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have to be ruthless about friends, selecting them and whether to keep them friendship is based on reciprocity and like-mindedness: - they have to give the same measure you give and you contact them in equal measure to them contacting you - they have to be similar in interests background and development, in order words easy to be around if they don't meet your requirements cut them 2-3 is the optimal number and ideally your friends are friends of each other

to survive is to madly feather your flimsy nest in the dream while to arrive is do what you came here for, see the dreamer as a mere view-point from where said dream emanates surrounded by transient fluff including a body mind which seemingly houses said view-point upon arrival, survival is de-emphasised in favor of enjoyment and sharing and love life is no more dog eating dog and now more god meeting god

attachment is a want becoming a need i got to have this else life is not worth living how to stop want becoming need? for example to meditate every day means attachment learn to go for periods of time without benefit from everything, attach to nothing

to suffer means to not permit suffering is refusing to let existence be the way it wants to be there are no negatives in existence, negatives are how minds label stuff everything in existence is good and besides it is silly for you or anyone to try to thwart existence's wishes even more so when you realize that you are existence on the other hand let others be, they are enjoying life according to their level of consciousness

prayer is self talk that motivates oneself to wake up namely getting serious

sure practice love but don't go round raping the unconsenting with your amazing enlightenment let anyone who is seeking come unto you the 99% want just to be left tf alone and haven't interest in your spirtitual diarrhea

have to contemplate what is lying it is maintaining two versions of reality, the real me and the manicured me we all do this, we wear sweats when no-one is looking, we put on our glad rags to go on a date lying is saying i deny you access to the real me and i shall keep you in this realm until i say otherwise or until you wise up we all do this but most will lie they do so as they don't know what lying means i mean who in their life has worn their sweats and not showered before a first date ... rhetorical question so now you understand this, learn to use lying judiciously, you have one shot in this god given bod final point, never admit that you are liar some truths are too painful for even the most self aware

this alone counts heed not outcomes play with passion win and lose don't give fucks keep on playing sweating stretching sparring give your totality then head home fall into bed tomorrow same again

what you described isn't dishonest, they are doing their best to their level of consciousness and you are getting triggered

epic stuff, thank you dear heavyweight gladiators ?

you see an object, can you see that you see it? that is what awareness does it sees the person seeing stay like that, it's your true nature to work on this is called mindfulness

you like who you are like if they are mapping out and walking a similar path to you then that is going to resonate and so hang on to these folks, they are precious and god given beacons of light others are fine to listen to for sharing and socializing, no big deal, we're comprise a community of like minded seekers

meaning is what you seek/find, happiness is what your bring/get meaning is external and social, happiness is internal and personal they are separate pursuits but can overlap, the overlap would be self actualization

mindfulness is a useful tool ... but basically what is needed is disidentification with action ... when that happens body mind seems to lose interest in doing stuff since no fuel is being given to maintain this personna ... then the body mind is free to pursue different stuff

addictions are mindlessness ... bring mindfulness to them ... then you go from being a zombie to a yogi in a nutshell, the path is not letting mind body convince you it is you ... you are not that ... like razard86 says bring attention care love to what the mind body is doing ... ride along with it but don't get drunk on it

dont do something every day, that is slavery, be intelligent and listen to your body, be smart enough to mix up what you need, be thinking always and don't ever be a robot attachment is the only sin

you got to be dead tired when you hit the hay every night ... for me this means good amounts of working out and walking about interspersed through the day

the syntax is just like the letters of the words ... all the syntax makes sense when you play around with it and you realize it can not be any other way ... yes you need to have spent some years around it but then you see that is the best, the most shorthand, the most efficient way to get the ideas across ... you will never forget the letters of the alphabet and likewise the language of maths becomes equally ingrained

re the topic at hand there is peeking, and there is peaking only one of which lasts

i'm pretty advanced at maths ... years back i made myself forget everything so that every problem is solved from first principles i know no mathematics yet i can solve most every maths problem even advanced stuff like the 4-color theorem i determined to keep my mind empty so it was primed for creative insights ... this proved wise and timely as i got some good papers published this is what good mathematicians do in fact it takes minutes to go from zero to the absolute frontier of mathematics if you train yourself i look at it as intuition, i don't need the intermediate steps, i can attack any problem and it makes perfect sense, i get there by a quicker path than anyone has before, people think maths is hard, no your mind is full of lots of useless nonsense that is preventing you from seeing the truth am also perfectly happy to avail of google to collaborate and corroborate ... all about deepening one's insights and mastery

this body rises at 3 sits until 7, doing nothing is a mystifying waste of time and major annoyance for a mind, the rest of the day anything is ok happy to die the way things are

shame is fearing that they will know the real you the antidote is knowing yourself and your quirks and loving your good and your bad and not giving any fucks that others know

nobody wants others to label them a psychopath, an addict, a monster

shame is useful for anyone unconscious (ie controlled by mind) since it holds one in check from running amok on the other hand if you wake up you can go beyond it and be comfortable sharing your totality warts wounds and all

shame is because (almost) everyone leads a double life and doesn't want another to see our hypocrisy and call us out on it we feel shame since we are hiding our lived reality we fear shame when our lived reality is made public in any way we don't live in wholeness and authenticity and integrity and so shame is a constant companion standing ready to pull down our house of cards what is the antidote? drip with confidence about every aspect of yourself and be articulate in selling that version of yourself to the world delight in being an outlier in a world of people pleasers and approval seekers