Gesundheit

Women are un-understandable, it's just a fact that you have to deal with. Women don't even understand themselves in the first place for you to be able to understand them. That's not an insult, so don't gang up on me you feminist folks. You will fuck up every now and then, if she wants you in her life whether as a friend or someone else she will understand that it's not actually your or her problem but something unavoidable in communication, especially when between different genders.

@28 cm unbuffed I don't know what your logic is. Maybe you would let the attacker go, or call the police, or maybe you'd let him kill you. I don't know. You determine what's right and what's wrong.

@28 cm unbuffed What are your thoughts on self-defence? Would you murder an attacker or not?

@28 cm unbuffed No, that's not what I meant. Wrong and right, just like bad and good, are concepts of your own creation. You kill millions of bacteria every time you wash your hands, yet you don't think about karma or view hygiene as stupid. Bias is inherent in life. If you stopped being biased you'd die. Having morality serves you because it creates a relatively safer, or better put a more stable environment than the original 'survival for the fittest' environment. Your survival is enhanced by morality, so it's not a bug but a feature. That's not to make morality a limitation for your potential, you can definitely break it whenever you want. Just understand what morality is. Have a direct consciousness of what it actually is, and you'll understand.

@QandC That is interesting. I experience similar states frequently these days. How are non-dual experiences different though? I feel like I'm in a non-dual awareness state all the time and I rarely get into duality. How would you describe a non-dual experience?

No free will is only apparent to me whenever I have a lot of free time. When I am busy doing things, I do a lot of things and I don't think whether or not it was me until later when I have some free time to contemplate. It's just thoughts.

Dualism and non-dualism are man-made concepts. They're thoughts about reality, not reality itself. It's like asking whether or not a flower is a living thing. Well, you'd have to define what "a living thing" means in advance, and even then it's still not reality but your thoughts of it. All categories are man-made and therefore arbitrary, Mr. Joe.

@28 cm unbuffed The thing is that everyone is free to do whatever they want, only unenlightened people choose to set limits for that so they suppress what they authentically want without even knowing. Morality is but one way of creating such suppression. And that is not a bug or a bad thing.

That's still assuming that people who "misunderstand" actually do lack the ability to comprehend, and are not simply blatantly distorting things on purpose or at least are unconsciously biased. Unfortunately, and especially in politics, most of the time it's the ego not the mind that creates problems, which makes mutual understanding even more difficult to achieve. It would have been a little bit easier to solve if pure ignorance was the actual problem.

Only weak men would not want women to be strong.

There are cases where murder is not only right but a necessity. For example, the human race as a whole is a mistake that should be wiped out completely without questioning or doubts. Btw where's that nuclear button?!

@Forestluv Or let's say when you say Ok and let it go, you are surrendering a limited form of control and gaining an infinite one.

A solid track record free of "but Leo"s.

@Forestluv Interesting insights on empathy. They give me vibes similar to Leo's sameness vs difference video. I think he nails it there and that that concept is an important piece of this puzzle.

@Amanita asleep and awoke is a metaphor don't take it literally it doesn't work both ways and I'm not off topic but you gotta connect the dots and see that psychedelic implies awakening to the op

You know how asleep you are by your desire to awaken

The problem is that there's a you that thinks it's not real. The other problem is that there's a you that thinks it's real. In order to awaken you have to be asleep. And in order to sleep you have to be awake. The most useless realization there is.

You can only waste time relative to a goal. If you don't have goals then you're not wasting time. If you have any sense of direction, you will feel like something is wrong. What is the thing that is making you feel like you're wasting your time? That's where you should be headed, or at least that's what you should inspect. If it's authentic to you then go right ahead. If it isn't then Idk. The point is that you may be wasting your time unknowingly. You may want money or fame but suppressing or denying that. That suppression usually manifests in the form of an uncomfortable friction within the mind about whether or not you are doing what you should be doing. Maybe you don't like your current lifestyle and you subconsciously want to change it?

@Bjorgan Watch different kinds of people (both men and women) on YouTube, from extremely macho to extremely beta, and start taking notes. Record what you find most masculine vs. what you find most feminine, and what you find most attractive vs. what you find most unattractive. Make a list with two categories that include something vs. its opposite and contemplate the different dynamics that you can perceive. And then research the things you want to add into your life, and add them. It's not difficult, it just needs time and decent observation skills.

@Madhur And yet, your message here is loud and clear! Your articulation is perfect and your thoughts are coherent and on point. There's nothing wrong with you. You only need more practice and trial and error. That's all that there is to it. To verify that, consider how much time you spend on reading or writing vs. how much time you spend on speaking. Each skill develops over time with practice, and public speaking is not an exception.

"Who is suffering from derealization?"

@Someone here Identity death. Your ego is going through a change-phase, giving birth to a new you. You're turning from a caterpillar into a butterfly and sorry if this metaphor is offensive to masculinity lol but you get the idea..

Some addiction recovery techniques plus a little commentary: Immediate & complete cut-off of the stimuli; Sudden withdrawal. High potential for relapsing even in a worse degree. Requires a strong will/belief and/or ridiculously high levels of awareness. Extremely painful. Most useful for mild addictions on things that are not survival related. Slow & steady cut-off of the stimuli; Gradual withdrawal. Moderate potential for relapsing but low potential for creating momentum which makes it easier to fall off track and lose focus. Moderately painful with windows of relief every now and then. Not very effective in general but could work in certain occasions as a way of decreasing the severity of the addiction, especially when it is a survival related addiction. Most useful for stage Green people. Replacement with healthy habits. Requires vision, passion, and drive, or strong environmental circumstances that forces the changes onto one's life. Doesn't address or get to the root of the issue, which is the fear of emptiness, which is the ultimate addiction. Fragile and circumstances-dependent, which means inevitable relapsing if the environment returns back to its original state. Most useful for people who aren't interested in Truth but merely in quick fixes and shallow personal development, stage Orange basically.

Death is calling on you, baby... Prepare to meet your end... But also remember to relax and enjoy... I don't mean physical death though.

@Raptorsin7 Actually, amongst all the people that are telling you how to get it, you're the one who truly gets it and all of them are deluded and their advice will only drive you back into delusion. You've stated your truth, and that's exactly what reality is. No more, no less.