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Kind of you to say that. Truth told, my knowledge is shallow and narrow compared to yours! Also I gleaned a tremendous amount of what I know from the beautiful @Moksha and @Inliytened1

Appreciate the props, good people. @Someone here @Keryo Koffa Leo did give me a little rap on the knuckles and thus I am working on better communication instead of manic rambling

She's vulnerable so needs a valuable man who can provide for her protection and her procreation He honors that because he wants it and nothing else

Yes indeed, spoken like a truly evolved smart certified ego. There isn't control. You are at the mercy of uncountable interactions of your ambient separate self spinning its web. While you believe you are avoiding sinking in the shit, by your stated agenda, you are in truth resisting all that lies in your path and inviting worse sink holes ahead. Give up the reins of power; give existence the wheel of your vehicle. Casts your cares on it since it is the only reliable thing and has your back. I simply love waking up and having an empty calendar with another day stretched out gleaming before me. Isn't it magnificent?

Awakening is to wake up and have no plans, then to soar in the air like a bird on the wing, all because the wind dictates it You aren't your own man anymore with expectations, needs, requirements, preferences You do what is called for and you say what is useful and you go to where needed You are ever untouchable mighty untroubled and smiling You don't court trouble but should apparent ill befall you, it's all in the day's work You are simply passing through and all this has nothing to do with what you are and how you feel Nothing here matters in the least except in so far as you can do a good turn or two for a brother that he be the same way

To control reality, get on god's team rather than having him on your team Love is the will of god and aligning with it moves molecules of any mountain God is happy to allow heavenly miraculous spell-binding unfoldings Alas so far, pretty much no human has given this a try yet Nobody out here knows the radical truth of love let alone practices it Our MO is to spin webs of fear Dear god Just allow me one more year

The suffering is created by the sufferer! To suffer doesn't mean to reluctantly let happen; It means to chose to allow the flow of existence unimpeded Suffering is what hastens awakening; it is one being pricked again and again until one starts to question and enquire The sufferer needs to throw his hands in the air and say I am doing this same idiotic craziness lifetime after lifetime; I am desperate and need to break free of this once and for all This is the call to god and is met with the call from god Now at last you can start to piece together who this sufferer is When you have done that, suffering may or may not keep arising but there will be no more sufferer left to wallow in it I am no longer craving good and no longer chased by bad; I am all things at all times to all peoples for all seasons Sure you might go ahead and crucify me if you desire and you will see how such barbarity is to your downfall not mine Awakening is what is needed: Rise up as the real you and leave the robotic you to keep tilting at the bogus windmills

A man strategizes on what he wants and what means everything to him. His needs are all taken care of. He will choose among 1000s of possibles and narrow it down. Looks are the primal barometer for him. She, meanwhile, needs to think about her future, her finances, her family, her nuptials, her children both present and future and if she says maybe how this man will impact all that. Looks are icing on the cake. His needs are to have a full stomach and then empty loins. If he's hungry he'll go round his mum's first. Tomorrow is not a big deal. Me Tarzan, you Jane.

Reading opens doors Writing cements ideas Only what comes out of your own head is worth a lick That's why forum participation is useful And needless to say, writing > speaking > thinking

Men and women process attraction differently For him, it's a hell yes top down check list and how high up that list he will risk approaching based on his vibe that day For her, it's a no or a maybe based on how i am feeling thanks to him in this moment His agenda is wants in particular today, hers is needs in particular tomorrow Different animals

Man is a ruthless predator scheming to satiate his loins and this is 24-7 and not just in times of famine or war. Money trumps laws. (Didn't anyone mention Don One in this thread yet?) Food and shelter is a solved problem for most. Lower appetites remain unfulfilled for the majority. Woman needs a strong protector because unconsciously she knows how vulnerable she is. A ring may announce her off limits. Though that won't stop the majority from chancing his luck.

Man provides the strength, safety, security and stability that woman needs to thrive

Yes because you receive rather than generate Different dynamic

She feeds the world, he seeds the world Looks are what determine whether he can or not If you get my point

Correct

My myopic take: He wants sexiness; She wants status What this means for him is when he asks her out, he already eliminated all other women in his options and she is indubitably the one What this means for her is when he asks her out, she has a yes or no answer to give, and status can only be guessed at in that first minute. So as long as he acquits himself passably well she has good incentive to give him a chance to prove his worth. His choice is definitely a yes. Her choice is definitely a provisional maybe. Bottom line, sexiness isn't nearly as fakable as status while certainly being plenty enough to be marriable All the while she will bide her time to see if she is really that magical 777 he claims to be in the first minute He's hooked with the looks and she figuring did he cook the books Different value systems

So look in the mirror and then tell me who you think you really are

Yes, this is close. For me, the form is a trap. You tricked yourself by dissociating other parts of yourself, believing in separation and making duality. When you attach yourself to form, you are identifying with limits that aren't there. The experience of form, with all its thoughts, feelings, and suffering, comes from a belief in division - from seeing yourself as distinct from the totality of existence. But that’s not the real you! The truth of who you are is beyond the form, and beyond any appearance of suffering. The key for me is that real freedom comes from recognizing that all form is purely an illusion. Instead of finding balance between form and the infinite, the task at hand is to see through the illusion of form entirely. Suffering exists simply because of the attachment to the illusion, but when you understand that it’s not real, your perception will shift. You realize that what you actually are is untouched by suffering or limitation, and that you are still whole and unified with everything, even if it looks otherwise. This isn't about denying form or pushing it away but about no longer taking it as one's identity. The more you stay in the deeper reality of who you are, the less grip the illusion of form will have on you. What once felt dense and limiting starts to dissolve, and your experience of freedom and peace becomes more consistent. So it’s not a gradual process of balancing both realities but a gradual awakening to the fact that only one reality is true - the absolute beyond form.

health is wholeness physical health means to be be able to enjoy the world fully mental health means to be able to think happily spiritual health means to be able to enjoy more than the physical or mental

An ego loves this idea and will trumpet this doctrine from the rooftops It's a way of keeping ITS kingdom intact with IT on the highest throne Egos are fiendishly sneaky, beware

I love you and as I told you before, you are my teacher

Give up the nightmare boom and bust dreams There is something way better waiting Creation is one's destiny and everything here is child's play

Truth told I have never suffered my entire life, have worked Walmart type jobs and done stretches inside This body has indeed suffered plenty and often gets on my case to do something I tell it this isn't up to me I can tell everyone here that when you heal your mind then you WILL heal your body Body is not being affected by surroundings and circumstances like commonly believed You are doing this to yourself to punish yourself and to keep yourself enslaved in darkness Your sick mind cannot have you waking up Your mind is eminently healable as I explain many times over. The means is forgiveness of all that you see. Let me say it aloud: YOU ARE CREATING ALL THIS HERE AND FORGIVING IS TO SEE THEN TREAT EVERYTHING AS LOVE NOT FEAR

Yes it is absolutely a choice Problem is 99% who live don't know there's a choice And even the 1% don't see eye to eye as we see here Which is why I say, listen to no one and find what works yourself It's lonely and thankless and painful but it actually works Joy is guaranteed and irreversible

Drifting in space, I could not awaken. I need the forms to discover what I really am. I dumped them outside me and covered them with fear to make an interesting story. It's a silly mad detour from what is much better: creating unimpeded for eternity. This is a shit-show by comparison. I can undo all this. Fear is just saying I am a frantic mess because I am a poor limited soul so I better do stuff quickly before I expire. And you are stopping me from doing it. You are not stopping me from anything. You are the only god available to me and I have to see you and treat you thusly. That is the only ticket home. To dissolve this madness forever.