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Background: I'm a 24-year-old guy and I'm thinking about starting a family at some point. However, I'm feeling confused about the ideal age for me to pursue a relationship with a girl. I've heard from self-development folks that it's important to have a clear life purpose and direction before getting married. On the other hand, my friends in their 50s have advised me not to wait beyond the age of 32. Here's my plan: I'm planning to pursue a master's degree for the next two years, so by the time I graduate, I'll be around 27 years old. After that, I want to spend another 3-4 years establishing my career in the field that truly interests me, and aim for a more stable income. Concern: I'm also concerned that if I wait until my mid-30s or beyond, I might not have as much energy to dedicate to raising my kids. There's an opinion that getting married at a younger age means that by the time I'm older, my kids will already be young adults. This could potentially mean that as a parent, I would be less worried about their survival and have more time to spend with my spouse and pursue my hobbies. I am open to any advice or perspective on this matter.

Thank you guys for your advice. Its helpful to know that even 40s can be no problem at all. Lot of people here in Indonesia suggest that good age to marry is 20s. Married in 30s a @Ajax@Dauntment@Bando @something_else Why bro?

Books: Letting Go - David Hawkins

Thank you for your post. I realized I one of this, since I was child. Taking psychedelic have no difference than ordinary daydreaming. Sober daydreaming I can see things in my mind eye with such a great detail of visual and 'mechanism'. The most frustating things when I was child is taking pure imaginative fantasy as reality ? The difference between fantasy and psychedelic trip is how easy I get TON of insight from a question on psychedelic, also psychedelic is much more vivid, whole and intellectual.

Before Actualized.org Communication: very passive and introverted. Relationship: I afraid of relationship, my friend is few. I am the weird guy. Public speaking: Full of anxiety. Emotional: Lot of trauma, brain fog etc. Happiness: Ups and down. Any happiness comes from desire, which is not consistent. Dating: I am on the nice boy side. After 4 years on Actualized.org Communication: on the extroverted side. Relationship: I am not afraid of relationship. My relationship with all people be more deeper and satisfying. I have lots of friend. Public speaking: I dont have anxiety. My co-worker said that I am suit to become public speaker. Emotional: Its all much more, more more clear. Big trauma solved. My emotion is more like steel. Addiction is gone. Happiness: My happiness level is constant. Its not full sage bliss but hey I never feel much better than this Dating: Authentic and confident, detached. I am not watching how to get laid rn haha. On spiritual side, I am not too much into it right now. My transformation really kicked off in year three when I invested $35 in Leo's booklist. Reading and learning from those books was a game-changer for me, and I was able to make rapid progress. Some topics just clicked better when I read about them, you know? Looking back, I can't help but wonder where I'd be if I hadn't discovered Leo's videos when I was feeling so down in 2019. Thank you for your threads, remind me that its been 4 years!

Nice idea

I have an idea to start a school for homeless children. My aim is to establish an independent school for those who are less fortunate. I am wondering what kind of curriculum should be included in their education? Many of these children may have experienced abuse and have low levels of affection in their lives. I would like to help them get back on track and become productive members of society by providing them with quality education and a sense of self-worth. In the curriculum, what subjects and topics do you think should be incorporated?

This is interesting.. and make sense. Thank you for sharing.

if someone's not bringing their A-game to a conversation, you're not gonna waste your time on it. Good bro.

@Devin It's not cool to generalize about how rich guys treat their partners. People are different, regardless of how much money they have. And let's be real, the push for no-fault divorce wasn't just about a lack of romance or willpower. It was about recognizing that many marriages were unhappy or even abusive, and giving couples a way out without assigning blame. Plus, saying that men have to "work at" romance or that it's unnatural for them is a pretty outdated stereotype. Both guys and gals can show affection in their own ways, and it's not fair to put everyone in the same box based on gender.

Hey, it's your call if you want to booze or not. Just weigh the pros and cons and decide if it's worth it. If you're going for it, start with a small sip and take it easy. Stick to beer or wine with low alcohol content to begin with. Oh, and don't forget to chug water and munch on food while drinking to avoid feeling like crap later.

I don't know Sedona but I tried David Hawkins technique on Letting Go.. it works well on heavy stuff. The theoritical things about anatomy of emotions is fascinating.

I can relate to your experience, as it reminds me of my old self. Looking back, I realize that my pursuit of wisdom was at times more of an addiction and mental stimulation rather than a grounded practice. The insights I gained were not always applicable to my daily life. If this already happen for some time. Where do you think your wisdom in this? and why this even happen? While I understand the desire to seek wisdom, it's important to prioritize developing healthy habits and a sense of self before diving too deeply into philosophical inquiry. Without a strong foundation, the pursuit of knowledge can become overwhelming and even detrimental to one's well-being.

Growing up, I struggled to communicate with others, which led me to keep my thoughts to myself. As a result, I have developed a belief that I were more "true" than others since I never engaged in healthy arguments. However, when I did try to talk to people, I noticed that they didn't enjoy conversing with me for extended periods of time. Although I didn't understand why at the time, after graduating from university, I learned that some people thought I was self-righteous and talked behind my back. This upset me, as even my closest friends didn't inform me. Bro, I was unaware, totally. I realized that I had to change, but I wasn't sure where to begin. My girlfriend pointed out that I am inflexible in arguments, which was the opposite of what I thought about myself. (I am shocked actually). I want to address this problem quickly so that it doesn't affect my relationships with others. Any solution or experience on this before? Thanks.

Yes. I think I definetely need to be mindful of this!

I never thought of this before. Thank you for your sharp observation. ?

@sda Wow. It takes a great deal of courage and determination to overcome the obstacles and cultural barriers that you has faced in pursuit of their personal growth and education. As Indonesian ppl, here is very blue and the mentality is basically same as yours, I can relate well with your story. Congtatulations for your scholarship!

So, I recently stumbled upon this app called Antar and my friend recommended it to me. And I was like, "Can an app really help me have a conversation with myself?" But you know what, I tried it and it's actually pretty dope! It's like having a journal with you all the time, but way more convenient. You know what Carl Jung was all about, right? He talked about our unconscious mind being a mixture of both light and shadow. And that's exactly what Antar lets me explore. I can have discussions with different aspects of myself, even my shadow side. It's been eye-opening to get to the root of my thoughts and emotions. Now, I'm not saying it'll work for everyone, but if you're up for a journey of self-discovery and want to gain some clarity in life's challenges, why not give it a try? Who knows, it might just change your life! I use iOS version, no account needed. Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.satya.antar&hl=en_US&gl=US iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/antar-chat/id1550724250

This is interesting how to look. @Emerald 1. Is the statement suggesting that there is a fundamental dichotomy between singleness and shallow wide plurality on the one hand, and relationship and deep narrow monogamy on the other, and that individuals must inevitably choose one of these paths? 2. Does the statement imply that a deep, narrow monogamous relationship is necessarily superior to a shallow, wide plurality of relationships, and if so, why?

@Mz Hyde I don't continue using the app. I stick with Antar. I need to be signed in on IFS guide and I need to pay for full version.

@Mz Hyde Thank you for sharing. I will try it now.

I have good result understanding side. The result were shocking. This is my first time seeing my 'don't care side' and 'loving side'.

Real life example: Jake Woodard. Polarity. He is a people pleaser that have lot of problem in the house but he manage to overcome it. https://www.instagram.com/_jakewoodard/?hl=id Ryan King He really is on the edge of masculinity. For me sometimes its too much. His content is interesting. https://www.instagram.com/thewisdomofkings/?hl=id Brendan Schmidt I am new followers, but the content is interesting. https://www.instagram.com/masculinerevival/?hl=id All of the three above provide lots of content about this topic. @Leo Gura