gettoefl

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  1. if sexual needs are not adequately addressed and satisfied this won't be solved this isn't women being triggers for arousal this is about not attending to one's needs and appetites the latter needs to be addressed before leaving the house walking around in a state of perceived deficit will cause one to view women unhealthily fix the root problem or have concrete steps in place that deal with it for example be socializing with and dating women on the regular so your body stops leading you around by your dick
  2. writing (and speaking) is for oneself so have to proceed to benefit oneself authentically as well as optimally writing lifts one's own level of consciousness, one shocks oneself and makes break throughs
  3. yes, i like to distinguish understand and know ... understand is step by step and mental and explainable, know is instant and direct and beyond words know is to integrate yourself from the part to the whole ... of course you know it because you are it ... it is like saying do i know my arm the limits to be dissolved are the thought one is a separate individual ... hitch a ride with awareness instead of being drug along by thinking you are both sides of every interaction that takes place, object as much as subject, nurture this harmoniously
  4. correct you are awake to the extent you relish uncertainty and cultivate freshness surprise spontaneity ... you are asleep to the extent you are running pre-programmed interactions all day long
  5. very simple, separate residences, see each other when both are up for it never been freer, never been happier
  6. to know the knower is the only knowing, all other knowing is here today gone tomorrow ... to know is to be, the think you know is not to be
  7. for me it's an endless quest of being protector provider prince... am always stepping into women's business way more than i should and ignoring plenty of men going through dire experiences this is a pitiful attachment solution online is for example no profile picture i am not god's gift after all
  8. with leo you have to take the dung as the price for the gold if you are awake taking a slap or two from leo is the best medicine the best compliment the best therapy
  9. spirituality is a 2-step program: know yourself, enjoy yourself don't put the cart before the horse, do the steps in the right order enjoying yourself is letting your true nature live leaping out of bed enthusiastically each morning is a sign this is happening
  10. there is well being and there is true being, one goes out and one goes in one precludes the other in my opinion
  11. would agree with this ... the world and its happenings and its characters are not my business my business is to look on with detachment, equanimity, bliss detachment is, howsoever this moment unfolds it is good equanimity is there isn't anything that makes me feel bad bliss is choosing to breathe beautifully rather than tinkering with the world and having made this here now perfect i am free to love life, to sing with the birds, to dance with butterflies, to paint a tapestry, and to hear any need with boundless compassion
  12. nothing and everything are the sum of dream and can be understood by mind, i am beyond that within, beyond or manifest, unmanifest or dream, dreamer are dualistic pointers
  13. truth is absolute false is a continuum ... some things will lead you to the truth more quickly than others, namely they are closer to truth some teachers for example will resonate strongly and bring you to the goal swiftly while others leave you mired in the delusion
  14. thought comes ... no thought is ever mine ... i claim it as mine ... i am enslaved by following that thought where it leads if rather i see it and don't claim it as mine, it is gone there are some thoughts however for example i am hungry i have to get involved with else i will stave i shall pursue such thoughts mindfully and allow them to lead as they will
  15. creativity is pruning thoughts so they no longer drag you around like the bull with a chain in its nose auto-pilot is the opposite of creativity sameness is man-like, difference is god-like every day i don't do something different is a waste chipping away the false is the true purification the true the mind cannot touch zap the thoughts as they come inside, release the attachments as they present outside
  16. my mind slices and dices the real for its own longevity agenda saying this image i have produced is helpful that image i have produced is harmful i have experienced that my mind is perfectly capable of leaving the real alone, serving it up and not tinkering with it in any way that's when the absolute shows itself
  17. i guess interestingly enough there is a duality the absolute is subject to, dream, non-dream or if you prefer manifest, non-manifest
  18. if anyone is interested in the Dzogchen / Mahamudra path @Water by the River speaks of, check out "Essentials of" at the following channel i have found it useful https://www.youtube.com/@YogiKhenpoDrimedDawa/playlists
  19. the absolute is beyond every duality (and non-duality of course since duality, non-duality is the final duality)
  20. the only succeed is to be a hamster and to suck seed
  21. beautiful ? just abide in empty awareness untainted by notions of perceived objects or the perceiving mind conversely to abide in full awareness, is to think the perceiving mind and the perceived objects into existence
  22. power corrupts ... if someone can treat you shabbily and get away with it they likely will ... even if family especially if family ... cause where do you turn to if you can't turn to your own flesh and blood the above relationships are mirrors theory is fine when there isn't power imbalance else people will keep doing you however they can
  23. some of us are brainwashed into being chattel our whole lives and know no other life, hard to know if you haven't walked a mile in such shoes no emancipation proclamation to dream of