Gesundheit

When I realized no free will, I was 17 y.o. and Muslim. This realization was freeing because there's no way I could do anything wrong if there's no me doing or choosing anything. I don't really understand how you guys equate this with insanity. I just let go of the need to control and my life became paradise (until my existential crisis two years later).

Except that there is, and you can directly become conscious of it. You can know, and it won't be delusion. The mental constructs are seen as mental constructs; i.e. mirrors that reflect the truth. Other mental constructs are necessarily wrong because they don't reflect the truth. It's very simple. Also, you're saying we can't know. But ask yourself: "How do I know that we can't know?"

Good girl.

I myself am not that good in being subtle, but for example, Nahm is a master. His EQ levels are probably among the highest that there are. To me, he is a really good role model. I always try to learn from him and I'm still nowhere near his levels.

The imaginary you that isn't actually there, can.

@MsNobody hmm okay everything seems fine regarding your sexuality. Next question: Are you generally hyper-rational? I know a hyper-rational girl who does not find joy in being flirted with. She thinks it's silly that a lot of girls fall for that. Rationality is mostly a masculine trait, even though not really sexual, but it can cause an imbalance, which may result in inordinary things like losing interest after sex.

Yet, you can change the direction and the trajectory of your thoughts by changing your focus. A train is not set to only go from point A to point B. There is an infinite number of points that it can arrive at.

They occur to remind you that you are living in a miracle.

@Preety_India I know you won't take my suggestion well, but you need to develop more emotional intelligence. You can't just offer advice bluntly to everyone like you did here. Sometimes you gotta be subtle and sometimes you gotta be blunt. In this case, I'm being blunt because chances are you're not going to get it anyways, but you can prove me wrong.

Cool witch accessories.

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Are you that guy in the video or his fiancé? lol

Oh boy. You should have seen me about 5 years ago. I would listen to this and get triggered and then read some verses from the Quran to protect me from such blasphemy lol. I would literally feel bad for listening to this. My body would feel something similar to faint electric shocks in the head area. I would be neurotic and skip the phrase every time the song was being played lol Religion, good times. lol

@Natasha Not sure. I'm just here to contribute.

Reality is love.

This is what God is like:

You are the yin but not the yang. Or the yang but not the yin. Until you die, you're always one and not the other. Once you die, you will become both. But at that point, the both you'll become will become another partial thing again. You'll become another yin or yang. And then you'll die again and become more whole. To infinity.

Was trying to trigger the person, but you killed it with the question, meh. Stop the contemplation. Don't question. Just stop.

No, not even a little. But I'm cynical though, which means there's not a lot of positivity in my thoughts either. Exactly the thing I was talking about. For me, it's with studying. I can barely focus like I used to do before. I get distracted and bored easily. I also notice this problem when I'm interacting with others. I get fascinated by how their minds work so fast and seamlessly compared to mine, and how they articulate their thoughts in eloquent ways easily while it would take so much care of me to perform something similar, although when I do it I do it better than them, and produce better quality thoughts, but yeah it's still tiresome. It feels like I'm a retarded ape lol.

@SaaraSabina It is said that at the root of every wound, there is a lack of self-love. But I don't agree, because self-love is not a fixed thing that is universal for all humans at all times or parts of the world. Even for the same human being, self-love is different in each moment. What you may call abuse at one point may become self-love at another point. So, imo and ime, it's pointless to search for problems within oneself, because everyone is always right from their pov. We can only be problematic relative to the social circles we hang out with. If we let them decide what we do, we won't be happy, which will manifest and in turn make others unhappy. And if we act completely indifferent of them, they won't be happy, which will make us unhappy as well. The better route I've found is learning and observing. Bringing in more awareness into your life, and especially into your relationships. This alone should be enough. Make your relationships quality relationships. Build them slowly and authentically. Sit down with the question: "What do I actually want when I interact with people?". These will be your needs that you should try to fulfill. Write down all the things that you can find and make them your compass for all your interactions based on the type of relationship ie female-female friendship, male-female friendship, romantic relationship, mom-son relationship, etc...

Sounds like a Masculine vs. Feminine imbalance. Are your masculine traits taking over your personality? Like, do you feel more attracted to vulnerable/co-dependent men? Next question may be too extreme, but do you have any BDSM, especially dominant-type fetishes?

@universe Great breakdown and advice. For men maybe, but for women it seems like the easiest thing there is. It's very common to see a woman getting shocked by her male friends thinking of more than friends, but it's very rare the other way around.

@SaaraSabina lol are you picking damaged people exclusively? It sounds like you were simply unlucky to happen to meet these people. Nothing seems to be wrong with you. They were probably projecting their own shit onto you. If I were you, I would be glad and grateful that they moved out of my life by their choice, because otherwise I would have a hard time keeping them around, or if I got enough of them, to get rid of them. Gosh, and that woman sounds like she was using you, but when you set up some boundaries, rightfully so, she got triggered because she was not able to control you anymore. Honestly, I'd be very glad that such people are not in my life anymore.

@SaaraSabina Care to share some of the criticism you've got? Keep it anonymous, no one knows who you are, but it could be of help to know what those people disliked about you.