Jacob Morres

It definietely comes with its issues. But so did the Civil rights movement in the 1960s Malcolm X fought for black power (while Mlk fought for integration) and many people got violent over black rights While some people might take it to the extreme, that didn't take away from the core issue the black people were facing severe injustice at the time Not everyone who is fighting for the movement is like the people you described. I think it might only be a small minority The core of the movement is good, with tons of excesses and a lot of it will work itself out just like the first civil rights movement (imo)

@something_else you're right, but it's still a form of privelege. U can't deny whether you'd rather have money versus its lack of. That's an easy decision, even if having money comes with its own issues I'd rather deal with the issues that come with being rich than being poor 100x over and I know ur ass would pick it too Yeah this

@Tangerinedream i dont think u got my point... i brought up the success example because success (versus having little money) comes with tons of benefits/privelege despite being imperfect and coming with issues. the pros outweigh the cons now i dont think it's so black and white as success/no success because i think the issue is more nuanced. but overall, its definietely skewed towards women i honestly feel like it's like a white person defending himself by saying that white people have issues too and it's not all that great. which is true, but they def have some privelege in a certain area

do u think this is the result of having abundance? i feel like if u get so many people in your dms u can afford to dial it down and get super specific. nothing wrong with that but i think the issue is the skewed nature of it you guys say that well so many of them are weird so it's not that great anyways but i think thats an unfair comparison because as an analogy for some successful people, they deal with the struggle of not knowing who to trust because people can be not genuine and want your money/fame/success. but i do think that is better than the stark opposite. success/money/fame seems to have more privilege than lack of it i may be an idiot but thats my 2c. i want to iterate that despite this phenomena i really dont care. i think with enough built skills the issue becomes a non-issue for anyone

Can you give me some examples of this being the case

@Karmadhi yeah instead of looks i am currently just thinking about the vibe i have with the girl. what do i feel? do i feel good? am i enjoying her precense? is she enjoying mine? do i sense authenticity? is she a good person? does she have good integrity? i'm still refining these questions though so bear with me - @RendHeaven even under the sub communications i think the identity and self-confidence is important. the outer and inner are connected but the inner is half the battle. Like there's a difference between being confident and behaving confident. i also want to stress to avoid the trap of not loving and integrating your own weakness and insecurities. they are all valid and worthy and there is nothing wrong with them. because i think i fell under this and the trap of behaving alpha can sometimes make you deny parts of yourself

almost word for word i have the same issue. i think it is a form of "perfectionism" i'm trying to look into some solutions and get some therapy. mine has become kind of intense there should be tons of articles and resources rergarding this issue though

@Leo Gura how would you compare business versus engineering in terms of difficulty?

I don't thats a fair argument to judge this by. I'm sure he didn't have these judgements before and his success with women wasn't much different

i think a part of becoming attractive is not giving a fuck with being attractive

i think there sometimes is an "absolute truth" ring to his perspective sometimes. but it is not by any means, the "right" perspective. not sure if thats just a me thing tho sometimes his videos miss nuance too imo. like his "you shouldnt watch TV ever". i think that perspective lacks individual context to be true. black and white thinking is a trap hopefully that was clear enough

what is toxic feminity? How are we defining it?

What would be considered misandry? Like what phrases and expressions does it show up as? I'm unsure of what it is and how it manifests in the real world and how I would spot it accurately

FOMO is a fear right? Maybe there are some techniques you could use that you know of that could help work through that fear

i dont have advice but i feel for u lol. i have been on both sides she's definietely marginalizing your opinion though, unconsciously i think because of her conditioned scientific mind. i think maybe you could bring it to her how u feel about it. i dont think you could change her mind but she might be more respectful to your beliefs. she has growing to do this area but maybe you could also assert your values and your feelings while simultaneously exploring the trigger and working through it. your feelings matter bro i do have super scientifically oriented friend but he just kind of "accepts" my beliefs. probs thinks im a little crazy for some things that i do but i dont get a sense of judgement or criticism from him

the way i determine what decisions to make is based off the context at hand. so i dont know exactly what the entire context for you is so i cant give you advice, cuz id be going off very little information that being said, doing anything early is great because you just get more value in the long-run, versus procrastinating or keep it off. it also sort of depends on what you feel is more important to you i think and what you value/need at the moment theoretically i dont see much wrong with doing pickup at a younger age. i would just say to filter it through what you feel is right/important

@LastThursday would you say this applies because i don't think OP is talking about sex

My value system generally wants to avoid taken girls The drama that follows in my experience is ridiculous Not to say all situations are the same though

I think it also has to do with men doing the chasing and women being chased. The dynamic gives women more options than men because it takes much more effort to put yourself out there. It's like a natural abundance versus scarcity. That dynamic that defaults to scarcity I think causes limiting beliefs in men which then causes the problems u relayed I think it can be way more nuanced than what I mentioned ofc but this feels like an important piece

yeah i agree. people are rationalizing bad behavior because they feel it's the right thing to do... fighting injustice with unjust behavior.

I think two questions that might help you here might be: What is the value of loving yourself in a relationship and what would that give to you? And what would happen if I didn't love myself? And what impact would that have in the relationship? When I answer that question for myself, i received some profound answers personally

Love it. Did u write this?

@Preety_India feel like saying something like that is like saying "Men like women who are "7+" on the looks scale." Pretty unnaunced

low social intelligence maybe? it's pretty rude. i've never had a negative response like that from talking to girls before she's also self-weeding herself for you if she talks to you like that

@MatteO22 my fault I vaguely remembered u saying it a few days ago. Ill try to find it