gettoefl

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  1. Good points. My take is to make any apparent enemy a valuable bestie. This needs to be sincere and concrete. Not just words but helpful actions. I want to be the best neighbor out there. When they go on vacation, they should trust me enough to leave their keys with me and to feed the animals. This improves their quality of life substantially. And mine too when I go on vacation.
  2. Am afraid I don't watch any vids but I just want to encourage you and motivate to keep persevering. Watch the vids which seem appealing. They all say the same thing in the end. They are reminding you that you are not who you think you are. You are spirit assuming a material form, the form means nothing except as a means for you to see the truth. My one advice would be to meditate every day if you can even just 5 minutes a day to begin. This signifies a commitment to being a better person. All the best Justine and stop by the forums and add in your questions and comments when you can. This is a good community to be part of.
  3. In addition, there isn't just no self, there is no universe either. To enter this is what acim calls the holy instant. You let your higher self look upon God as those around you. You don't even need others, you can sit here without the interfering ego. All spiritual work is simply to tune in to and operate from the higher self. For you this is impossible but no problem for you have the power to keep on choosing it since as you will discover you have free will to keep practicing it.
  4. Things have to get darker before the dawn starts to appear. The problem is the you who wants to be happy. Buddhism shows you how to realize this you is nothing. In other words how to shrink that you to nothing and then in the dawn the everything has a chance to come. It's a good path. There are others that are good too.
  5. Irrelevant whether it happened. You only ever meet yourself in the world. What you write on forums or speak to others, you communicate always for your own benefit. Doesn't mean you are required to take on everything that accosts your path. Do whatever will teach you something important by sharing something simple. To teach is to refresh the truth one already knows within.
  6. There are tons of men who are on the hunt to have sex with anyone - any age any weight any state any time. I can say they will have sex with anything. If people with a pulse are not available, that is fine - they will be happy with dead corpses. If the dead are all safely 6 feet under, just wheel in the farm animals. No standards are needed to get that nut.
  7. Men can be whores and be loud and proud gay for pay and straight for their children make notches on their belts for the world to admire and even become president. Women don't fare as fairly in love and war.
  8. Excellent, you have done yourself proud. Next you should buy them a gift and go tell them you appreciate their kindness in giving you a second chance. Gift can be wine, cake or chocolates. Tell them you are going to be a great neighbour from now on. If they need you, they can rely on you to look after their house if they go away for the weekend. Leave them your phone number and full name.
  9. Free will is the same as God. If you live like there is no God, you will live duality to the max- good bad good bad life after life. One day the murdered, next day the murderer. There is no free will in this, you can't alter it, it happens just like night and day. If you live like there is God, you will transcend and leave for good. You have free will to choose either path. Many will say but I tried God and it never works. No that was your ego trying on your behalf. You need to get on your knees and get serious with this religion thing.
  10. God's will is to create reality ever deeper and ever lovelier. God can't do anything but this. God hasn't free will in this. What God can do though is create seeming reality. This isn't reality but a dual mad scientist version of it just for kicks and giggles. We can term this a divine sleep break: another mode of creating reality and another string to God's orchestral repertoire. In seeming reality, rules are tweaked. In particular, there is free will. You can choose heaven or hell. Heaven ends the sleep break. Hell keeps it going. Choose whichever suits you better. Don't worry, eventually you will choose heaven since this is just a break and breaks HAVE to be finite since if they weren't finite they would be the actual reality. Have fun here my lovelies.
  11. It's a great opportunity. It can hone your skills and sell your charms. If there is no mutual-likey-like in the 5 minutes, there is no need to waste more time so the idea is perfectly sound. Your goal is to close on securing a second meeting for anyone promising before the 5 minutes elapses. You need a strong game plan: 10 relevant questions to ask and 10 points about yourself you wish to highlight. You get better the more you practice. Expect to end the night with a few numbers.
  12. Yes I do think the places you mention are better choices. The UK however is very much stuck in the past and doesn't want to embrace change.
  13. It's dehumanizing, depressing and pathetic. And worse it brings the other down to this level too. You pay a price for wielding your powers recklessly. Erosion of your innocence and beauty and alignment with your true nature. Not to mention for many it's addicting, disgustingly unhealthy and character corroding. A chapter of a life that nobody can be proud of. A chapter one would need healing of if not to pass it on to future generations.
  14. If you sell sex, you may find yourself feeling bitter, jaded, and alienated, making it difficult to cross over into mainstream society. If you buy sex, you risk becoming fixated on it and leading a divided life, where authenticity, honesty, and trustworthiness are widely doubted.
  15. Have lived half my life in each and am itching to get back west. Hopefully will make it back in next few years. People are more open minded, generous, enterprising and strange to say, simplistic. Change is always on the table. Here it's same old same old. I coined the name for California as the state of tomorrow.
  16. Great opportunity for humility and contrition and restitution. Go talk to them in any way you can and tell them you majorly messed up and you will do anything in your power to make this right. Get on your knees and implore them to have mercy on a hot-headed stressed out punk who was having an abysmal day and is trying to do better in life.
  17. Everyone has religion and lives it from womb to tomb - the scientist, the religious, the atheist, the agnostic. Simply put, it's you or it's me. Pay not heed to what people say since the majority can't get it. Figure out your own religion.
  18. Did you try 1-day to ensure feasibility. My ego loves threads on 7-day alone retreats of silent sitting.
  19. If she walks innocently down the street and he offers her a sum for sex and she agrees, he has brought her to the same level of sickness he is at If he walks innocently down the street and she provides him her OF details and he subs, she has brought him to the same level of sickness she is at.
  20. Everyone wants every other at the same level of pain and sickness as they are at and will exert sweat and proffer money to actualize that. It's only fair, right! Let's trade honey for money. None of us are effed up, we're just having fun.
  21. Evil is me not knowing the truth yet thinking I do despite my life being hell and thus leading you into the same hell I am in. The question to ask is, was my reality hell when I got out of bed today? My obligation in every conversation becomes to state whether today is heaven or hell before my eyes. To not do so, is to wallow in self delusion lifetime after lifetime and to have oneself be ostracised per this criteria by the serious truth seeker. In which case the rapists the terrorists and the extortioners are going to bring heaven to earth before you do. They can accept themselves while you are in hiding. How's it going folks? All grand here. Good simply put is, did I bring heaven with me today.
  22. Have a no-politics rule for the first month just like people have a no-sex rule. As a bonus, this will demonstrate how self controlled or out of control they are. Second bonus is you might get to know the deeper them and the deeper you. People's politics often bears no correlation to the way they live - in which case it matters little. So if you can like each other after a month, you might be able to partner with someone who has opposite views after all. Politics can be a deal breaker but you have to bring some nuance to this. In my life there are some I consider good friends whose politics I loathe and if they start lecturing then I withdraw attention.
  23. Show don't tell. All I need to know is what happened after you got up this morning. Speak about today, forget everything else. Parroting does the world a disservice, you included. This is because to teach is to learn. Any teacher can confirm.
  24. Attention seeking is asking, have I brought the right mask to the party. Better to just bring the normal face. Be authentic be humble be flawed. Their feedback if they give it is a measure of their maturity. You already know how you are and who you are. If they see that, that reflects well on them not you. What people says indicates who they are not who you are. Make good choices accordingly.