Jacob Morres
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There should be tons of people that appreciate niceness
I think it has more to do with boundaries you set with those that don't appreciate it
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12 hours ago, supremeyingyang said:Cuz chances are you sit on your computer and phone too much which makes you too weird IRL and the women feel rightfully repelled by it. It's a feature, not a bug.
Yeah that makes sense. Past few months I've been more isolated so I'm rusty.
I was just shocked ig bc even *platonically* the difference was like standard deviations different ?
Though the silver lining is when I'm in the zone I get great responses
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7/8: socializing field report (for +1)
Bad day socializing. I had a ton of anxiety. But good thing is I got a lot of good responses
Good thing is I was able to hold my own in many of my convos. I did put effort.
1. *Though sometimes I lose energy midway. I think the solution to that is to relax and try to connect. Need to open yourself up a bit. *
2. *another note: focus on self esteem, Calibration, reps and iteration. That will take you far*
All 6 men you talked to today went great. The 2 woman you talked to, the convo was pretty dead.
The group of woman was also extremely judgemental. Shitting on men the entire conversation. What a sad conversation to be in, listen to and witness.
3. *solution is to give these rude women grace. You're not a perfect human being either. Forgive them*
4. *you need to calm down bro. You are getting wayy to anxious. Which is valid to be honest. In the future remember to breathe, relax*
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I feel like when I talk to a guy I tend to get significantly better responses than when I talk to women, even when they're both platonic
With men, I feel like there's usually a comrodarie I feel. Conversations are nice, fluid, sometimes they'll even carry the conversation
But with women - they dont try simalarily. If i dont put decent effort, I don't get that same response.
Is it because I'm a man and they're intimidated? I don't get it. I feel like I have to almost prove myself first. It's weird
Does anyone else experience this?
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Mastering socializing is a bit different than, sports & tech
Fundamentals of social skills;
Top: calm, authentic, kind, calibrated, detached
Authenticity; being yourself, standing up for yourself, assertive
Warmth; being kind and loving
Self esteem; being confident in yourself
Presence; Mindfulness, detachment
Calibration; matching vibe of person and scenario
Connection; with other people, vibing
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I think *iteration*
Is the #1 tool for success
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Next habits on the list:
Clean eating
Sweating exercise
Cold showers
Journalling
Audio books
Book reading
Socializing
Visualizing
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Pussy power is interesting because men give women that power. They can also take it away by not needing or wanting it
The only power someone has is the power you give them (sometimes)
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Where can I find the good ones?
I want to get more present but I'm kind of stuck I don't know which are good to join
I prefer secular preferably
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I hate when self help teachers
- get you to buy [into their] shit even if you don't need that thing
- promote their shit like it'll solve your problems, using deceptive marketing tactics
- are not honest about when/where their ideas are ineffective and lie about the usefulness about their product
- do deceptive tactics like making contrarian lies just for virality and clicks
- don't provide full picture so they can upsell
- make a ton of useless ass content
- make you hooked onto their content without the actual intent of helping you
- don't genuine care about their audience.
- self help teachers are self serving and biased As hell
- a victim of said tactics
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Hypothetically, what's important for mastery?
☆Patience and trust are key. These things make the journey much easier, as they inspire work ethic, self fulfilling prophecy and reduce/Eliminate anxiety
☆Clear goals and commitment to the clear goal. These things provide direction and meaning. Without them, success is impossible
☆Good knowledge and information. This is a foundational map for success
☆Feedback -> improvement. This is key to constant improvement. Success is based off a ton of planning, doing, gathering info and making adjustments. Success requires hundreds of these cycles
☆Good people. Mentorship, like minded people. Good people can cut the journey in half, give you confidence, support, togetherness, and mental well being.
☆Massive amounts of hours
☆Focus on a few things
Complex
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I think leo needs to apologize when he loses his shit
Happens but need some accountability
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Applying a cycle of improvement to improve in an e-sport like Tetris would involve several stages of setting goals, learning, practicing, reviewing performance, and making adjustments. This is an ongoing process, as continual improvement is the goal. Here's an example using the Plan-Do-Check-Act (PDCA) Cycle:
1. **Plan**:
- Identify your specific goals. These could be increasing your top score, improving your speed, learning and implementing advanced techniques like "T-spins," or advancing to a certain level.
- Develop a training schedule. Allocate time each day or week to practice. Consider using a timer to manage your playing time and breaks.
- Plan to use resources to help you improve. This could be watching tutorials, reading strategy guides, or learning from more skilled players.2. **Do**:
- Begin your training. This could involve warming up with easier levels before moving to more difficult ones, trying out different strategies, or focusing on specific aspects of your play (like speeding up your reactions or mastering certain techniques).
- Apply the knowledge you've gained from your resources. Try to implement the tips and strategies you've learned.3. **Check**:
- Review your performance. Many games have replay features that let you review your games. Pay attention to mistakes and missed opportunities.
- Track your progress. This could be as simple as noting down your scores or as detailed as maintaining a log of what strategies you used and how well they worked.
- Seek feedback. If possible, have a more skilled player review your replays or provide feedback.4. **Act**:
- Make adjustments based on your review and feedback. This could involve focusing on a specific skill, changing your strategy, or modifying your training schedule.
- Refine your goals. As you improve, your initial goals may no longer challenge you. Set new goals that push you to improve further.
Repeat the cycle. Over time, this process of planning, doing, checking, and acting should lead to consistent improvement. The key is to stay focused, practice regularly, and always be open to learning and making adjustments. Also, remember that improvement may not be linear, and it's normal to experience periods of plateau or even slight regression. Persistence is key. -
The Cycle of Improvement, also known as the Continuous Improvement Cycle, refers to an ongoing process that organizations use to enhance their products, services, or processes. It's rooted in the belief that even when something works well, it can always be improved.
There are several models that can guide you through a cycle of improvement, including:
1. **Plan-Do-Check-Act (PDCA) / Deming Cycle**: This is a four-step methodology for business process improvement.
- **Plan**: Identify a problem and possible solutions.
- **Do**: Implement the solution on a small scale.
- **Check**: Measure the impact of the solution and compare against the expected results.
- **Act**: If the solution was successful, implement it on a wider scale and continuously assess your results. If the solution didn't work, go through the cycle again with a different plan.2. **Lean Six Sigma (DMAIC)**: This approach is typically used by organizations that focus on manufacturing and production. The acronym stands for:
- **Define**: Establish the problem or improvement opportunity.
- **Measure**: Quantify existing systems for direct comparison after improvements are made.
- **Analyze**: Determine the root cause(s) of the problem.
- **Improve**: Implement changes that will improve the situation.
- **Control**: Maintain the improved system by continuously monitoring it.3. **Kaizen**: A Japanese philosophy that focuses on continuous improvement in all aspects of life, but it has been widely adopted by businesses. Kaizen encourages small, incremental changes on a regular basis, and it is more about the mindset and the approach rather than a specific set of steps.
4. **Agile Methodology**: Commonly used in software development, this iterative approach values customer satisfaction through continuous delivery, individuals and interactions over processes and tools, and responding to change over following a strict plan. Scrum and Kanban are two popular frameworks under Agile.
5. **The Toyota Production System (TPS)**: Also known as "Just In Time Production," TPS focuses on improving efficiency and eliminating waste. It encourages a culture where all employees are engaged in spotting areas for improvement.
Each of these models has different strengths and is applicable in different situations. The underlying philosophy across all of them, however, is that improvement is a never-ending process.
6. **Ray Dalio's success cycle:** Dalio proposes a five-step process that individuals and organizations can follow:
Set clear goals: Dalio stresses the importance of understanding what you want, setting clear, specific, and realistic goals.
Identify and don't tolerate problems: He encourages actively seeking out and identifying problems that stand in the way of achieving your goals. Once problems are identified, they should not be tolerated, but rather addressed head-on.
Diagnose problems to get at their root causes: Instead of treating a problem's symptoms, Dalio emphasizes diagnosing problems to understand their root causes.
Design a plan to eliminate the problems: Once root causes are known, Dalio suggests coming up with a detailed plan to eliminate these issues.
Do what's necessary to push these designs through: Implementation is crucial, and Dalio advises to push the designed plans through to completion, tracking progress and adjusting as necessary.
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I'm changing my relationship to philosophy
Philosophy is...
The ability to analyze
Have wisdom
And embody
Philosophy isn't solely analysis
I appreciate leos philosophical leaning as it provides a lot of benefit for humanity. But from my pov, in terms of gains, philosophy is just a tool
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Well one pov is that religion was constructed as a reaction to the chaos of stage red. It provided structure and order
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very knowledge about racial issues and i also appreciate their nuanced take and also ability to consider many perspectives. definitely a yellow nuanced take
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People sleeping on all other nba players, and only worshipping the top 30-50
The other 500 players are all top .00001% players. They are goated, just when you pit top 1 vs top 400 the 400 looks bad. But the top 400 can drop 45 with some sick posters against similar skill
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I realized that people generally only care about the issues that effect them. Like, a women will hate gender expectations on her. Of course she wants to go out and work. But then she will turn around or expect men to provide
Or you'll see a Muslim person fighting for anti-discrimination. But then you'll see a Muslim person be anti-lgtbq
Or you'll see a Christian be pro-life. But when it comes to animals and minority rights? Hell no. He hunts deer every weekend and he discriminates against asian people
The lesson here, is tap into your empathy for other people, cultures, ethnicities, classes, animals, environment etc.
While simultaneously having a set of values and principles to abide by to avoid the paradox of compassion
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@Bobby_2021 I've a friend like that actually. Scored perfectly on all medschool exams (step 1, step2, all that jazz) and got rejected by most programs despite being #1 in his class. Ended up at an average school
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Here's another one, According to this guy, 99.9% of people are stuck due to a lack of clarity of goals
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What are some reasons people don't succeed?
1. Knowledge gap. There's so much goated information on the internet to solve most issues! It's mostly about gathering and positioning the information for use
2. Lack of competence. I think often we just don't know how to do things. We don't have the answers, or we don't know what the problem is. It might be too out of your current skillset
3. Really poor negative belief systems. I think people might have really bad, sticky self sabatoging mechanisms. This stuff might keep people stuck. Change is hard
4. Information overload. I think this is a problem in the personal development community where we think consumption will fix our issues. This is self deception! What will fix our issues is goals and action! Knowledge is just the blueprint
5. Lack of confidence. I think this is a huge one. A lack of faith, trust, confidence can be a huge sticking point. You won't try, you'll give up easily.
6. Lack of desire. Also a massive one. Without desire you won't push yourself over hurdles or to do it. Discipline is also key too but discipline and motivation go hand in hand
Any other significant obstacles?
Another one I can think of is:
- Poor environment, there may be people who bring you down
- bad health fundamentals. Poor sleep, diet, or excess stress can really bog people down
- mental/physical health issues
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Damnnn
Let's go homie
Good for u ma boi!!!!
Goal approach 5 a day.
One thing I didn't like is that people need to understand that not everyone is dateable. Even if he got some yesses, a lot of yes (most) turn into flakes. Then u need to gauge the quality of their character, vibe, values. Takes a while..
Also he kind of put a camera in their face too. Take the camera off and try again
Well it's nice at least he got a bunch of yesses
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Hmm a couple of these are conspiracy theories
I remember when 5g came out there were a couple conspiracy theories About how it would rot your brain. I remember RFK was a spokesperson for that. Ik bc I subscribed to that one ?
TBF, Idk much about him but I think he does promote a bunch
in High Consciousness Resources
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The book was pretty solid