Jacob Morres

awesome tips great post. this could work for men too i think downside is that your options get decreased a lot though?

remember guys to consider that we all engage in low consciousness behavior from time to time so it's best to refrain from insults

i think it might be helpful to craft some yourself that may help with your weaknesses and also help manifest what you want becuase i think affirmations are subject to your needs + desires but personally I like: i manifest a good woman for myself i have great social skills women are naturally into me also some keys to affirmations are believing, feeling, trusting and embodying by taking action. mechanical/mindless or doing it half-assed is very low results

well to be fair i like sex but regarding the context of my post it's not BS. it's rarely ever on my mind

Lol idk I don't care about sex But if I had to dig deep on what being nice to me meant It means emotionally intelligent, empathetic, honest, integrous, non-judgemental and loyal These are non-negotiables for me in a healthy relationship

she just gotta be nice and we gotta flow and feel each other for me idk

@Leo Gura what's so ugly about building self-confidence, social skills and flirting skills? it's as human as it gets imo

i try to let them know it's more me and not them. and iterate to them that they are a good person and it has nothing to do with you. i once said it to a girl , with a really heartfelt response and she seemed to take it well and we remained friends after that. once a girl went absolutely off on me but like i was doing my best to remain kind and integrous. so just keep in mind their responses are somewhat out of your control but you can have some influence

@coca uwot

Why is slut shaming allowed on the forum lmao

Omgg Guys do consider women read these threads. When they see stuff like this consider how they might feel. Let's try to transcend this a little bit, this a very old school idea, at least to me. A women's past has nothing do with her present. Nor is anything wrong with it in the first place, it is social conditioning.. I can relate if it triggers you but do consider how it may effect others

im not an incel dawg nor is my philosophy BS. i can be wrong at times but that doesnt make it bs. also her philosophy isn't like "more than" mine. it's on the same playing field imo

Mark Manson is chill but his philosophy can get sooooo black-white-y. He said he would do that stuff because the shock stuff gets clicks.. Was pretty turned off by that myself but if u resonate that's good

I mean you've definitely bolstered this stereotype lol. Few weeks back I called u out for more nuance and u said. "Well the truth is that women just love alphas, and thsts the fact"

@Mason Riggle is that legit?? I tried to find more info and I couldn't find anything

It definietely comes with its issues. But so did the Civil rights movement in the 1960s Malcolm X fought for black power (while Mlk fought for integration) and many people got violent over black rights While some people might take it to the extreme, that didn't take away from the core issue the black people were facing severe injustice at the time Not everyone who is fighting for the movement is like the people you described. I think it might only be a small minority The core of the movement is good, with tons of excesses and a lot of it will work itself out just like the first civil rights movement (imo)

@something_else you're right, but it's still a form of privelege. U can't deny whether you'd rather have money versus its lack of. That's an easy decision, even if having money comes with its own issues I'd rather deal with the issues that come with being rich than being poor 100x over and I know ur ass would pick it too Yeah this

@Tangerinedream i dont think u got my point... i brought up the success example because success (versus having little money) comes with tons of benefits/privelege despite being imperfect and coming with issues. the pros outweigh the cons now i dont think it's so black and white as success/no success because i think the issue is more nuanced. but overall, its definietely skewed towards women i honestly feel like it's like a white person defending himself by saying that white people have issues too and it's not all that great. which is true, but they def have some privelege in a certain area

do u think this is the result of having abundance? i feel like if u get so many people in your dms u can afford to dial it down and get super specific. nothing wrong with that but i think the issue is the skewed nature of it you guys say that well so many of them are weird so it's not that great anyways but i think thats an unfair comparison because as an analogy for some successful people, they deal with the struggle of not knowing who to trust because people can be not genuine and want your money/fame/success. but i do think that is better than the stark opposite. success/money/fame seems to have more privilege than lack of it i may be an idiot but thats my 2c. i want to iterate that despite this phenomena i really dont care. i think with enough built skills the issue becomes a non-issue for anyone

Can you give me some examples of this being the case

@Karmadhi yeah instead of looks i am currently just thinking about the vibe i have with the girl. what do i feel? do i feel good? am i enjoying her precense? is she enjoying mine? do i sense authenticity? is she a good person? does she have good integrity? i'm still refining these questions though so bear with me - @RendHeaven even under the sub communications i think the identity and self-confidence is important. the outer and inner are connected but the inner is half the battle. Like there's a difference between being confident and behaving confident. i also want to stress to avoid the trap of not loving and integrating your own weakness and insecurities. they are all valid and worthy and there is nothing wrong with them. because i think i fell under this and the trap of behaving alpha can sometimes make you deny parts of yourself

almost word for word i have the same issue. i think it is a form of "perfectionism" i'm trying to look into some solutions and get some therapy. mine has become kind of intense there should be tons of articles and resources rergarding this issue though

@Leo Gura how would you compare business versus engineering in terms of difficulty?

I don't thats a fair argument to judge this by. I'm sure he didn't have these judgements before and his success with women wasn't much different

i think a part of becoming attractive is not giving a fuck with being attractive