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Just ask whether she has time and lead her to a coffeeshop. When starting out you must overwin some of that initial awkwardness within yourself. But insta-dates are powerful as fuck in the sense that they build a little but nonetheless crucial familiarity and connection. With just a number, a very important component of attraction is missing making your chances so much slimmer. Another huge plus of insta-dates is that when texting-after you can basically go straight to planning the next date without that "witty small talk" beforehand. And yeah having sex on an insta-date is something I will never do, that's not my style.

Quick update: One of the girls in question just texted me after days of silence "when do you want to meet?". Man... girls are weird(:

Yes, this is exactly what happened. Yes, these are the kind of girls I seem to attract. I am now dating a very intelligent and "wholesome" Iranian girl. She is not a solid 10 like that eastern European girl I lost. She was truly exceptional, in fact, she was such a high achiever and all-around perfect it made her unattractive Though I learned my lesson and will take it slowly and respectfully with the new girl. Also because she has a more traditional background (she shit-tests way more than a western girl) even though she is very modern and "westernized".

I dated and lost a girl who worked full-time at a prestigious financial institution besides her full-time university study. She was an exceptionally pretty and feminine eastern European girl. She was fully aware of her high value. (especially in my country where girls are generally big and more masculine she stood out alright). I had two dates with her months apart because she is so busy. On the second date, I escalated way too quickly and freaked her out. She actually told me about how she was very disappointed in herself for being so wrong about me. (I did not take this personally ofc and I gave her the space to vent her frustration in an honest way.) She also said she was feeling very sensual (before it went wrong), which is good I guess(: looking back and analyzing what went wrong, I think her exceptional feminine energy enhanced my masculine energy such that I basically acted way too rashly. I learned that I have no problem being sexual and making girls feel hypersensitive. Now I have to be more like a gentleman. No PUA douchebag bullshit like "negative peaks". If a girl is in a hypersensitive state these will come effortlessly. I also set a (loose) rule for myself not to escalate at the beginning of the date (first 30 to 45 min). And always begin with just holding hands. In many ways, a dinner date is good because there is no way to physically escalate and it's just about building comfort to make it easier later on to escalate.

@Rasheed You should be strategic about it. Adapting to your particular location, spending 4 hours non-stop in the same small mall is a bad idea as it can make you feel like the local madman. Walking long routes for 4 hours may be better for your mental health but very tiresome and plain boring unless you have a real passion for walking, (I used to have that). You must think about how many hours are sustainable for you. To be honest 4 hours is way too much unless you have a day off on the weekend. I always set my target at 5 approaches, but most of the time I end up doing more because I get in state, and then it's almost easier to approach than not to. When you're really in state and enjoying yourself then you can do 4 hours. But let's face it, it's not that enjoyable most of the time. Most of the time 5-7 approaches are good enough. Just an hour or two. The trick is to do this consistently. But then again not too consistent. It's not about maximization but all about what's least taxing, most practical, and durable for you.

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Her death is also very historically symbolic and meaningful because a lot of countries are now considering leaving the commonwealth and removing the British monarch as their head of state. This combined with Brexit and the ever more likely possibility of an independent Scotland and a reunified Ireland will mean a new era for Britain/England with a much weaker status and global influence. Britain was the world's prime superpower from roughly 1700 to 1900. It's still a respectable world power to this day but greatness comes and goes. As someone who grew up with some English culture (entertainment/language/history etc.) I am a little biased towards England, so for me, her death is kind of melancholy.

@Leo Gura Tbh I kinda admire good ole British formality

Yes, a fake tan is very unattractive. I also get turned off by women who smoke. A lot of guys don't mind and that's fine, but I have my personal preferences.

Exactly, friends only hold you back in Day game. In the night game, it's very comforting to fall back on a group of friends and helps you with state building and projecting status.

That's terrible advice: 1. At night everybody looks like a ghost to a degree, that's why they have the dim lights with all those effects in the club. And outside they have this crazy light effect called the night sky. 2. It's not about looks! and especially a tan will play an insignificant role for you whether you get laid. (When I see a girl with a fake tan, I'll consider her low-class and fake. It's really unattractive to me). 3. waste of money and needless health hazards.

@Leo Gura Would you say that day game or night is harder on your own? I only daygame on my own and I cannot imagine doing it any other way. I used to do it with buddies but it quickly just becomes a cringy clown show where we subconsciously try to prove ourselves to each other. It's also nice not having to share the hot girls. Night game on the other hand I still find too intimidating to do on my own. I stayed in the club multiple times when friends left but then I was already in state and it was in a specific club where people are more mature and open. I once entered a club alone (before I found my buddies) and stayed there, did some dancing and approaching but felt very weird and intimidated. Going alone to nightclubs is definitely something I want to master and I know It's just a matter of practice. But to be honest day game is lately really bearing its fruit for me so I currently don't feel motivated to master that aspect of pick-up considering the colossal amount of energy night game takes.

hmm... not sure what to say. I used to be kinda toxic, easily butthurt and annoyed. Though this anger vanished completely when I started to live on my own (no more people encroaching on my space). That's also when I started doing psychedelics. Have you tried psychedelics? I believe that's the main thing that will get to the core of the issue. Other than that, find ways to release the anger in healthy ways, like: Gym/exercise fighting sport Masturbation/sex Have cathartic moments when you scream loudly in your head (you don't have to actually make noise) Also, get in touch with your feminine side. For example, you can tend a garden or get a pet, something you will love and care for.

@Leo Gura Yeah location is important, I usually game in and around the largest and busiest rail and bus station in the country. Especially during rush hour, I can't really complain about abundance issues. But it is a relatively small area so when I feel weird for walking there too much I take a stroll in the relatively calm and charming city center and parks and head back into "the Zone" when I feel ready. Also beforehand I like to walk off my anxiety in that manner.

Don't torture your self. You already do that enough with your negative thinking. Instead of no fap do no cumming before a night out. Means you masturbate but just don't cum.

@Leo Gura This question might be a little bit off-topic, but I heard that you really enjoy the days you have for yourself more than going to clubs. Generally, clubs and going out at night are a huge drain on energy and productivity and the girls there are generally of lesser quality. So my question is why not just day game? It's way less energy intensive and once you've passed the brutal learning curve and you're actually good at it, it's really a shockingly reliable way of getting dates, and all it takes is an hour or two of strolling through the busy part of town a couple of times a week.

@Leo Gura For me pick-up is mainly self-development: dealing with rejections, little heartbreaks ( I am now very aware of how the 5 stages of grief express themselves), being more authentic and masculine but also being more loving towards myself and her. Though yeah manipulations of different sorts are involved in "game". Game is so deliciously hard because of the stark difference in investment before sex. I used to put a lot of value on having a "click" with a girl, and I still do but now I also realize that if you're attractive to one hot girl you're also attractive to all hot girls. (A good substantial chunk that is, as all girls are impossible ofcourse).

It's not about those terms being derogative, they really aren't. The very fact that you're using those terms and think they are negatives shows me that you don't understand a very fundamental aspect of feminine attraction. Don't underestimate how secure and confident Lesser-looking short guys can be. I knew a guy who was near-freakishly short, yet he always had the hottest girlfriends because he had masculine boss energy. I also knew a guy who was tall but his face was egregious and ogre-like. Yet his girlfriend was a stunning little angel. He had a kind of bully-bad boy energy, together they had a beauty and the beast dynamic going on. Girls love the "beast" aspect of men. The very fact that you had a date with a stunner is a sign that you are attractive and have a lot of potential. Yet your insecurities don't make you see this. Your brain is creating negative feedback loops instead of positive ones. When I go home after a relatively uneventful and even "shitty" night out and think back, I think only of the 1 or 2 snippets that were positive and my brain uses that to reinforce my confidence. For me thinking back and reminiscing is more satisfying than the night out itself.

@ChadT Definitely no 5-meo-dmt in smart shops anytime soon

Agree, just a lack of common decency.

I have cheap but decent earplugs that amplify nearby sounds but dampen the more distant music. "Lesser looking" "short guys", don't think in those terms. Women are attracted to ENERGY. Authenticity and masculinity are the keys. Authentic masculinity is fucking beautiful. Try going out with a microdose of LSD and a full sack.

Wasn't she an important symbol? and humans are just sentimental creatures. It's important for a "state" to have both it's dry practical aspects as well as a sentimental one.

Most girls speak very softly even on regular dates. So training your hearing and focus is an important part of game. As with many skills within game, the benefits of developing this skill will also translate into your day-to-day life, which is pretty cool.

Cool man, relatable in many aspects. I would say there is both a romantic and cold calculated/impersonal aspect to approaching. It's important to balance those two. for example: don't get stuck on one girl or even a few girls (before a real relationship) but also constant and excessive approaching is no use. When your vibe is off just go home and return another day.

If you want an abundance of girls that are cute, feminine and stylish I think Paris is the place to be. Paris is pick-up heaven, no better place in my opinion. French girls are very cute as well as all the foreign ones there. Eastern Europe seems like a good option because of the cheap prices and abundance of some very feminine girls. Serbians, Hungarians and Baltics are a pretty bunch. Normally I would also mention Russia and Ukraine... but yeah... Though make sure you have your game down before moving to such a place otherwise, you'll be in for a rude awakening when even supposedly "easy" girls flake on you one after the other, and then you'll have to return home without having had the experience you hoped for. From my experience, nationalities such as Spanish and Brazilians love being approached the most. They really appreciate that polarity. They will for example play with their hair and are easy to strike up a conversation with. In contrast, I noticed that more masculine Germanic girls can have more often shitty reactions such as being skeptical, unimpressed, and even outright bored.