Jacob Morres

arent they being selfish for not supporting the grind for your dreams because *they want* to see you more calling someone selfish can sometimes be selfish - when it's proclaiming a judgement for not meeting a certain need of yours (which is your thing)

Idk bro A man who is not ruthless to a woman, will receive ruthless from the woman? Hmm. Yes u must have boundaries and assertiveness but if she's ruthless to you, she's not the right girl.

online dating can be valuable imo. but it requires patience and upfront effort. but after you get good at it you can afford to put in way less effort later

@Javfly33 ik what's it's like but if you optimize your profile and learn detachment you can get decently far with online game - even without much effort

@Nos7algiK never wrestle with a pig bcuz you get dirty too and the pig likes it emerald said she is here to spar and win

@Vzdoh American indian?

@Consilience Idk tbh I think it could be I dont agree with taking your anger out onto people, and I would never recommend it But in the past when I did feel angry at others and I applied love to myself, I have actually been left with the desire to hurt others (I didn't go through with it, because I was conscious enough). I think if he continues to apply self-love he will grow and develop but at the exact stage he is at, that IS the self-love move. With time and more development it will weed itself out. But still I'd encourage and strongly recommend other more conscious ways of coping Idk. Also self-love I don't think, is corresponded to being conscious of others inherently. I think self-love (lowercase) might be a "selfish" act. But sometimes it can show up as what is considered as unselfish as well Just contemplating self-love Open-minded to being delusion lol

The reason I recommended a therapist is I could see you were not being heard/seen by the commenters. That was all.

@Preety_India A beautiful wall of projection

This forum needs a consciousness awakening

@StarStruck I didn't mean it negatively. I just meant in the sense maybe a professional could hold space for you. I think such issues need to be handled with delicate care Youre not alone. And what youre doing and feeling is understandable. But yeah I would really try to refrain and find different strategies in the future (which is what you're doing now) I'm not trained in this but I hope and know u will find the healng you need

i would get a therapist or a life coach man

??? interestingoso never knew this

i support the side that's willing to have conscious, empathetic discussions lmao but these civil rights movements are always so ugly fr. at least it's better than having a war lol

@sholomar Good point. But I do hear from some people that they have a lot of trouble balancing both.

it's literally textbook spiritual bypassing lol it's like saying "well all there is, is the present moment, so don't worry about it" but that's only if that philosophy is truly embodied which takes a lot of work

agree no way. way too spiritual and not practical. human needs like intimacy with others can take years to transcend . this is 'spiritual bypassing'

This Leo himself says that teachings that come from judgement and criticism are not holisitic and will be very narrow and to generally not trust them. It's okay. The only reason I know this is because I've been on both sides of the coin. So I have empathy for it But I def don't think it's an appropriate (or even useful) method generally.

@flowboy yeah p sure it's gaslighting

@Emerald personally it's just too judgemental for me too take it seriously. I would prefer if you offered your opinion and wanted to have conversations. Like the way you talk about people who do pickup, just the wording is sort of insulting. But that's just me Anyway hope you can reconsider your approach. If not, I get it

thanks!! but i remember your comment several months ago of your rant about how some people on the forum were a bunch of weirdos for not being good with women and needing help (paraphrasing). i can pull up the comment if you'd like lmaoooo

@soos_mite_ah lets be fair women harbor bitterness to men all the time. not pitting men against women here but u said that like yall just move on without ever getting bitter lmao

Ya I care way less than I used to as well. It's not that fulfilling. Like it's not even the good stuff of the relationship. The good shit is the depth part of the relationship But then again an analogy I thought was that it could be related to food. At the end of the day the taste of the food matters more I'd presume. But you'd also want food that looks good as well. But taste matters more

Have to agree with @Bando here, I don't feel she was honest about what they did. Looking back to my own rel it was so obvious that they did way more. Problem was I trusted so hard, but theres def a distinction between being trustful and being naive and also justifying/rationalizing certain behaviors by others

I have been in a similar situation Self respect is a huge thing for me now. What would a self respecting decision for you be here? My spidey senses really doesn't like this whole situation. Super triggered by it too. Sorry for that having happened to you. For me it was so rough when it happened. Good luck