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@iceprincess I don't know about reaching higher states of consciousness but it definitely boosts your emotional mastery and self-control which I think are important for spiritual work.

@Keyhole oh, lol ok ) @Preety_India Do you still wear dresses like this for some special occasions? They look cool!

@egoeimai what is that supposed to mean?

Hi, here is what I am currently doing: - 5 minutes of affirmations daily (I love myself) - guided visualizations/hypnosis on youtube I also do mindful meditation and shamanic breathing, they are more general practices but also help a lot. And life purpose! Even though I only have a general idea of what it's right now, finding my life purpose have boosted my confidence and motivation a lot. Here is the visualization that I really like: Also, watch Leo's videos about subconscious mind, visualizations and affirmation, they are old but still pretty useful in my opinion:

@iceprincess Why do you have to say anything to him? Let him believe whatever he wants to believe. In a healthy friendship people should respect each other's opinions, that means he shouldn't try to persuade you to believe in all those conspiracy theories like a madman and you shouldn't try to prove him wrong. You can have a normal discussion on any topic and share your points of view (even if they are opposite) without having to argue with one another.

Thanks, haha

@Preety_India Wow, that is crazy. I can't imagine all the emotional trouble you had to go through during this 3 years. What is an HSP? Is it some sort of typology system like mtbi? @Keyhole Most men are not like that, I am sorry that you had to deal with that piece of shit, but I am sure that you can find someone who will be loving and caring. I think you need to learn how to feel other people better. It's possible to quite accurately determine if a person is an asshole or not after talking to them for like 10 minutes if you learn how to use your intuition better.

@The_Alchemist how am I supoosed to know, I am not Leo. Maybe because he finds it more convenient to answer specific questions in threads deicated to them specifically where he can go much more in depth. Maybe there is some other reason. Why do you care? You give me the feeling of being very entitled as if Leo owes you something.

@The_Alchemist because he prefers to post somewhere else now!?

@The_Alchemist he is very active on this forum anyway

@Chimera "No one is born into this world to be alone." – Jaguar D. Saul (One Piece) You will definitely find people who will like you the way you really are. You just need to work on your insecurities and fear of being yourself. It's a gradual process of healing and growth, so be patient. 25 years is just the beginning!

@machinegun I don't know why you chose to post it in life purpose section, but I think that finding one will actually increase your confidence a lot. At least it helped me. Learning how to move your energy from your head to your heart helps a lot. Personally, I think that it's more important to focus on developing determination and bravery (doing the right thing even when you are afraid), confidence should naturally follow of you do that. And lastly, I just wanted to clarify that I am talking about general confidence in yourself as a human being, which could also be interpreted as a lack of constant excessive doubt, anxiety, unnecessary worries, etc. I think that you made it clear in your post that that's what you meant by confidence, but some people seem to be confused. Of course I am not talking about you being confident in your ability to do a police officer's job without any prior training. More like you being confident in your ability to become a great police officer after you put in the necessary work.

Hi guys, I wanted to get into pickup recently, but I have this thought that comes up and I don't know how to argue with it. My thinking goes more or less like this: Why do I want to do pickup? Is it only because I am afraid and don't believe that I can get a girlfriend by being myself? Do I want to approach hundreds of girls to feel better about myself? If so, then is my confidence and self-worth defined by the number of girls I can attract? Why do I need to learn all these techniques and manipulate people to do something as basic as dating? The only reason that I can come up with is that I don't feel like I am enough. If that's true, then I have to work on my self-image and insecurities and not dating strategies. If I was absolutely secure and confident in my ability to create a fulfilling relationship would I ever consider getting into pickup? Probably I wouldn't. If so, then isn't getting into pickup would mean me giving up and choosing the easier external solution for the internal problems and insecurities that I have? Is that way of thinking wrong or right? I am confused and will be happy to hear your arguments for either side.

@Farnaby that's what I want as well. But I think that pickup can be useful to get me started. Also think that I use the term "pickup" very vroadly here, basically meaning actively learning how to date. I actually heard a lot of stories like that but I don't think I'll be lucky like that without putting in some work first.

@Etherial Cat your opinion is very welcome! I think that I resonate with your view on things the most out of what was said in this thread. Thank you )

Some time ago I asked if it was worth it to try and help a developing country to grow But does anyone have any thoughts on what is actually the best way to do that: getting into politics, creating a social business or an NGO, becoming an opinion leader? Also what is the most important think to focus on: education, poverty elimination, environment and infrastructure, combating corruption? I know that it depends a lot on a specific country and there is no uniform solution, but there should be more and less effective ways, right?

@Mannyb I am on the self development journey alreay. It seems that you for some reason reject the possibility of doing both at the same time. In order for people to be ready for turquoise leaders, you first need to help them move up the spiral. Stuggle is fine as far as I am concerned. Easy and effortless life would be boring as hell.

@Acche I study business and administration in the university right now. But I also need to study a lot on my own: sociology, economics, politics, history, etc. I have been thinking about starting a youtube channel, but a bit later, when I feel like it.

@Acche do you think that there is a country right now that is ready for a turquoise leader? Also, what kind of religion do you want to start? And how do you plan to take on "crap music" industries and why they should be fought against in the first place? As for my plans, they look more or less like that: 1) Next 3-4 years: study, become financially stable, develop myself. 2) 2-3 years after that: move back ti my home country, settle down and integrate with society, experience the most important issues firsthand, be socially active citizen. 3) Unknown timeframe: create a social business, an NGO, or something else that will adress the most important issues and give the massive value to the society

@Girzo wow, thanks for sharing so many amazing resources with me! They will be a lot of help in my life purpose work for sure

@Girzo I was thinking about getting into politics first, but then I understoond that I would hate all those formalities, restrictions on how I should behave, and external accountability.

@Hello from Russia yeah, I agree, but sadly I haven't got any great ideas yet. Luckly I still have plenty of time )

@Girzo thanks for your response. Yeah, I have been looking at b corporations myself and even focusing some university assignments on them. That's an awesome thread I will definitely read it, thanks )

@Eren Eeager I had a similar situation as him about hal a year ago (not with my professor though). I knew perfectly well that relationships shouldn't be my top priority in life, thatI should put things like my life purpose and self-actualization first, and that I shouldn't be needy but it just flew out of the window. I couldn't care less about all of that and was thinking something like: "I am going to make us be together no matter what" and "I don't mind dying for that person". Of course this way of thinking is kind of retarded when you look back on it, but at the moment I didn't care. And then all those crazy emotions slowly died out after 2-3 months and I was back to my normal self. So I think the most important thing is to not do anything really stupid that you will regret later during that period.

@Eren Eeager yeah, that was an overstatement on my part, sorry )) But you should understand that in the state he is in right now it is extremely difficult to be rational and to just stop caring about it.