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@tezk Thank you for your high quality post

This is very vague do you have unprocessed baggage from your early years in life, bullying, exploited insecurites ect? I'd suggest to make time in finding a good therapist when you can to help unpackage limiting beliefs. There are times you should go to your girl and confide in her about certain things, but what you described isnt something I would cry to my girl about

@Paul Boldyrev Youll be fine as long as your your not a creep and have social intelligence girls wont give af, seriously when I was in college there was a guy who would do 20-30 approaches a day on our campus. I tagged with him for a week or 2 and he would push me to approach. It took him about 6 months to get kicked out, (he didnt go to the college btw he just gamed there). And that was only because he actually had success and the women found out about each other and reported him to campus police lmao.

@Manusia There is no right age, imo the right time to settle down is when your finically stable, have had a minimum of 20 partners, and developed strong self-esteem. This could take anywhere from 3-10 years to accomplish which is why you often hear people in the improvement space say you should look to settle down in your 30's. If you make taking care of your mind and body a priority this shouldn't be an issue, my dad had me when he was 45 and he is still one of the most energetic, hard working people I know

If your really passionate about film you'd be making short films and posting them on youtube tiktok, instagram ect, its 2023 you dont need a degree to have success in more creative based fields. Anything outside of stem in my opinion is worthless in my opinion, (not the subject or area of study but the cost-benefit of choosing an area of study that doesn't give you ROI) if you are going to college for free thats a different story but if your dishing out 10's of thousands you have a problem.

@Someone here Arnt you in a committed relationship with your girlfriend?

@Optimized Life Ridiculous question, you know the answer to this all you have to do is open your eyes you've seen attractive women with broke men before, what you really want to do is avoid talking to women and cope by going "monk mode" which in reality means having pointless discussions about bs ideas, ask higher quality questions if you want to see progress

@Ramanujan Forget books find a PUA forum get around other guys who share their experiences dating women and learn, use your own experience as a guide on what you should be learning. A good resource to start is Jmulv (John Anthony), even though he's a sociopath and has serious insecurities , (like most PUA's) he has picking up women down to a science. To boil everything down there a 5 bottlenecks in dating 1. Getting contact information (phone number, social media) 2. Properly managing contacts, (text game) 3. Running good dates (how to vibe and escalate dates) 4. Closing (how to seal the deal and handle objections) 5. Retention (how to keep girls around)

Don't want to kill your buzz but this doesn't sound like a good idea, theres too much competition in this space, especially with language learning websites starting to incorporate AI into their platforms. You should be learning about sales, content creation, and marketing in addition to programming, creating a software based biz as your first business is not advisable as you don't have the funds or the exp, (this is coming from a software dev btw). Programing is not something you half ass if your trying to make a career or money out of it. If your serious I would suggest learning Python as your first language. Build a small project and see if programming is something you want to take serious or if its just a hobby. You can still satisfy your passion of teaching languages in different ways that don't involve programming.

Vey shallow understanding of these topics, its not a surprise your entertained by incel and different pill content ,low quality thinkers gravitate to low quality ideas. I suggest your keep watching that non-sense until your overwhelmed by the amount regret you will have, you weren't any better before you found that bs than you are now, thats something you should contemplate.

These are not in particular order just what came to mind 1.Create a lifestyle that aligns with meeting women frequently 2. Always ask to meet 1v1 when you run an interaction with a girl 3. In certain cases persistence is necessary, and shouldn't be seen as "low value" 4. When you enjoy life and are making progress towards goals talking to women becomes easier and more enjoyable 5. Always look to lead interactions 6. Learn how to build emotional resiliency 7. Have friends who are also on the journey of Pickup you can exchange ideas and exp with

The only money I've ever spent on PUA stuff was on coaches that were already vetted by a local community. The best way to find a good coach is to go on pua forums/ telegrams, share your experiences, add value and eventually you get invited into smaller group chats. From there you can personally ask them for reputable coaches, (none of them be mainstream btw) or you can just go out consistently with your wings and force each other to approach many sets. Essentially the biggest bang for your buck in paying for a coach is that they force you to do massive amounts of approaches, you don't need to pay some dick head $2k+ for that. Local coaches who have years in the game charge a fraction of that price you just have to know where to look.

@Richard Purdy In your position I would work to develop a high income skill that can generate you at least 8k a month preferably something that allows you to work remote. Saving 50k+ with essentially 0 bills isn't that difficult especially if you work full time, whats more important is what does your monthly cashflow look like. To put into context I worked all throughout college wheather it was on-campus IT support, Gig Work or internships over the summer and was able to graduate a little over 70k in savings and came out with a job as a junior developer. I now work remote and have the money / time to pursue other interests and projects.

You should be jailed for this statement, high production, company made, multiple camera's/edits porn feels so fake, from the moans to the expressions, ughh, I'll pass homemade porn is 100x more authentic much better

Back at it again, my favorite poster asking the questions that matter

I swear theres a new thread on incest every 2 weeks, just a while ago some forum member was having a mental breakdown because he wanted to sleep with his sister lmao

Fuck yea, way to bet on yourself and stick with your own values, I was under the impression you were a newbie who got struck with what life is actually like and freaked out. If your already covering your expenses with the income from your business and have emergency fund money the answer was defiantly a no brainer, stop living life for others life is to short, go after your vision.

Weird situation 7% is high intrest for student loans their usually around 3-4%, honestly the damage is done, there could have been ways to reduce the total 57k price by scholarships, not dorming and taking advantage of government programs if you qualify. The real question is what does your finances look like? Hopefully you got your degree in something employable if so discussing your finances with your dad, coming to a comprise would probably be a good option, id say talk with him about splitting the debt right down the middle and see where it goes from there

Dam its been a year already sheesh time is going by fast

What does your porn consumption look like? Maybe thats where you want to start

@Fadious you have an issue setting boundaries with people start there, also look into physical outlets like, martial arts, sports, or weight lifting

@mmKay Insightful video, fuck some people really have no chance, we can debate on the morality of incest but when you get to shit like this it just makes my stomach turn

Bingo, you can apply this concept to any area of life btw not just women, life is easier when you love life who would have thought?

Ask clear questions what do you mean by "how do i stop making girls feel bad?" No, she won't, who says people from her work has to know who she's romantically involved with? If she wants to tell them she call tell them. Women care about slut shamed but not in the way you think... A good way ive found about asking out working women or any social circle scenerio is to make an offer that seems platonic and then switch it to a regular date over text. There was a librarian I would see semi regularly we would have small talks about books and found out she likes edm music, I casually told her there are some edm events in our local area that I go to and how she should bring her friends and come with us some time, then I told her to give me her number and I could send her some info about the events. Got her number and pitched a regular coffee date and things went well

Setting boundaries is important, make sure you leave enough time for you to develop yourself as a person, weather finically, romantically, spiritually. You have to put yourself first when it comes to being in a position of leadership, (not in a selfish way) when your good and taken care of, you can spread that love to other people. Providing doesn't only manifest itself in a financial form