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@Gili Trawangan @Keyhole I don't know if that's important in this case but she didn't use tinder to just hook up, they didn't have sex for more then a month after they've met. I don't know what his intentions were obviously.

@Leo Gura Also, the reason she doesn't want to tell anything to her parents (and I have the same opinion as well). Is because the last time she had a relationship with a guy who was more or less her age, our parents still feaked out and their reaction was completely inadequate in my opinion. So I doubt she would be willing to tell them anything even if this guy was her age (at least not anytime soon), let alone when there's all this age controversy

@Leo Gura my sister is probably more conscious than you think. And she just isn't the type of person to just tolerate someone who treats her badly. In my opinion, the most likely worst case scenario is that he will turnout to be douchebag, they will break up, my sister will cry for a week or two and move on. If anything, I think that me telling everything to her parents would traumatize her for life.

@xxxx I will do my best, thank you

@xxxx that's what I thought as well. He must have been to insecure to tell her at first. And while it might be an attraction killer for a girl, I would not mind it that much since being insecure doesn't make him a bad person and that's basically the main thing that I am concerned about.

@Leo Gura Also, Leo, if you don't mind me asking, how is your health doing? I remember you mentioning that your health problem affected your dating life a lot. I hope it gets better. Stay strong, you are awesome!

@Leo Gura I know you probably don't care about praise and other people's opinions, but personally I am very greatful that actualized.org exists

@Keyhole quite a lot to be honest: - They are both stage green (at least he seems to be from what my sister says) - they are both vegans - they are both into yoga, meditation, etc., (they even do it together sometimes) But I will ask him about that directly

@Leo Gura Do you regret it though?

@Preety_India well, we will see how it goes. But thank you for your concern Also thanks to everyone for your inputs, I didn't expect this thread to explode like that, haha

@Carl-Richard @hoodrow trillson he is actually bald, lol But he looks nice imo

@soos_mite_ah she isn't going to depend financially on him. Our parents support her for now and then she already thinks about starting her own business. She is quite ambitious )

Yeah, that would be really awesome!

@Forestluv yeah, I understand that.

@Forestluv but she isn't his student. Also I totally forgot to mention something that might be important. He invited her to meet his parents and she did. That's a good sign I guess.

@Keyhole Seriously though, what are the most important questions to ask him? Any creative ideas?

@Etherial Cat I mean I could tell our parents about it justifying it with looking after her. But it would be an absolutely heartless thing to do imo and would do more harm than good

@Keyhole @Barbara Yeah, I will look out for her, don't worry, we talk/chat with each other almost daily so I'll know if something is wrong. And I will definitely talk to him when I have a chance. @Etherial Cat @soos_mite_ah I agree with you about the fact that they are in different stages in life and that he shouldn't resonate with her that much because of the age difference, so that does seem suspicious. On the other hand, I am going to trust her judgement since she haven't given me any reasons to not trust it so far. And discriminating her just based on her age and lack of experience seems wrong to me.

@RendHeaven I hope that I won't have to date anyone anymore when I am 37

@Username oh, that is actually a valid argument! It would be really hard to find 40 yo stage green woman in Poland (not saying that it's impossible, but still).

@Pudgey I am not going to do anything, as I said, her life her responsibility. Also if I didn't show her at least basic support and respect for her decisions then she wouldn't tell even me about this relationship or the ones she might have in the future and then the situation would be even worse. Yes I plan to meet him when there is an opportunity, she moved to another city because of university, maybe during winter holidays.

@Carl-Richard I think it's kind of different if a women is older than you though

@Barbara She probably wouldn't and I agree with you IT IS weird, but on the other hand, she is definitely more mature than an average 19 yo. Personally, I don't see myself considering a relationship with 19 year olds when I am around 40. Is it bad if he has students around that age?

@Preety_India I see

@Preety_India I know, but I meant for something like weddings, important holidays, etc.