Jacob Morres

I feel like mild trauma or pain from an incident is good because it helps you learn lessons Like if your bike breaks down due to a chain issue, you feel pain and buy quality chains from that point forward But I guess that's diff Very interesting question though. I'm perplexed

@CARDOZZO yep lol.. there's some news he's coming back now

The business was going crazy, #1 fastest growing startup of all time The business was a non profit initially so I think they wanted to slow down development to prioritize safety over profits Or Iono just guessing lol I also feel like features are gonna roll out super fuckin slowly now

@Twentyfirst a possibility, but also in a lot of places outside the West, people often don't really acknowledge mental illness. Like, even if someone's dealing with depression, it's kind of brushed off or delegitimized. It's like mental health just isn't seen as a real thing in many cultures (even the most developed eastern countries like korea + japan it's taboo and in the rest of the eastern world it's significantly worse) this was actually common in america too. like the movement that made mental health issues socially acceptable here started like 15 years ago. id say that plays a big part in it, as people are much more open, honest and educated about it here

i feel it's not the words persay, but just whether the judgement is there. but yeah great points tho it's a part of contemplation from leos videos. letting the insight about something arise from observation rather than ego

Fwbs are always great. Glad u found someone you like

@Lila9 are you as concerned about anti-muslim sentiment as antisemitism? How have you opposed anti-Muslim sentiment in ur life?

@Buck Edwards She said something like islamophobia is rational (relative to antisemitism) because of Muslim terrorists in a diff thread

It's a nice experience but at the same time I think there are many awesome life experiences to have outside of that That is one of societies version of happiness, there's many ways to find happiness outside of that And if u wanted that, u could still do that as well. Making friends, travelling, partying. There's lots of social groups that part after college and stuff, that scene is still there. Ravers, bar goers, people that throw house parties. Tbh that scene is huge Slowly (or quickly if you'd like) put your time effort and attention to those things that you want. They're in your reach

@something_else first thing i thought lol. think about how u feel after u bust T.T

I'm pretty sure jews have mostly have positive perception and connotation in america. There's like little antisemitism here. Jewish ppl generally Being white and European helps a lot Being somewhat prejudiced toward Muslims here is probably much more common and normalized. Probably the average person has a little bit towards them @Lila9U should check out some progressives page like aoc or Bernie Sanders. Progressives stand up for dozens of oppressed classes, not just muslims and including jews. It's def not rooted in anti Semitism lol

hmm have you considered using pomodoro timers? I find these pretty beneficial for me. basically you remove all distractions, work for 25 minutes on a task and then take a break for 5 minutes then do another one. then go as many times as you feel needed. theres some apps for this i find beneficial it also helps to gain some awareness around where the procrastination stems from. journalling and contemplation can help with that sometimes if the goal you have is too big it can be overwhelming. in this case one solution is you can start super small. like reduce it to a really small bite sized task, then accomplish it. then move onto the next one. that can help you gain confidence and build momentum there's also other root causes like bad health fundamentals, boredom, lack of meaning with the work, fear of failure etc. which all have solutions and for general motivation i find connecting with a meaningful and compelling vision helpful. some people also recommend using the negative as well for fuel, like thinking about the consequences of not taking action. there's lots of good exercises on this you can find

That's a good insight, the preparation is also important

I hypothesize a strategy and consideration for ocd, and trauma might be useful as well because you mentioned that, (on top of cold approaching, exposures etc.) There's a lot of evidence based and scientifically proven methods that can help here bc the science improved a lot over the years. So I don't think it's unique or unsolvable, there's a lot of good information for such issues

I think the online disinhibition effect has a small role in this too

Dropping metta meditation here in case anyone's interested. Can be useful at times in heated discussions Loll https://www.mettainstitute.org/mettameditation.html

I def think so. It can hav the potential to shape your personality and identity. Though, I also think you can gradually heal and grow out of those traumas

Decent advice from gpt4 Chatgpt4; here are three distinct actionable steps to help navigate away from the "blackpill" mindset: 1. **Diverse Experiences**: Engage in community service or join social clubs that expose you to a wide variety of people. By meeting and understanding the diverse range of human experiences, you may find that many people value qualities beyond just looks. **Limit Exposure**: Identify and unfollow or block sources of blackpill content on social media and other platforms. Replace that with positive, uplifting content that promotes personal growth and self-improvement. 3. **Seek Counseling**: Consider seeking counseling or therapy to unpack your feelings and beliefs. A professional can provide coping mechanisms and perspective on the blackpill ideology. They can help you rebuild your self-worth and navigate the complex nature of relationships. Remember, everyone has their own unique journey. While physical attractiveness can play a role in initial attraction, sustainable and fulfilling relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and shared values.

my understanding of procrastination is it's like a complex phenomena. like procrastination can be caused by many factors like energy levels (from maybe sleep, diet), some form of trauma, overworking, addictions, fear of failure, lacking confidence, lacking purpose etc. and each form requires a different approach to it. i think procrastination is more like a vague term and when you look under the hood you see some varied things . thats my understanding at least so far

i hypothesize implementing some coping mechanisms might help on these days mindfulness, body awareness, breathing exercises , journaling, exercising, pursuing your values. etc. i can relate, on days where i'm not doing so well, things get very magnified for me. there are times where it is completely insignificant and then times where it's the worst thing in the world lol

Obama made a statement on the conflict yesterday if anyones interested https://barackobama.medium.com/my-statement-on-israel-and-gaza-a6c397f09a30 It’s been 17 days since Hamas launched its horrific attack against Israel, killing over 1,400 Israeli citizens, including defenseless women, children and the elderly. In the aftermath of such unspeakable brutality, the U.S. government and the American people have shared in the grief of families, prayed for the return of loved ones, and rightly declared solidarity with the Israeli people. As I stated in an earlier post, Israel has a right to defend its citizens against such wanton violence, and I fully support President Biden’s call for the United States to support our long-time ally in going after Hamas, dismantling its military capabilities, and facilitating the safe return of hundreds of hostages to their families. But even as we support Israel, we should also be clear that how Israel prosecutes this fight against Hamas matters. In particular, it matters — as President Biden has repeatedly emphasized — that Israel’s military strategy abides by international law, including those laws that seek to avoid, to every extent possible, the death or suffering of civilian populations. Upholding these values is important for its own sake — because it is morally just and reflects our belief in the inherent value of every human life. Upholding these values is also vital for building alliances and shaping international opinion — all of which are critical for Israel’s long-term security. This is an enormously difficult task. War is always tragic, and even the most carefully planned military operations often put civilians at risk. As President Biden noted during his recent visit to Israel, America itself has at times fallen short of our higher values when engaged in war, and in the aftermath of 9/11, the U.S. government wasn’t interested in heeding the advice of even our allies when it came to the steps we took to protect ourselves against Al Qaeda. Now, after the systematic massacre of Israeli citizens, a massacre that evokes some of the darkest memories of persecution against the Jewish people, it’s understandable that many Israelis have demanded that their government do whatever it takes to root out Hamas and make sure such attacks never happen again. Moreover, Hamas’ military operations are deeply embedded within Gaza — and its leadership seems to intentionally hide among civilians, thereby endangering the very people they claim to represent. Still, the world is watching closely as events in the region unfold, and any Israeli military strategy that ignores the human costs could ultimately backfire. Already, thousands of Palestinians have been killed in the bombing of Gaza, many of them children. Hundreds of thousands have been forced from their homes. The Israeli government’s decision to cut off food, water and electricity to a captive civilian population threatens not only to worsen a growing humanitarian crisis; it could further harden Palestinian attitudes for generations, erode global support for Israel, play into the hands of Israel’s enemies, and undermine long term efforts to achieve peace and stability in the region. It’s therefore important that those of us supporting Israel in its time of need encourage a strategy that can incapacitate Hamas while minimizing further civilian casualties. Israel’s recent shift to allow relief trucks into Gaza, prompted in part by the Biden administration’s behind-the-scenes diplomacy, is an encouraging step, but we need to continue to lead the international community in accelerating critical aid and supplies to an increasingly desperate Gaza population. And while the prospects of future peace may seem more distant than ever, we should call on all of the key actors in the region to engage with those Palestinian leaders and organizations that recognize Israel’s right to exist to begin articulating a viable pathway for Palestinians to achieve their legitimate aspirations for self-determination — because that is the best and perhaps only way to achieve the lasting peace and security most Israeli and Palestinian families yearn for. Finally, in dealing with what is an extraordinarily complex situation where so many people are in pain and passions are understandably running high, all of us need to do our best to put our best values, rather than our worst fears, on display. That means actively opposing anti-semitism in all its forms, everywhere. It means rejecting efforts to minimize the terrible tragedy that the Israeli people have just endured, as well as the morally-bankrupt suggestion that any cause can somehow justify the deliberate slaughter of innocent people. It means rejecting anti-Muslim, anti-Arab or anti-Palestinian sentiment. It means refusing to lump all Palestinians with Hamas or other terrorist groups. It means guarding against dehumanizing language towards the people of Gaza, or downplaying Palestinian suffering — whether in Gaza or the West Bank — as irrelevant or illegitimate. It means recognizing that Israel has every right to exist; that the Jewish people have claim to a secure homeland where they have ancient historical roots; and that there have been instances in which previous Israeli governments made meaningful efforts to resolve the dispute and provide a path for a two-state solution — efforts that were ultimately rebuffed by the other side. It means acknowledging that Palestinians have also lived in disputed territories for generations; that many of them were not only displaced when Israel was formed but continue to be forcibly displaced by a settler movement that too often has received tacit or explicit support from the Israeli government; that Palestinian leaders who’ve been willing to make concessions for a two-state solution have too often had little to show for their efforts; and that it is possible for people of good will to champion Palestinian rights and oppose certain Israeli government policies in the West Bank and Gaza without being anti-semitic. Perhaps most of all, it means we should choose not to always assume the worst in those with whom we disagree. In an age of constant rancor, trolling and misinformation on social media, at a time when so many politicians and attention seekers see an advantage in shedding heat rather than light, it may be unrealistic to expect respectful dialogue on any issue — much less on an issue with such high stakes and after so much blood has been spilled. But if we care about keeping open the possibility of peace, security and dignity for future generations of Israeli and Palestinian children — as well as for our own children — then it falls upon all of us to at least make the effort to model, in our own words and actions, the kind of world we want them to inherit. Here are links to some useful perspectives and background on the conflict:

20k views lol gg

@Sabth Depends on what you what field you're trying looking at It's a very open-ended question Most western countries are fine I think. I'm biased toward America bc I'm american and work here can be great given you make some right steps

Damn as a brown American i hope I don't have to deal with post 9/11 type racism again

@Leo Gura fuck I hope ur wrong