Bando

That was long overdue, I dont really agree with Leo's takes on relationships and thats fine I don't understand why people can't seem to grasp that Leo shouldnt be the only person you get info from. It's always the same type of people show up on these relationship threads and make multiple posts judging Leo or other peoples experiences often derailing the thread. If you find yourself triggered by this section of the forum often why do you lurk around, genuinely curious, its ok to have disagreements and ask questions but when you go into threads with bad faith and get called out for it dont be suprised.

This really isn't something you can just sweep under the rug, you may be able to control your desire for the time being but what would happen if someone you found attractive tried to seduce you? Would you have the boundaries to say no? Try to ask her if she's open to having an open relationship. If this isnt something you feel like you can talk about try exploring tantric sex or deeper levels of intimacy with her. You shouldn't really get into a LTR with someone your not 100% sure about maintaining healthy relationships takes work and thats hard to if you feel like your "settling" Why not what exactly is it you want from life? What do you believe you have to compromise on to get what you want?

There is truth to every perspective dating is definitely easier when your a well rounded man i.e, your fitness, finances, personality, but you definitely don't have to be in the top "10 percent" to get decent results, im prety sure you know people in your life who have less than you but can still get the results you want. The thing with watching content like that is that your doing it to reaffirm your limiting beliefs not to learn notice that next time your about to click on a video like that

Cut off people that make you feel like shit lifes to short to be around people like that

Didn't even know about this guy until this thread anybody who has eyes and ears can see this guy is just entertainment, I never understand why people who take politics seriously watches people like this, I mean what do you expect? His fans don't care about his political takes as long as its left leaning talking points, they just want to be entertained. Its not a bad thing, it looks like he found his lane but guys like him exist in every industry.

Build out the rest of your life now, handle your career, dating, finances, can't be enlightened when you gotta work at mcdonalds to pay bills...

Yup I agree with that if theres important enough info it will get to me eventually, now the real challenge is not trapping yourself within an echochamber on youtube and social media

Hmm I dont really understand why people are so defensive about the vaccine I got all three and didn't have any symptoms in fact I was able to go to the gym right after, our bodies are all different I guess

Dont frame it as "being dumb" its called being authentic and having fun. Getting women isnt a calculation its should be looked at as an art form, more intuitive. Girls want to have fun they don't want to feel like there being "gamed," they should be thinking "this is a fun relaxed guy lets see where this goes" To much theory does that to your personality, you over analyze things small details and words, make up these theories, while the guy who never studied any of this stuff gets the girls you want because he can go "dumb" and meet new chicks.

Theres gotta be more to this story that you arnt telling us your getting mad at her for asking questions?? If this is really about that talk to the professor after class and tell him sometimes answering certain questions take away from the lesson, he will be more aware of this during class. Also you could have phrased this question much better. Shes an adult she can wear what she wants. Women slut shame other women way more often than men and then try to claim its men that are keeping women sexually oppressed lol

Definitely agree with this statement, its like not letting your mind go certain negative scenarios is a byproduct of taking a proactive approach to things in life. I wanted to see what people had to say in regards to cheating I think we can all agree if there's no marriage or kids involved you'd be better off leaving your parnter but why do those two variables change someone's boundaries on cheating? (assuming he/she admitted to cheating quickly, took responsibility of it and set a plan to make the relationship work?) More of a food for thought kind of question

@Ineedanswers I wonder if context might change the answer to that question, say you and your parnter have been married for 5 years have 2 kids, you guys are going through some issues nothing serious though, she catches up for drinks with an old friend things escalate they end up sleeping together. As soon as she gets home she immediately confesses to her husband profusely apologizes, explains how she hurt you and how regretful she is, blocks the guys contact info and says she wants to make the marriage work, what would you do? Do you end up divorcing ad splitting apart the family or sit down and try to work this through with your partner? This question is opened to the ladies as well. Would like to hear @aurum thoughts also

Thats the way the world works, i hate to play the biology card but men don't have to have high standards to have sex with women there's no sunk cost in it for them they can afford to mess around with just about any girl, its not like that for women they have to screen harder in a man and look for qualities that would make good offspring, its a cliche perspective but you can't outwire human biology. If you yourself were a girl you would behave the exact way they do now. People will always be entitled to things they don't deserve thats how the ego works also just because girls can have sex easier it doesn't mean they can't experience heartbreak as well, they dont value sex nearly as much as emotional security.

Thats rough hes going to need a lot of healing after going through something like this. There's is a lesson to be learned in all of this though. As much of shitty situation this is there had to be red flags in the beginning of the relationship. Someone doesn't do something like this without leaving a trail of breadcrumbs. Being able to properly vet women your thinking about entering LTR is so important. @Breakingthewall Learn some empathy ,such an ignorant take, its easy to have a reaction like that when you aren't in his shoes

@Insightful27 That sucks man I feel for you. First off you won't get in any trouble for dancing and no police will get involved. She either had a really negative experience in her life that reenacted itself when you made your advances or maybe she was already dealing with some emotional issues. You should try to think through what you did, are you framing yourself as the good guy in this scenario? Did you miss any obvious signs of unease? I remember when I was in highschool I once misinterpreted a sign of interest from a chick and was way too forward, in my mind I had done nothing wrong but looking back there were clear signs of disinterest, confusing times in high school lol Don't become jaded towards women after this incident btw I can see how an event like this can lead you down the redpill spiral you just happened to escalate on the wrong chick. Don't assume every girl is going to act like this, 9/10 if you make a move like this and the chick positively responds good things will come out of girls also want to have fun.

@chakra_7654321 DIdnt read your whole post just making some suggestions, Practice screening really hard for sex, I actually suggest you try online dating. Based on your on how you describe yourself you should do fine. Find other guys who enjoy going out to events/parties/clubs and practice fast physical escalation approaches. You don't need to do "spiritual work" or do meditation to get laid, organize your life where your constantly meeting new women and screen hard, if you don't if you don't close between 1-3 meet ups keep it pushing. Your sex life is a very important need to satisfy especially as a man you cant just "think it away" just don't let it derial your life though. A lot of your posts reflect heavy redpill dogma, the issue with such ideologies is that they make blanket generalizations that do not accurately portray life. Some concepts I agree with but this one is absolute bs. Getting women in your 20's is not as difficult as Redpill makes it out to be, its ironically the easiest time in your life to get laid and get into relationships you essentially have no real responsibilities. Most women are not some hyper sexual marketplace optimizers, if they meet a guy there attracted to, feel emotionally secure with, and is someone that doesn't have a dull personality they will be pretty loyal to a fault.

It would help but the issue will never go away humans are going to be humans

@Tboy If your asking this question it means its obviously eating you up inside. You don't have to 100% tell them your going to bars or clubs to pick up chicks tell them your going out with friends and meeting new people and its been really good for you. The more important question to ask is why do you care so much if you lie to your parents? Do you feel what your doing is wrong? Do you think your parents wont look at you the same way if you tell them the truth? These are more important questions to consider

@Thought Art Just curious if you were 20 again what would you do different would have taken your music passion more "serious" or spent that time building survival skills?

Your on a good path building, that foundation of just being able to approach people is a great skill to build, just something to keep in mind don't take the girls who ignore you too serious, being approached by a stranger can surprise most people and their first response is usually to disengage, theres no issue with that, never take these personal as the other person could just be having a day or is in a slump weave all been there.

Also look intro using TOR Browsers if you want to go into the extremes of internet privacy. Many Journalist that live in extremist countries use TOR networks for anonymity as well. Go down the internet privacy rabbit hole there's a lot more you can do besides buying a VPN that can help protect your privacy.

@Fleetinglife If i'm understanding your question correctly your asking is it worth using a vpn if your outside the U.S? If that's it then yes I recommend everybody uses a vpn it costs less than $7 dollars a month in most cases and you can use it on all your devices. Theres too many benefits to not use a vpn considering how easy it is to install, also go to other forums and reddit and learn more about internet security as were moving on in technology you'd be surprised how much info these big tech corporations have on you it's ridiculous.

It seems your really interested in her and leaving her wouldn't be a good option for you. Try just having an honest conversation, as simple as it sounds bring up the issues your having with her and and see what she has to say, if you want any chance of making this work you have to lay out your issues regarding your relationship and your beliefs and pay attention to what she says. Going back and forth with other strangers on the internet about survival agenda isn't going to help you at all, do this first and then assess whether this relationship is worth pursuing any further

It really is sad. There are many paradigm shifting moments when in comes to pick-up but by far the biggest ones comes from gaming a 9/10, 10/10 stunner and having her receptive to you, hanging off your every word, it doesn't even feel real. A couple months ago I went out with good friends/wings to a high end club and approached this absolute bombshell we engaged the group and I left with her contact info. Later on in the night I saw her again and decided to re-open, her friends gave us space and we talked for about 30-45 min. I usually don't try to pull at night clubs because logistically its too complicated and not worth the effort when you can get a high quality number instead, but I could feel the attraction for me radiating of her. We were talking about food and I told her there was this great burger spot I had to show her right now if she was down, and began to lead her out the club, she went back to her friends told them she was leaving then bam that was murder she wrote. During pillow talk I come to find out she's a fitness influencer on Ig with over 2.5 million followers, didn't end up contacting her again but once again completely shattered my expectations on how far you can go if you go out consistently and push the envelope. Every guy needs to experience something like this

80% of your game should not be explicitly implied being up front and telling the girl you like her without building anything up only works if your in a setting where you can heavily screen girls and not have it bite you in the ass, like cold approaching or online game, if your in a setting where being to forward could have repercussions like social circle game, work, a place you visit often then you have to be more subtle. Its not that complicated is just social calibration.