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@electroBeam I ignored women for 21 years because i was not interested so i have been on both world. I didnt get shit even when i was not really caring about them. The issue is deeper than my desire for them in terms of getting them

@modmyth I want to be loved, to be desired. I was raised in a house with a lot of love given to me and due to studying abroad alone , i tend to crave that. I crave physical contact a lot. I have friends ofc but they do not satisfy that need.

@Globalcollective I have no problem talking to girls or even teasing them and trolling/being playful. It is just that i am a bit more serious and not very sexual.

@Preety_India Appreciate all your help

@Gesundheit I take care of myself, i wear good clothes, i lift regularly ; good haircut hygiene etc. It is not a problem about that, its just set in stone looks that could be better like face and height (im kinda short) but tbh i think its a behavior problem not a looks problem. I am part of a big student organisation also, due to covid its harder now since most of the stuff is done online, not in person.

@Gesundheit The 100 girls came from univeristy, friend of friend, organisations etc. My friends look better than me, they are less kind and more jerks with girls.

@Gesundheit NONE of my friends do more and they get girls liking them by just acting normal. PUA shit is done by 2 percent of population of males. How do the 98 percent other still get stuff done .

@Preety_India They do. So fake it till you make and force yourself to change your personality for them? It would work i guess

@Preety_India It is not about core confidence or being too needy with her. I have strong boundaries and am not overly nice. I am just neutral, i act normal i dont do that push pull bs cuz it feels weird and unnatural to me.

@Preety_India That is what the post was all about. That stuff is not at all who i am. You are telling me to change my personality. "Piss her off", "start fights over thing". How would you feel if i told you to change who you are to get some love. It is fucking cruel. I know these things work and i should do them but it just feels like i am changing myself and i dont want that. I would want it if i saw growth as a person but i dont see any reason why doing these things would improve me as a person. Its just selfish behavior to get your dick wet. It does not apply to other areas in your life, they re doing amaizing without this behavior. Thanks for the advice, it is good in itself

@ajai So being someone that changes himself to fit the crowd is what you want for me? Budha i meant someone that can get basic humans need met without getting them met. So to force himself not to desire sex or love

@Preety_India I have interacted with like 100 women in last 2 years. NONE were attracted. It is not about CONNECTION it is about attraction. I have no difficulty building connections. It is easy for me. They just think of me as a great guy but not bf. You re amazing but i feel nothing for you. This statement is story of my life

Guys you need to understand that I AM being myself. I have no problem making friends and everyone i know considers me very honest, real, no bs, and straightforward guy. I dont change my personality for anyone nor my beliefs and values so i am NOT pretending. If i was i would have difficulty attracting ANYONE by default but it is just attracting girls ROMANTICALLY. I did not paint myself as the ideal guy, i mentioned flaws too. And im quite muscular and fit so its not about working out either. Saying you re being needy is like telling to a starving african you re being needy for food. You CANT really help it. Im sex libido is on the lower end for a guy but still. Its not something i can just solve by “working on myself” when it comes to these needs dissapearing by themselves. I have almost no experience with girls so ofc im gonna be a bit needy, its just human at my situation. Im not budha

@Recursoinominado Destroyed my heart and self esteem by following their bs advice and trusting what they want in a guy. NEVER AGAIN I only trust guys that get good girls now, NOTHING ELSE

@Preety_India @Preety_India Most guys might be stage orange BUT they are lame weak and scared af. This is not healthy for a man. It is like saying most men are skinny and men need to have some muscle. So they need to go to the gym. Yes, being gym addicted and a meathead is bad but most guys need some muscle, not to be told not to go to the gym because they are already bodybuilders

@Preety_India You are basically saying to have balance. Not to get addicted. Agree 100 percent. Most guys in western world are not in that group, they are weak lame and need to approach.

@Preety_India Well i am not. So should i die alone? I am smart, decent looking, kind, caring and very honest and loyal. So i should settle with a fucked up girl? NO. I want to have the chance to get a decent cool girl. To get her i need these things you say. I do not have them naturally so i either develop them or settle for shit. I prefer the first. if you are a natural playboy then you dont need to do cold approach ofc unless you wanna bang a hot girl every week. To get a cool girlfriend you dont need cold approaches. But for the rest of us we need cold approaches to develop these traits. I personally dont believe you can really sleep with a lot of girls from cold approaches BUT they are great at building you up so when cool girls come through social circle work etc, you can get them and not fuck up

@Preety_India LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL How do you think men are attractive? They are either good looking, high status, rich af or have good game. Looks are set in stone for most part Social status and wealth need insane amount of work Best thing is to just work on game after maxing your looks and making decent income. How do you assume people get the funny charismatic personality that makes you wet? Either they are naturals or they build it. They are called social skills for a reason. Skills can be developed. That is like saying training to play football is beta because messi doesnt train and still can play decently. Well if you are messi great, otherwise you re fucking if you dont train

@Recursoinominado How many girls do you need to approach to become good enough to get a 7/10 girl?

@Recursoinominado Is it considered normal for guys to approach where you live? If you approached a girl would she think "wtf this is so weird, never happened to me what does he want from me?"

@Leo Gura That is needy af tbh, i do not support that. But i do not believe that you only get a girl if you do not care AT ALL about her. It is all about balance. Liking her somewhat version being obessed and making threats like this is quite a difference. I know a girl who really liked a guy even though he was being super needy with her and they had not even kissed. Why? Because he was handsome and did some cool shit. You can get away with neediness as long as you offer some other value like looks or status etc

@Preety_India Define obession please. Gay need shit is different from liking someone. You can be into someone without being obessed.

@Leo Gura Well i know like 30 guy friends, all sorts of guys and most of them are like this. Most couples i know were as i am saying. This is maybe USA culture or idk where people do not care about each other before sex because you do not need sex to be attracted to someone. Love might need sex but that is another issue. I know girls that were not comfortable talking to a guy because they liked someone else even before kissing them. It all depends on age tbh, girls before 20 tend to be like this from my observations. And i am not talking obessing and dreaming about marrying them and gay shit like that. I am saying just geniounly liking them

@Leo Gura Most guys do this approach where they have their eyes on a girl and they still get her. This logic only works for super hot girls and most guys do not care about that.

@Recursoinominado What are your favourite places to approach btw? Like a list from most to least favourite since you seem to do it a lot. Would really appreciate it