re skinny af or fat without any goals or ambitions for your life or just focusing on LMS when you cannot even handle one rejection without breaking in half

@Recursoinominado I do not have your experience so you are probably correct but as a newbie i have a question. How is that every couple i know the girl was already kinda interested in the gym from the start. I never saw this "win her over" thingy that you are saying. Yes girls are NOT as visual as guys but if just talking to them a bit would get them interested why have i seen this phenomenon constantly?

@Recursoinominado By approach you mean girls that give you signals and you talk to them or you trying to get a girl that is not interested in you. Girls will never approach guys but they can give you clear signals that they are interested. If you talk to girls not interested it is a waste of time unless you are using it as a tool to get experience which is legit as a beginner. Yes, if you talk to 2000 girls you will get a few interested in you AFTER talking to them but it seems much more efficient to approach those that are giving you some signals. And if you say "im ugly" and no girls are initially interested, well good body language and looksmax especially gym will help a ton.

@Recursoinominado Where do you live? Are you talking about American girls?

I did no fap for 130 days (no sex either) so i can give you some good insights. You will get more energy which is good to release through your work or gym. However personally i got these crazy emotional flatlines which made me depressed af and forced me to stop it. Personally i think no fap works if you have your inner psychology and life handled well, otherwise i would not advise it. It also makes you horny af

@Lyubov Gym, library any closed environment. Also the mask hides your face which helps you if you dont look very good since it will be just your personality and body to judge you on.

Avatar characters according to spiral dynamics would be: 1. Ozai- pure red 2. Iroh- Yellow with well integrated red blue green etc. His speech to Zuko about the importance of gaining wisdom from different sources is pure yellow in my opinion. 3. Aaang- pure green without well integration of red. Katara- mostly green with some blue tendencies when it came to moralization but very little. 4. Soka- a lot of blue and orange. Does not view the fire nation in the same holistic way as Katara and Aaang do and also a bit more business and rational oriented which are mostly orange. Does not go on excess though. 5. Zuko- towards the end i would say he becomes green with well integrated lower stages. 6. The Guru- stage turquoise. 7. Jeong Jeong- cannot really put him anywhere. 8. Wan Shi Tong- would be mostly yellow. " You think you re the first to believe your war was justified" is a very yellow thing to say in my opinion.

I have a quick question here. How do you draw the distinction between glorifying the ego and having healthy self esteem. If ego is the concept of self, the idea of self that we have, will then having healthy high self esteem build the ego? What is the fundamental difference between the ego and self esteem. If i wish to improve my self esteem will i also have a bigger ego as a result or are the two things separate? Thank you.

@Leo Gura I just saw your "the theme of going full circle" video (amazing video btw) and there you say that girls like the guy to be more like a girl. So fliratous, smiling, expressive, spontaneous etc. Here however you say to be bold, detatched, strong, leader etc. Which one is it? Should you combine both together?

I have seen Leo videos on attraction and i noticed that he says that looks are completly irrelevant when it comes to attracting girls. So are you saying that if a girl finds you 2/10 you can still attract her? If yes, what level of game do you need? Do you need godly game or just 1000 approach level of game (if you starting from meh level). I do agree that if a girl thinks you are okay looking then you can get her with game. But what if she finds you legit ugly, what about then? What if you are not her type? Also Leo claims that looks offer no reproductive value on evolutionary terms but i think that is just incorrect. A muscular man with wide shoulders is much stronger, he can protect and defend a lot better against threats. Saying physical strenght was not needed in the past is just delusion and normally muscular people are stronger. I would like to know everyone thoughts including you Leo if you see this. I love your videos btw and i wish you all the best.

@Leo Gura That really depends on the background of the girl though. If she comes from a sexually repressed country then it will be very hard for her to have sex early on. I know girls that when they fall in love with someone they get in relationship first for some time then have sex. Now, i am not saying that those girls will not have sex if they get EXTREMLY aroused early on but sex is not necessary for love always. Maybe in USA where sex is super normal and casual that would be the case but for people with heavy sexual repression it will not work like that. They can have legit feelings and even say yes to a relationship with you before sex. I am saying this because i have seen it myself with a lot of people since i study in an international setting with people from lots of countries. And ironically some of the most attractive girls come from sexually repressed countries which kinda sucks but oh well..

Hey everyone. I have been watching Leo videos on spiral dynamics and i find the subject itself very interesting and fascinating. I would like to get your opinion about an analogy which i came up with to explain stage yellow and tier 2 in general to someone who is unfamiliar with spiral dynamics. Imagine every stage of tier 1, so red,blue,orange etc is an island which speaks a specific language. The people that live in that island only think of language as the language that they speak themselves. The whole concept of language in their minds is the language that they speak. So imagine french, English, German etc. Stage yellow would be someone that does not only understand french, german etc but that understands language itself. How the dynamics of language work, how languages operate, their similarities etc. So it is not understanding of french or German for example but understanding of the concept of what language is. My explanation might be a bit bad because i am not native English speaker and it is very difficult to articulate thoughts on text. What do you guys think? Would love to hear your opinions