BlackMaze

Start taking cold showers and working out. The more you push those 2 the more masculine you will feel.

I used to be stuck in nihilism for some years. I used to think yeah i know that i can do whatever i want... Be successful or whatever. There was no doubt about this but after that my conclusion always was yeah what's the point. Everything is a lie. All i did was to smoke as much weed as i could destroy a relationship and yolo not care about anything. Because it didn't matter. Maybe nothing matters but why stay stuck in this fucked up belief and let it control your life? All nihilism is, is yet another thought that is believed to be true. The best answer to this is the one i found in SirVladimir's book. If nothing really matters then also the thought that nothing matters also don't matter. I can't think of a counter argument against this.

I wouldn't assume that there is no unconsciousness in Eckhart. I'm very sure that there are unconscious moments in his life and this is true for every spiritual teacher or guru. Sure he has much less than most of us. If he lives his teachings he wouldn't desire for people to see him as the ultra woke guru over 9000. Eckhart knows that Eckhart does not exist and he is the now. This is all he teaches. I don't disagree that maybe there is more to realize than this but imo this is the first thing one should become aware of. A new earth is a powerful book that cuts through all the bs if someone is ready. Now they might have been angry for the same reason i mentioned. They don't agree with his teachings for whatever reason and basically what they do is to protect their ego by fighting and attacking Eckhart to prove themselves right. If there is no ego in you, you can choose to not give the spark to their bs to start a fire. They will look at you confused af intensifying their efforts to see a reaction in you but if there is no you they will see none and eventually they'll give up. If you see this and derive pleasure from this then that's your ego again coming from the back door. You should catch it and recognize it. You are able to receive the bs and digest it fully without suppressing anything, you are transparent to this stuff. You have no ego to protect because you saw through all the roots of ego that are basically lies that everyone believes. Again the new earth can help with this for people that had enough or are through spiritual practice ready. Yes it is completely possible to be free of the victim mentality now, in this moment. To live in the now means that you don't live in the past or the future. If you don't live in the past or a place other than now then there is no 'you'. It's as simple as that. Are you a victim right now? If you were able to just be right now and be fully concious in this moment then you wouldn't be a victim for this moment at least. What if you were present the next moment also? Then you would have 2 victim free moments. The point is not to look at the future to calculate how many victim free moments you will have. You have only this moment and if you choose to live only in this moment you will have infinite victim free moments. Now if you happen to be concious and can't help it but love everyone and someone is going to abuse you or threaten your survival is a very strange situation to find yourself in. You should defend and protect your survival even if you can love the people that threaten it. Weirdly enough you must have the courage to go beyond survival to be free of the control the ego has but once you are there even if you are awake you are still a human in this reality or dream or whatever. Life is a game and you should enjoy it and make it how you want it to be. You play this game in hardcore mode, that means if you die that's it for all we know. Dream ends and maybe next one starts. If you care about your dream then you should also respect its rules and act for your survival even if you understand that this is your ego.

Haha ok sounds like someone wants to forget about all this and not do the work

It does make sense but i don't really know much about shadow work or development stages yet to answer this. The pain body is a useful name that includes all suffering, all negative thoughts and emotions, irritability boredom etc. When not dormant it possesses you. Everytime you catch it you can just label it as pain body and see that you are the one that watches the pain body in whatever form. You step out of the seriousness of your situation. You go meta on your suffering. You can go even further and be the watcher that watches the watcher. Everytime you do this your baseline consciousness grows. The stronger the painbody is the more aware you become each time you catch it. Of course there are other ways. Everytime you do this successfully you can feel a certain energy rising in the body. There is a certain feeling. You try to live from this place and this is what i consider to be shadow work. Of course Eckhart Tolle explains everything perfectly in the new earth. The reason we get triggered is because we try to protect the ego like our life depends on it. Of course the ego's life depends on it. Almost everyone wants to be right all the time. To be wrong or be wronged by someone is like a death threat. We also want to feel above others mostly for survival reasons. There are countless thoughts we have each day that we mistake for ourselves. On a deep level we are the same thing. If you recognize the essence of another human that is the same as yours you see the others as yourself and only then you can really love them. Let's say you called me a name, whatever let's go with ugly. If i knew that i have the best looks in the world there is no way this could affect me i would laugh at you. On the other hand if i was really insecure about my looks i would get triggered and hurt. Now if i knew that my ego is a lie and needs no protecting your insult would have no effect on me. Even if hurtful feelings came up i could recognize them as the pain body and remember my true nature and how silly it is to participate in a cockfight. As i read recently on the way of the superior man the best response i could have is to go to the pain and feel it fully. Open up my chest breath deeply and look you straight in the eyes. Let's say you judge a killer for being a killer. That is a bad thing to be right? After all you are this great person that goes to church let's say. You would never do something like this! You are nothing like him! This is where you are wrong. Both stuck at ego mind. If you changed places and you had the same experiences or chemistry or whatever as him you would do exactly the same thing. I don' t really like Jordan Peterson much but at least i learned this from him (and to clean my room). On the other hand if you could understand this and at the same time recognize the hidden being behind the killer you could love him as yourself. Of course there are many degrees of unconsciousness depended from many factors. And different degrees of suffering. All this is good and all but we still have to live in this sometimes dark world, surviving, reproducing, creating, having fun etc My answer was longer than i expected it to be, i hope that this makes sense and that i didn't mental masturbate too much.

The unconsciousness. To abuse someone means that you are completely disconnected. This doesn't mean that it's the child's fault. Because of the experiences the child had, it becomes traumatized believing that he is this traumatized human that awful things happened to him and the cycle perpetuates itself. Maybe the parents were also traumatized from their own parents. The traumatized self is a lie. It doesn't really exists in the now. It's just the pain body that possesses the mind that can be slowly disolved each time one becomes aware of it and remembers that he/she is not it. There is being hidden behind the ego. This is true for everyone even for killers and rapists. Everything besides consciousness is just a mask not the truth. But almost everyone in our reality perceive the masks as the truth (and i am not exluding myself) . That said it's very important to work on healing traumas and doing shadow work. Shamanic breathing helped me heal some traumas very fast. Being honest and open also. Journaling can be really helpful too. Maybe an expert could also help.

@Harikrishnan i'll watch it thanks. But 6 days? Come on this dude must be suicidal

Read radical honesty. To pretend you are something else by not saying something is lying and not being authentic. If you actually tell the truth you might discover that what you considered as truth is not so true after all. If you hold back because others could perceive you as weird or arrogant or whatever is lying. We all lie most of our lives. Of course i agree with the idea of reading the room. Not everyone deserves your honesty. The people you hold grudges against certainly do though. Why protect your identity? It's fake after all. To watch your identity being attacked without you being affected is spiritual.

He gives many questions to contemplate in the video about contemplation.

I never asked this question in my life. Nice question. Of course i have no clue. Do really thoughts arrive when you want them though? Is there really a signal tower? I'm not trying to make any point, these are my honest questions. It is the free will question with some extra layers. Because if the thoughts never come when you want them to then there is no free will. If someone was a signal tower it would be controlled by something else other than itself. Each cell in our body is like a signal tower. A human is very small if you compare him with the earth. We are a cell in a large organism. The cells are connected and form an organism. The earth is another cell. Then then next thing is also a child class. It's the perspective you take. So no i think we have the same free will as our cells in our body. But we have a brain. Why do we have a brain? I would really like to know the answer.

Damn is this book so good? I need to read it. Edit: i just started reading it. I think i understand what you mean now

@OmAhHungVajraGuru oh ok... Good to know. Yeah i wouldn't attempt it without experience in water fasts, i just wanted to know. This makes sense. If i ever consider my body extremely clean i would give it a try.

I need a cheap water filter for the kitchen tap water. Nothing that requires drilling or anything like that. Do you have any suggestions? I don't need the best quality one. Only something that makes the water ok for cooking. I'm not going to drink the water just cook with it although maybe it's the same thing.

I practiced this before. It's a great exercise. Practicing balance this way or standing up is like a meditation. You can also do this backwards and with eyes closed.

What about cold showers? Is it better to avoid it during water fasts? Or it's something good to do during a fast?

Hey. Nice that you are so productive because it's hard. What helped me with sleep was drinkg tea instead of coffee, being honest and a very cold shower each morning.

Thanks for sharing

I just started reading the way of the superior man. Why did i postpone this for so long! This book is great and i read only one chapter and the introduction so far.

You must understand that being anxious is not helpful at all. If you can let go of your anxiety then do it. You lose literally nothing. That said having experienced extreme anxiety i understand that in some cases it is impossible to let go. Usually something external needs to change. What helped me survive extreme anxiety was mindfullness meditation with labeling everyday plus focusing all of my attention in the body, what i do and how i move. I was working focusing on my work. I overworked but it helped me cope. Focus on the now and body.

I am also trapped in this tracking thing. Not the best way to go but i can't stop it. It usually is counter productive in my case. I have a board that i write the total hours and the hours spent each week. I also have a piece of paper writing the exact minutes to add up at the end of the week.

@cle103 thanks. I love the cold showers and i plan to try an ice bath in some months. I stopped doing the breathing though. I am sure that a whole year of wim hof method brings some great benefits!

@cle103 cool. So you mean that the cold showers helped you become less sensitive to cold weather? Also how long do you stay in the ice bath? Is it an in and out thing or do you try to stay for minutes in there? Do you do some kind of preparation before? For example breathing exercises?

Do you also practice resistance to cold weather? If yes how do you train this?

That was a very beautiful story. I never really saw any cats crying and i imagine seeing 8 of them must have been a powerful experience. I hope that you don't mind me commenting on this, i really liked the story.