BornToBoil

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@Preety_India wow, it's actually quite true! But I think that first 2 negatives might as well be positives if used properly. Also, I am an INFJ by the way.

@Preety_India oh, so that's why you asked my Zodiac sign )) Personally I was never really interested in them. What is it supposed to say about my personality?

Ok, I wasn't done, I forgot to include those guys

@Preety_India yeah

@Preety_India haha, yes thank you. It turned out to be actually really helpful and motivational to do this.

Ok, I think I am done here for now

Inspirational Relationship Examples Anatoly and Olga Shariy Omg, my heart just melts when I look at them. Going trough lots of shit and hardships together, sharing the same life purpose. Not to mention that both of them are really inspirational individuals by themselves. Just no words... they are awesome! Dasha and Vlad Super loving and romantic stage green relationship

Specifics: Loves to sing and dance, shares my music tastes at least partially. Is able to speak Russian or at least is in the process of learning it if she is a foreigner. Has her own purpose in life, apart from having a relationship, it would be awesome if we eventually discovered one common life purpose. Is willing to work on our relationship, to make it as great as it can possibly be. Is able to discuss everything that needs to be discussed without freaking out, getting angry and stuff like that. Is into her own personal development work. Although, she doesn't have to be super spiritual or anything, her being into meditation or at least being open minded about the topic is a huge plus. Doesn't engage in stupid low consciousness activities like gossiping about people, judging people behind their backs and stuff like that. Is honest and kind-hearted. Doesn't push me to have kids until I am ready and really want to have kids, which isn't going to happen earlier than 35+ years old for me. It is ok if she doesn't want to have kids at all, I could deal with that. Doesn't drink or smoke or is willing to quit. Leads a healthy lifestyle in general, is fit, not necessarily an athlete (although I don't mind), but also not a couch potato. Is open minded about being vegan or vegeterian, but doesn't have to be. Cares about the environment. Is willing to experiment and work on our sex life. Doesn't mind living in Ukraine in case I decide that it's necessary for realizing my life purpose.

Character traits: - Introverted - Optimistic - Shares similar sense of humor - Energetic - Adventurous - Open-minded - Kind - Honest - Growth oriented - Ambitious and purposeful - Mentally strong - Romantic

@Preety_India ehh, poor Usopp

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@Preety_India wow, you are so specific. What do you mean by nice lips? I never actually thought about it. How can lips be not nice for example?

@Preety_India Oh, I actually thought that you were talking about someone like Michael Corleone or Tyler Durden.

For me it would make things only worse, I think it's better to keep your mind of a thing entirely, but if you say that it's helping you, then it's alright I guess. I would like to come up with some nice response, the only issue is that I don't know how to flirt properly, sorry )) But thanks, haha

@Preety_India that sucks... I think you should just ditch internet altogether for a while as much as you can and go for a walk or something. I remeber when I used to just scroll reddit non stop. It can really fuck your mind up. And the worst part is that it's hard to pull yourself out of it.

@Preety_India I don't know, I might be wrong. It's just the vibe I get from reading your posts as if you were squizzed like a lemon. And you are like almost 24/7 on this forum. I know it can be really helpful, but also tiring and addictive. Is your sleep ok?

@Preety_India hi, I know that this is none of my business, but have you thought about taking a break from all those thoughts about relationships, and boyfriends and even from this forum in general and allowing yourself to rest and recover? You look really exhausted. Also, it seems to me that you are focusing to much on external stuff and hoping that it will make somehow fix you. But it just can't. No perfect boyfriend will be able to save you, no dream relationship will fulfill you, you will have to do it yourself.

@Preety_India also, when it comes to relationshio advice specifically, I think people shouldn't try to come up with the exact image of a "perfect partner" in their head. I have noticed you do it a lot (good boy vs bad boy, masculine or not, and all that stuff) I think you got caught up in theories too much. I guess it's better to just be open to experiencing different kinds of relationships with different people and make decisions wether you like them or not individually without labelling and categorizing them. So, instead of saying: "I don't want a good boy", saying: "I don't want to continue dating Bob" Yeah, it might be more stressful and scary, but I think it's better strategy in the long-term. Although balance is importing and you should learn from past relatuonships and analyze what went wrong. Just don't gettoo defensive and closed off. Personally, I have no idea what kind of person I will actually resonate with when it actually comes to an individual case because it's so complex. So I don't bother creating a vision of my perfect partner. P.S. sorry for mistakes, I am typing this on my phone

@Preety_India Well, first I would ask myself what in my opinion stops me from creating a relationship that I want with a person that I want. Is it looks, is it my mental ilnessess, is it the fact that a person like that will never like me back or that there are no people like that where I live, etc. This way I would write down the biggest limiting beliefs that I have and then deconstruct them one by one in a form of a dialog with myself. I really love journaling. It has made much more impact in my life than meditation and other self-help practices. I guess you too since you have so many journals here. I obviously don't know the whole situation, but it seems that most of your obstacles are internal which means you can deal with them by working on yourself. Also, I think it would be useful to forget about dating and all that stuff for a while and just focus on yourself. But not in negative way "I will forever be alone so I won't even bother trying, even thiugh I am lonely and would love to have a great relationship". More in a "ok I need some rest from all that shit and I am going to focus on myself for a while and when the time is right I will focus on finding the right relationship for me". And I woildn't give up, at least not forever. I think it's normal to sometimes give up on a momentarily thing "this particular guy will not like me back" or "ok, I will it that cookie today even though I decided to stop eating sweets" but you shouldn't give up on stuff that is important for you permanently "I will never find the right person for me so I will never ever try again and die alone" or "damn, I've tried to quit eating sweets 10 times already and failed, I will never make it. I should just stop trying and die from diabities". Seriously you are just 27 you have so much time left, a lot of things can change, especually since you are already doing personal development work unlike most people, just don't loose hope. I understand that it's much easier for me to be wise and smart while not being in your situation, but still I hope that I can at least give you some food for thought.

@Preety_India come on, don't give up like that. You are something like 30 years old right? You will still have lots of opportunities to find someone. There are so many people on earth, how is that possible that not a single one from them will be a perfect match for you? You are such a great person, you deserve an awesome fulfilling relationship. Seeing you saying stuff like that makes me sad.

@Max_V You are not a mistake, nobody is a mistake. You have a purpose in life you just have to find it. I don't know what kind of music you like, but maybe this will raise your spirit a bit:

@Max_V Also finding a purpose in life does wonders to your self esteem and not worrying about being judged or being an outcast.

@Max_V I understand, but you will have to go through experiencing it (or at least the fear of experiencing it) if you want to change your life. Just imagine how awesome it will be once you overcome that shit.

@Max_V don't allow the level of your success with women define you as a person. There is much more to life than dating and relationships. Also, I know it sounds cliche, but stop caring so much what others will think about you. Lets say you approach this girl and she finds you utterly disgusting, so what? At least you will be proud of yourself for actually being brave enough to approach her, who cares about what she will think about you.